The $6m Dan said:
Peronally I think the best tactic against the better players, is to be friendly.
Talk to them nicely and use your charm. The worst that can happen is nothing - no differnece. if it works out well you may have a powerful ally b
Indeed - That has worked really well for me, and I have gained quite a few tips etc from them too.
Even the guy who didn't speak to me much advised that I wouldn't be a target for him for about 2~3 weeks.

And EVERYONE reminds you to Fleetsave.
I'm thinking of just setting my main fleet on deploy missions to the colonies, as raiding from my main planet has almost stopped.
(Sometimes takes 7 hours for a raid I have to go so far out)
Also, made a NAP with a few due to talking, and one member of TURKS advised me that if anyone from TURKS was about to attack me, just say that I was his mate and the attack SHOULD be called off.

Sweeeeeet.
And davew - I would start raiding... You should have a high enough mine level to research SC's and esp tech fairly quickly... Get a few probes and cargo's and start hunting the inactives.
The quickest way to progress IMHO is raiding. (And accoring to #60 or so in Uni3)
It will give you FAR more than your mines too.
And having more than one planet...
fRostiE has kept himself to 3 planets - And if it was not for a few attacks (bad luck... /sniff...

) then he would be equal NP's... He'll even have nanites shortly!

(Looong way off for me)
But I've colonised many planets.
OK, the main planet isn't progressing as quickly, but my 2nd raiding colony is doing very well compared to main planet.
(Will soon catch up)
And you can raid from 2 or 3 planets instead of just one - Increasing your "safe" attack area. (Read - Raiding inactives!)