Is part of the dilemma the moral question of staying with her? Because if you split up, all of these issues would vanish. So is part of the problem an ethical dilemma about what's best for you [s.] versus what's best for you [pl.]?
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Is part of the dilemma the moral question of staying with her? Because if you split up, all of these issues would vanish. So is part of the problem an ethical dilemma about what's best for you [s.] versus what's best for you [pl.]?
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Yer I agree, don't make any hasty decisions, but you can't spend your life being Florence nightingale, while looking after your self.
I genuinely feel sorry for your situation
Much love x
I genuinely feel sorry for your situation
Much love x
It also depends on how far it gets. If @413x just ends up effectively being her carer, and if she really loves him - like actually loves him - she'll let him go. She will still get all the care and support she needs from elsewhere.
This is a very tough situation emotionally, but keep talking about it, @413x and don't clam up. I think this is particularly important for you since I know you are someone who values personal freedom and this situation is a serious threat to that.
Caporegime
Saviour complex is a real thing. It sounds awful but you can't stay with someone if you know the rest of your existence is going to be monotonous misery. If roles were reversed, I wouldn't expect my partner to effectively be my carer from a young age.
I did reply to your email. I'm not too bad.
I've been prescribed some sleeping tablets which have helped.
Soldato
Ahhh my bad bud I didn't come across it.. Glad your doing well, hopefully those tablets will do a good job for you
Soldato
Atleast the sleep will make you feel slightly better bud, it will take a while but you'll get there
Thanks all.
I don't think someone can ever know it until they know it.
My step dad is incredibly mentally resilient but he's struggling with my mum.
It is a horrible situation. It's no one's fault. But yes. The relationship isn't what it was. It's hard as I love her. But I'm not cut out to be a carer. Heck, I never wanted kids because I know that. Thank goodness we don't have any.
If roles were reversed she'd be gone. Because I would be so miserable she wouldn't want to be around me. I admire how resilient she's been.
It's not there yet. It may never be. I still have hope. But it's not getting better that's for sure.
Apparently this thing is completely random. It might even be something else. But if it gets worse?
I felt incredibly guilty saying to her I'm planning on going on an adventure sports holiday in September. She was sad but understood. I just wish she could come.
I don't think someone can ever know it until they know it.
My step dad is incredibly mentally resilient but he's struggling with my mum.
It is a horrible situation. It's no one's fault. But yes. The relationship isn't what it was. It's hard as I love her. But I'm not cut out to be a carer. Heck, I never wanted kids because I know that. Thank goodness we don't have any.
If roles were reversed she'd be gone. Because I would be so miserable she wouldn't want to be around me. I admire how resilient she's been.
It's not there yet. It may never be. I still have hope. But it's not getting better that's for sure.
Apparently this thing is completely random. It might even be something else. But if it gets worse?
I felt incredibly guilty saying to her I'm planning on going on an adventure sports holiday in September. She was sad but understood. I just wish she could come.
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Long time reader to this thread.
Has anyone heard of Alpha-Stim? I’ve been using this for the past month or so and it’s working wonders. Give it a Google - the NHS is currently trialing it as an alternative to medication.
Also there’s a gut/brain connection and lots of studies on-going re how a good probiotics could help with forms of depression and anxiety. Have a look at Bio-Kult. It was featured on a recent TV show called The Truth about Mental Health - you will find this in catch up.
My brother started experiencing extreme anxiety over the last year which was impacting his sleep and nervous system, I recommended that he tried Bimuno and it’s helped him to no end to the point where he’s laughing and back to his usual self - again, it works by feeding the good bacteria. Explains why people with anxiety tend to have IBS related issues too.
Has anyone heard of Alpha-Stim? I’ve been using this for the past month or so and it’s working wonders. Give it a Google - the NHS is currently trialing it as an alternative to medication.
Also there’s a gut/brain connection and lots of studies on-going re how a good probiotics could help with forms of depression and anxiety. Have a look at Bio-Kult. It was featured on a recent TV show called The Truth about Mental Health - you will find this in catch up.
My brother started experiencing extreme anxiety over the last year which was impacting his sleep and nervous system, I recommended that he tried Bimuno and it’s helped him to no end to the point where he’s laughing and back to his usual self - again, it works by feeding the good bacteria. Explains why people with anxiety tend to have IBS related issues too.
I'm going to give this a go as I just have no motivation to do anything at the moment - everything's a struggle unless I have a set deadline. My sleep pattern is awful.
Will report back.
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Good. For my brother it worked wonders.
Have a look at some of their reviews:
https://www.trustpilot.com/review/bimuno.com?aspects=health Filtered on health but try to filter on the sleep reviews. You’ll be surprised at just how well it works for lots of people.
I think they even offer a free trial.
Earlier this week I was put on a ketamine infusion programme for depression and within a few hours there was a dramatic antidepressant effect, even now days after having it done I'm feeling pretty good. Had to pay for it because the NHS won't cover it 
but it was well worth it. I'm hoping the good results continue.
but it was well worth it. I'm hoping the good results continue.Earlier this week I was put on a ketamine infusion programme for depression and within a few hours there was a dramatic antidepressant effect, even now days after having it done I'm feeling pretty good. Had to pay for it because the NHS won't cover it
That's strong stuff right? Been through all the NHS ones?
It's a powerful drug but they give a low dose for depression so I don't get dissociative side effects like you would when used for anaesthesia, I can definitely tell I've been given something but after an hour of observation I'm back on my feet and safe for discharge, absolutely not allowed to drive though after it.
I'd tried basically all the antidepressants at the max dose, sertraline, mirtazapine + citalopram, mirtazapine + venlafaxine, reboxetine, tranylcypromine and phenelzine and they just didn't seem to have any noticeable effect one way or the other, the only other treatment option on the NHS was ECT but the side effects of that are far worse than ketamine!
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^ Have you tried 5htp?
Yeah can't believe the NHS didn't approve the the ketamine nasal spray. I have tried every single antidepressant going and I still struggle and now I'm dealing with benzo addiction.
Hoping to get off everything as soon as possible because nothing has worked so what's the point.
I'm going to have to accept I'm anxious and suffer from depression and there's nothing anyone can do.
Anybody thinking of taking benzodiazepines please don't it's not worth it at all trust me I'm in so much pain it's unreal.
Hoping to get off everything as soon as possible because nothing has worked so what's the point.
I'm going to have to accept I'm anxious and suffer from depression and there's nothing anyone can do.
Anybody thinking of taking benzodiazepines please don't it's not worth it at all trust me I'm in so much pain it's unreal.
No I haven't because there's a theoretical risk for serotonin syndrome when taking it with antidepressants. But if this treatment keeps working I won't need anything else hopefully.
Have you asked for a referral to a ketamine clinic?
As far as benzodiazepines are concerned, there's a huge variation between how people respond to them, I was taking them everyday for 18 months because of panic attacks and came off them straight away with no withdrawal. I'm still prescribed them now a couple of times a week and they are lifesaving as they will take me from a severe anxiety state to feeling calm in an hour.
Caporegime
Jesus, going through withdrawal for each of those must've been horrendous.