The ex, identity theft and fraud.

robskinner said:
Good news, and sounds like very good news for your kids.

Whilst I am sure I will come in for some flak for this comment, this is to my mind exactly why drugs need to remain illegal. The spiral they can cause is evident here, and the impact is on some minors who have no way of dealing with the situation. I can only imagine this situation being multiplied should the drug side of what shes been upto being legal, sure the fraud would remain illegal but the illegality of drugs I am certain stops some people starting and hence entering the downward spiral evident here.
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Or if they were legal maybe the user in this case wouldn't have felt too stigmatised to get help? The legal status of drugs has very little bearing on how many people have access to them that want them.

/derail

Excellent news for you OP :)
 
You have to wonder just what the boys have seen or experienced whilst in her care. Its not unknown for deadbeat druggies to force their children to have a try to get them addicted too. That way, they have someone to steal and to get supplies for.
 
Hitman_Leon said:
She was arrested at 10am this morning; the police failed to give me the heads up to pick up my children and my two sons were there. I had them picked up quick as I could because I was unable to get there myself at such short notice. They did not want me picking the children up before they got there because she might have thought something was happening. Me taking a day off and having them on a different day might have set alarm bells off in her mind and she could have got rid of evidence.

They searched the house and found what the PC handling things said was a lot of evidence. This was documents and other things relating to the frauds she has been part of. A social worker called at the house while the police were searching and checked the house to pick some things up for the kids. When she came to see me she told me she dose not want the kids going back to that house until my ex makes a lots of progress, if ever.

I was called at 10-30pm by the police; she had been processed and interviewed, she has admitted the offences she did in my name and will be appearing in magistrates court on the 14th of February (see the irony! valentines court date for them ex).
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Good news :)

On to more important things, will you still have contact with the kids while they are in care?
 
Hitman_Leon said:
She was arrested at 10am this morning; the police failed to give me the heads up to pick up my children and my two sons were there. I had them picked up quick as I could because I was unable to get there myself at such short notice. They did not want me picking the children up before they got there because she might have thought something was happening. Me taking a day off and having them on a different day might have set alarm bells off in her mind and she could have got rid of evidence.

They searched the house and found what the PC handling things said was a lot of evidence. This was documents and other things relating to the frauds she has been part of. A social worker called at the house while the police were searching and checked the house to pick some things up for the kids. When she came to see me she told me she dose not want the kids going back to that house until my ex makes a lots of progress, if ever.

I was called at 10-30pm by the police; she had been processed and interviewed, she has admitted the offences she did in my name and will be appearing in magistrates court on the 14th of February (see the irony! valentines court date for them ex).
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/cheer.

Good luck OP. nice to see the SS (see what I did there?!?!!??!?) coming round as well.
 
Very positive news. Take all the advice and help you can get to make a new start for the kids. No child deserves this kind of **** in their life.

Best of luck :)
 
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Cupra said:
I was recently took to court for a ccj for a debt thats not mine.
I still have not paid a penny and I am still fighting it.
This was from years ago too so good luck.
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I had this happen to me, two CCJ defaults in my name which when I found out I contested and had squashed...you need to be able to prove that you were not the guilty party and that you could not have been the responsible for the debt. I was lucky insofar that I was posted abroad at the time these debts were accumulated and had plenty of evidence to support my claim. They were wiped from my record and that was it.

It turned out it was a member of my family that used my identity to gain two loans and then default thinking I might not ever know or might not come home. Nice!!!
 
The two youngest are still with me with no future date even being considered by social services for them to even have an overnight visit with their mum.

The court date changed from the 14th of February to the 18th; she appeared at magistrates and pleaded guilty, she was sentenced to a 12 month conditional discharge. She passed the urine drug test taken late the night she was arrested so further testing by the police was cancelled by the court (she had been told she would be arrested if she gave positive tests to the police).

This all gave her an ego trip thinking she had gotten away with everything and would have the kids back right-away. The way she saw it was she had been more or less found innocent, she did of course forget she had broken down at a meeting with social workers and admitted everything to them.

She has to go to turning point and submit regular blood tests to check for drug use, so far she has failed. She was told by social services to stop associating with certain individuals and having them at the house, this too she has failed at. She continues to lie to the social workers and they now check everything she tells them which combined with everything else just makes her case for the children useless.

Kids are doing fantastic; my youngest daughter age 9 has improved beyond expectation in school and attitude. My youngest son is doing fantastic; he's been hard work and will not be separated from me for a minute but he's doing great.

At at a meeting with social workers I was praised for how well the kids are doing, apparently they have not seen two children do so well in such a short time. My retort was "I'm just being a dad, why did you not let me do this earlier?" they changed the subject........

It's not easy with the kids being upset still over their mum but it's getting there, ive dropped all work and other commitments over the past weeks to just spend time with them. Just looking to get childcare arranged for the youngest and ease him into it so I can get back into my routine.

02 seemed fantastic about the fraud case, they actually text me the day after the ex's court date and said thanks for informing them and all action against me would now cease.

Vanquis; what a set of scum-bags, even after being sent a letter I was sent by the court showing my ex admitted to the fraud they still pursue me for the money. I repeatedly phone them and write to them and they take no notice, ombudsman time I think.
 
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/cheer Hitman.

A genuinely heart warming story and a great thread, having kids of my own I'm really happy for you OP and I hope things continue to go from strength to strength.

All the best mate, and for once on ocuk I actually mean that.
 
Really glad that everything worked out for you!

I was reading your first couple of posts and seen them dated January. I was hoping for an amazing update on the situation and was not disappointed.
 
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