The key to finding what makes you happy?

I dont think there is a key to being happy, i think it all depends on your current circumstances. I can say for one that just finding a job you like can help, but only so much. I really like my job, id never leave it but my personal life really sucks hard. At the moment im finding loneliness absolutely crippling, that and my iffy health. Sure i have my hobbies that cheer me up and pass the time like gaming, movies and playing guitar but there comes times when that just isnt enough. Ever since moving out to my own place i spend pretty much every night and weekend alone and i can honestly say its horrible sometimes. If my girlfriend hadnt left me last year we'd be sharing my apartment together now and that would have been really cool, i could have said that yes, i would have been happy. So i guess having a partner there for you, to share your life and time with can sometimes make all the difference, i dont think anyone out there can ever be happy being alone.

Christmas really sucked :mad:
 
Happiness is a warm gun. It's all about the Pentiums.


Right. As some people have said happiness is a state of mind and like all state of minds can be controlled to some extent by the conscious mind. Although external factors (money, job, etc) can help or hinder they are not the key to happiness.

I'm happy but for many, many years I was not. The journey from there to here wasn't easy.
 
The Halk said:
For me it's having my own space, working as short hours as a full time job goes, being financially secure, seeing my family often, and having a partner that's away most of the time. The word loner has a lot of negatives around it, but it's probably what I am. I enjoy company, but I do like not having to answer to anyone often.

It's different for everybody, but don't just go with what society tells you. I was in (different) relationships from when I was 16 until I was 21 before I realised I hated it. Now I have a much more casual relationship.

Self discipline is a key thing too, actually doing what you want to do rather than vegetating in front of the TV from apathy.
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your a terrorist iam going to get the US and UK gov to red flag you.
 
btw just to make you more happy, in 50 years time eveyone you see while you walk down the street will not exist, your going to die and there is nothing anyone can do about it for a good long while.

And before you die god has made it even worse your going too age and lose your mobility as punishment, then youll die.
 
Anyone can have a multitide of wealth, great family, friends, amazing career and still be depressed/unhappy.

Personally, I think it is all about attitude and the way you see things around you. Some people are far too quickly caught up in all the little and quite frankly pointless things that go on in life.

Try to slowly teach yourself to react and think differently to situations. It's too easy to take the negative, pessimistic way of thinking. Just try and find one positive in a bad situation and build on it. Never had problems of being too unhappy as I am extremely laid back in life, perhaps you should give it a go!
 
I didnt figure it out till I hit rock bottom. Literally almost had a mental breakdown. Since that day I have never been happier. :D
 
Make lots of money.

Then you can work less and enjoy your life.

Whatever you enjoy becomes rubbish if you have to do it all the time.
 
Money gives you freedom. Freedom gives you happiness.

I'm not saying you need to be rich.

I'm saying you need to waste as little time as possible at work.

Ie, working 2 days for good money, the rest of the time pursuing fun.

Or 3 months of work then six months holiday.
 
Maybe some people enjoy the work they do?

You seem to think there is a general train of thought/solution for everyone; it's not that simple sadly.
 
Nobody actually enjoys their job from what I've seen - but maybe it is out there somewhere.

Chances are you won't find it though.

And obviously one can only offer opinions, as this isn't a mathematical equation we're talking about.
 
I know several people who enjoy their jobs/careers. I wasn't knocking your advice btw :) for some people it'll work no doubt.
 
Remember the physiological aspect of feeling happy. Having the right diet and taking regular exercise makes a massive difference to your sense of wellbeing.

It sounds like you're in a rut. Examine everything you'd like to change, and set a plan of action towards achieving these. Career wise, play to your strengths and consider the day to day aspect of any job you might like, as this is obviously important.
 
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