The ex, identity theft and fraud.

I just got rid of my ex recently (she has significant debt, I have no debt!). Luckily we were not financially linked in anyway shape or form, nor married but she did try and beg me for cash etc, and even try to claim she could take some of my equity.

Clean break for the win!!
 
Hitman_Leon said:
Because of the kids and the fact that her being addicted to and using drugs upsets them the best outcome I could hope for is that she at least becomes a clean and drug free person. That is regardless of where the children live, they need a mum and dad. As for residence its not an issue at the moment as she has no choice in where the children live due to child protection issues.
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You sir, have every ounce of my respect, but.......the bit in bold, so NOT TRUE.
NO CHILD needs a mother like the one they have, she has no right to call herslef 'mother or mum'.
I'd push to say she has no right breathing.

She is an unneeded blemish on you and your family. You have acted admirably and selflessly whilst maintaining dignity, all throughout...and with your own condition to cope with too?.

I truly hope that this woman doesn NOT get a 2nd chance, it seems to me like she blew that and 3rd, 4th and 5th chances too. She absolutely cannot be trusted and your kids will be much better off without her in their lives.
You know SS will try and rehab her, but do you really think it's worth the risk? They ****** you over before, i just wouldn't risk it.
You have earned the right to be a little selfish for the sake of your kids, they DO NOT NEED that excuse for a human being messing their lives up again.

If i were religious i'd pray that she simply disappears off the face of the earth....and you and your kids live a happy, long and prosperous life.

Sorry for the rant, but i'd fear that should you allow it, some of these institutions will let you down again. And i hate your ex for what she has done to you and yours.

Rant over, my apologies. :(
 
I hate the fact this can even happen, let alone how ridiculous the process is of sporting it when its so black and white.
 
Long overdue update, so busy with being a single dad I never get around to sitting down and typing.

At a meeting with social services at the end of May the ex signed parental responsibility over to me for my youngest daughter, she now has no right to just take her. Now with my youngest daughter and my youngest son if the ex tries to take them child protection and the police will fall on her like a hammer.

On Tuesday my oldest son 13 was removed from his mum by child protection and placed in my care. He had refused to come and stay with me because his mum let him do what ever he wanted. The previous weekend he lost the last two possessions he valued. His we-the-people bmx was stolen even though he locked it in the house before he went out, his mum loaned it to one of her 'friends' and it was never returned. the day after the same 'friend' of his mum's smashed his phone. He was brought to me by the police for his own safety because of his mums shenanigans.

He now sees past his mums garbage and im trying my best to get him straightened out with his schooling which had suffered due to his home life at his mums house.

The ex carries on with her downward spiral; missing drugs testing and counselling sessions. Associating with miscreants and generally being a waste of air. After my son was taken from her on Tuesday she was forced to give up her housing association house for and encyclopaedia of reasons. The police have been regular visitors to her and only two weeks ago I had received a call from social services to inform me that my two youngest children were now prohibited for their own safety from being allowed to be taken to their mums house (they were previously allowed to visit during day time). The issues cited were obvious heavy drug use (I always knew this but these social service idiots never listened); 2 missing teenagers being found at the address and various criminal and antisocial complaints being made against her.

My youngest two are doing great, my 3 yo son has just started private nursery 3 days a week and has his place secured to start nursery properly in September. My daughter just had the best 10th birthday I could giver her and had a wonderful time (despite her mum not even giving her a card!-to save her feelings I put mum and dad on everything including the card I got her, she did actually see through that gesture but said she thought more of me for it), she is making strides of progress in her schooling now she has a stable home.

Vanquis finally accepted that the debt for the card was not mine but the still have not taken it from my credit record.

I'm worn out; having muscular dystrophy and being a single dad is not picnic but im trying my hardest.
 
Hitman_Leon said:
Long overdue update, so busy with being a single dad I never get around to sitting down and typing.

At a meeting with social services at the end of May the ex signed parental responsibility over to me for my youngest daughter, she now has no right to just take her. Now with my youngest daughter and my youngest son if the ex tries to take them child protection and the police will fall on her like a hammer.

On Tuesday my oldest son 13 was removed from his mum by child protection and placed in my care. He had refused to come and stay with me because his mum let him do what ever he wanted. The previous weekend he lost the last two possessions he valued. His we-the-people bmx was stolen even though he locked it in the house before he went out, his mum loaned it to one of her 'friends' and it was never returned. the day after the same 'friend' of his mum's smashed his phone. He was brought to me by the police for his own safety because of his mums shenanigans.

He now sees past his mums garbage and im trying my best to get him straightened out with his schooling which had suffered due to his home life at his mums house.

The ex carries on with her downward spiral; missing drugs testing and counselling sessions. Associating with miscreants and generally being a waste of air. After my son was taken from her on Tuesday she was forced to give up her housing association house for and encyclopaedia of reasons. The police have been regular visitors to her and only two weeks ago I had received a call from social services to inform me that my two youngest children were now prohibited for their own safety from being allowed to be taken to their mums house (they were previously allowed to visit during day time). The issues cited were obvious heavy drug use (I always knew this but these social service idiots never listened); 2 missing teenagers being found at the address and various criminal and antisocial complaints being made against her.

My youngest two are doing great, my 3 yo son has just started private nursery 3 days a week and has his place secured to start nursery properly in September. My daughter just had the best 10th birthday I could giver her and had a wonderful time (despite her mum not even giving her a card!-to save her feelings I put mum and dad on everything including the card I got her, she did actually see through that gesture but said she thought more of me for it), she is making strides of progress in her schooling now she has a stable home.

Vanquis finally accepted that the debt for the card was not mine but the still have not taken it from my credit record.

I'm worn out; having muscular dystrophy and being a single dad is not picnic but im trying my hardest.
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Sounds like you're a better human being than ever could be. Good man stand proud theres light at the end of the tunnel it seems. :D
 
Hitman I have nothing but the upper most respect for you and what you are doing for your kids.... I'm currently fighting my psychotic **** of an ex for custody as I don't believe my children are safe with her and she isn't in the same league as yours by the sounds of things....

It gives me hope though that things can work out all right for us Dads who really care and want to be there for our kids! Good luck mate and keep doing what your doing! :)
 
Lovely to hear such a positive update. Even if you are worn out by it all. I have no doubt the children will thrive under your full time care. Well done. :)
 
Rroff said:
AFAIK but I'm not a lawyer its 6 years since they last attempted to chase the debt, so even if they didn't manage to get hold of you if they've used the courts to try and chase it up during that 6 years it would prevent you having it statute barred. Also if they have evidence of you admitting to the debt i.e. previous repayment agreements then often you can't get it statute barred.

The law isn't there to let people run out on debts.
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Wrong it's six years from the last time he acknowledged the debt by payment or in writing, you can run out a debt by ignoring it for six years, if they don't bother with a CCJ but your Credit file will be ruined for six years as well
 
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