The OCUK anonymous confession thread!

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I'm in love with my best friend, we spend nearly every day together, I told her once how I felt and it ruined things, it took a year to get things back to normal. Now I lie to her every day. I watch her with other guys and it kills me inside. We kiss sometimes, always whilst drunk. We don't talk about it after. I know it doesn't mean anything to her but to me it means the world. We've slept together too, probably about 50 times. We both love each other, but in different ways. I can't carry on with the lying to her so I've started looking for jobs which require me to move. The only way I can get over her is to forceably not see her.
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I feel for you matey I was in a similar situation a number of years ago in the end I landed up engineering a massive argument with the girl in question so we didn't speak for months (about 12!) now we exchange christmas and Birthday messages and life is much more normal.
 
I kinda know how he feels too... I live with my ex who's now just a best friend but in a similar way to his.

my advice: find someone new, don't just run away from it all.
 
About 3 years ago i found out my wife was having an affair with another man. At the time I had a couple of dodgy mates who "knew people". After several meetings, i paid somebody £500 to break both his legs and make sure he was in a wheel chair for a long time. I wanted to make it look like a random attack on the streets and not be associated with it. Just before it was due to happen, I came to my senses and realised if I got caught, i'd probably spend quite a while in prison and destroy the rest of my life as well as never see my kids. Instead, we went to marriage counselling and sorted out our problems. My wife still doesn't know that her other man was about 2 hrs away from having his legs broken. I sometimes still wish i'd gone ahead with it.
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I really need to break up with my gf. I feel we've got to the point where we're just going out with each other out of habit. I know that we have to
split up soon because I can't give her what she wants in the long term. It'll be very difficult for both of us but I think it's something I have to
do.

What makes it harder is there's this other girl who keeps telling me in no uncertain terms how desperate she is to have sex with me :)
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Added some rules

"Remember this is a family forum so anything really sordid, explicit, targeted against other forum members, or majorly criminal wont be posted as it would get removed by the admins anyway."

Getting quite a few that seriously can't be posted because they'd be removed pretty quickly.
 
My dad got married about 2 years ago......

to another man.

I have never met this other man but don't know whether I am expected to call him dad or not !

Or maybe Dad A and Dad B. :)

I'm 35 years old and haven't told my wife or children yet.

My Dad has said he got married for tax reasons but I'm not so sure.....
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Dilemma!

I'm with my gf, and things have been really up and down. I do love her, but sometimes the silliest things can cause to throw complete strops, with often being very snippy and sarcy with me. When it eventually blows over, she never apologises for what she may have said.

Other times things are amazing, we laugh, have so much fun, just click incredibly, it's such a stark contrast to the moody times.

She has self-confidence issues, and even though I have been reassuring her of her beauty for well over a year, she still thinks she is ugly. She even stresses about having put on weight (she's a size 8/10), trying to eat healthier and go to the gym, but her day to day life sees her being very lazy, often she can't be bothered to go downstairs to fix herself a glass of squash. I try to tell her that by not doing very much in terms of day to day movement, her base metabolic rate will be lower, and she isn't burning as many calories as she could, which could be the reason why she feels that all the effort she puts in at the gym isn't doing anything.

Now I'm a very positive, happy-go-lucky kind of guys, always there to help people if needed, never one to be moody or upset for no reason, and very logical and in control of my emotions. Having to keep her balanced though is so draining, I've started to become fatigued mentally when I have to put in massive amounts of reassurance over something that is essentially inconsequential in the grand scheme of things.

No way do I want to lose her, I have never met anyone I have so many connections with, but all that seems to come along with a yin-yang aspect of her negative self-view. :(
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I found out a couple of months ago that my partner of several years has kissed several other people while with me. Obviously I'm suspicious that they've done more and it's killing me inside. We discussed it, and they're sorry and trying to make it up to me, but I feel desperately unattractive compared to some of the others and I never feel like sex anymore. It's really hurting our relationship, but it would be difficult to break up as we share our house with a group of friends and have bought a lot of stuff together, we also have holidays booked for this summer. Seems like a stupid reason not to break up, but I don't want to hurt other people as well as myself and my partner. I'm also really attracted to one of our mutual friends. This looks so bad in writing...
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Vanilla said:
I didn't go to my grandfathers funeral because I wanted to stay home and play computer games. I told my parents I was too shook up over it to deal with going, and they bought it. They were even all concerned for me. To be honest I never really liked him or knew him well.

I feel like I should feel worse about it than I do.
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i felt the same whne my mums dad died, i felt he turned on me as i became a shi$t of a teenager
 
Vanilla said:
I found out a couple of months ago that my partner of several years has kissed
several other people while with me. Obviously I'm suspicious that they've done
more and it's killing me inside. We discussed it, and they're sorry and trying
to make it up to me, but I feel desperately unattractive compared to some of
the others and I never feel like sex anymore. It's really hurting our
relationship, but it would be difficult to break up as we share our house with
a group of friends and have bought a lot of stuff together, we also have
holidays booked for this summer. Seems like a stupid reason not to break up,
but I don't want to hurt other people as well as myself and my partner.
I'm also really attracted to one of our mutual friends.
This looks so bad in writing ...
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the things you have mentioned are no reason to stay with someone - forget about them and work out if you want to be with that person - make your choice from there and deal with the fall out as and when it comes
 
<snip> leg-breaking stuff
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Quality confession, well done for having the nerve to post it. Oh, and for not going through with it, I guess... :p

PS. funny how people quote things as if Vanilla actually said them. I'm betting first poster to explicitly mistake them for Vanilla's own confessions to rear their uncomprehending head within the next 20 posts! :D
 
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I really need to break up with my gf. I feel we've got to the point where
we're just going out with each other out of habit. I know that we have to
split up soon because I can't give her what she wants in the long term.
It'll be very difficult for both of us but I think it's something I have to
do.

What makes it harder is there's this other girl who keeps telling me in no
uncertain terms how desperate she is to have sex with me
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If i were you tell her how you feel. Its only a matter of time before she starts seeing your best mate. Happened to me and im still fuming about that fact my so called best mate hasnt even had the balls to speak to me (happened in january)and has lied to people about it saying i didnt mind and crap like that. Luckily I have other friendship groups i can trust. A year and a half with someone i thought i could trust the most and it all went down the ****er. End it now while its on a good note if i were you.

Just say theres nothing else left in it and theres no point being together for the sake of it.
 
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