The ex, identity theft and fraud.

Leon you are an amazing Dad, you really are great.

It is a shame what your children have gone through, however they have got you now and things can only get better. - You have stuck out for this long, and made improvements and it is an extremely tough situation to be in.

Shame about the money situation, and I hope that clears up too, as going through this through financial difficulties just makes everything harder!

But like you say, your children are the most important and they deserve to have everything. So I give you all my respect, and I wish you all the very best.

You are the best Dad your children can ever ask for, so all you need to do now, is to just keep going, and do it all with a smile on your face. :)
 
Just seen this thread for the first time and read it all; quite a sad story, but amazing end result. Your kids won't forget what you've done for them :)
 
Hadn't seen the update until just now. You really should feel proud because you have managed through what sounds like horrendous times to stay strong and take care of your kids and give them the start in life they deserve to have.

Reading the update brought tears to my eyes as it really made me think about my little boy and I couldn't help but imagine him going through the things your poor kids have gone through. You deserve a lot of respect for what you have done to be the best possible Dad to them!!
 
great effort, great priorities, great restraint, just generally great.

As a fellow father I doth my cap to you sir!

Have a Merry Christmas!
 
Heart-warming Hitman, and I don't doubt your kids, in the long run, will process what has happened to them in their childhood and be all the better for it when they are grown up and parents themselves.

Most definite +1 for MoH.
 
Glad to see there is good news.

Its normal to feel sorry for her.... my ex has married a guy she has known for about a month and even went back to him after he punched her, as much as I do care no way am I helping... she is her own worst enemy and sounds like you're ex is the same. All that will happen if you get dragged down as well.

Ps why is this man not already MoH!? :D
 
I keep on reading the updates, and can I say you make me feel very humble and inadequate compared to what you have been through and what you have done.

+1 for MoH

FlyffySheep
 
You deserve a freaking medal for this! Too often family troubles between the parents leaves the children out in the cold, it's nice to see you sticking by your kids.

Selling your tyke's favorite toy just makes your blood boil for this woman. Take it you now have full custody rights for all your children?
 
OP you're an inspiration to us all, and I like many others here wish you and your kids a fantastic Xmas together because it seriously sounds like you all deserve it

keep on fighting the good fight - its good to know there are people like you in this world
 
I don't have full custody but was told not to initiate proceedings by the social services. They said it would be a waste of money and I should instead wait for the ex to initiate proceedings as then the child protection legal department would pick up the case and the ex will lose. I was told once the legal department back you in court and there are documented child protection issues the opposing party will not get custody. I don't fully trust this standpoint but it gives me time to better prepare for any case and finance a good solicitor in the long run to give me the greatest success in any case that comes up.

If the ex were to take one of the children in the mean time a child protection order would be issued and the ex would be in dire straits. She is not allowed to collect the children from school or any other place without me being present. The only contact she has with them is for all intents fully supervised, her mum is allowed by me to have the children and has responsibility for them when they go to her house. The ex no-longer has a house and lives with her mum so that is the only time the ex gets to spend with the children. Under the care of her mum who has her lid screwed on pretty tight where the kids are concerned. It is rather seldom that they do this however as the ex is hardly at her mums, constantly out getting wasted.

The ex tried a pretty low trick yesterday; when talking on the phone to my youngest daughter she told her to ask me if she could stay Christmas eve so she could spend Christmas morning with them. My reply was absolutely not; when my daughter told her she said to my daughter "that's just daddy not wanting you to have a good Christmas". I simply explained to my daughter that it's not possible and we talked for a while until she was comfortable that it was for the best. Also explained to her that her mum would be allowed to visit Christmas day at any time she chose so she would still see her and I would not stop her coming. All I ask when she arrives is that she is sober and functioning, polite and with her mum. As she is not allowed in my house normally she has to come with a 3rd party (her mum) and she will be under the watchful eye of my cctv system. This will stop any lies being told by her and so cover my back from any kind of accusations, she made so many before I will not leave myself open to that kind of manipulation of a situation again.

I am humbled by all the comments; I am after all just being a dad, doing what I wanted to do all along. I feel the social services system is biased against males or has been in my case. They simply would not listen to anything I told them for so long, I do know they have to make their own enquiries but it seems half hearted and so slow. On the other hand I have seen cases where the complainant was female and there was very little happening compared to my case but the children were removed from their dad in a matter of days.



Christmas will be good this year, I will make it so!
 
Your a good bloke mate, I'd man hug you if you were here with me.

But considering I'm sitting tilled in a hotel at the mo that might be a little creepy.... :p

In all seriousness though good work son, all the best.
 
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This thread fills me with both dejection about human nature and at the same time fills me with hope about human nature.

You are an inspiration Hitman_leon...you are giving your children the best example of what a person should be and I hope you have a great Christmas despite the difficult circumstances.
 
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