The Rise of Lonely Single Straight Men

fez said:
Its a quite obvious culmination of a number of factors:

1. Women being free to choose whatever lives they want.
2. No real social stigma at being single past X age.
3. Able to have children later/IVF.
4. Society pushing the narrative that men are bad and women are the great (obviously both are rubbish compared to trans people who are the best).
5. Its very easy to amuse yourself as a singleton now in millions of ways.
6. People have much more active social lives despite family/etc so you are no longer an outcast as the singleton/no kids.
7. As a man you can live a fine existence of porn, computer games and GoT re-watches ad-infinitum.
8. Social media sells people a completely unrealistic expectation for life and happiness.
9. People are living at home and relying on parents much longer than ever.
10. People are far less mature than ever and think that maturity is ****-posting on twitter on *insert social justice topic de jour*

Its a mess but no one wants to put their head up and say anything about these things because they will have it cut off for suggesting that modern life isn't all its cracked up to be and perhaps in some ways, old fashioned views weren't as awful as some would like you to think.

Yes much has changed for the better but people aren't happier for it in a lot of cases.
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Great post, spot on with lots of these, I personally have never really seen the point of social media, don't see why people need it so much to live these days and spend so many hours on it, like they can't do anything without posting about it and admiring what others are doing all the time, and all the obsessing with these so called perfect people living these amazing lifes that these people end up paying by being so interest in them and funding their perfect life, its all very bizarre to me.
 
Chillr said:
Great post, spot on with lots of these, I personally have never really seen the point of into social media, don't see why people need it so much to live these days and spend so many hours on it, like they can't do anything without posting about it and admiring what others are doing all the time, and all the obsessing with these so called perfect people living these amazing lifes that these people end up paying by being so interest in them and funding their perfect life, its all very bizarre to me.
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Yea, that’s what I heard often. Talk talk talk online and then nothing. My view was speak to them on the phone if they sound none stabby or money focused and from that you can tell who’s worthy of a lunch/dinner. Came across a few head the ballers but all I met were decent ladies.
 
Chillr said:
Great post, spot on with lots of these, I personally have never really seen the point of social media, don't see why people need it so much to live these days and spend so many hours on it, like they can't do anything without posting about it and admiring what others are doing all the time, and all the obsessing with these so called perfect people living these amazing lifes that these people end up paying by being so interest in them and funding their perfect life, its all very bizarre to me.
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I think being in lockdown for nearly 2 years just enforced peoples need for social media. Now its impossible to come back from.
 
SPG said:
Bang on about the nails. Unless of course she has a Russian accent and therefore minted or with connections. Either way best avoided.


Duck lips
Nails
Huge fake boobs
Small dogs
The colour pink
Any clothing item that says boutique.
Long hair.
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Are you gay?! The long hair thing is a bit much
 
arknor said:
anyone without a pet beaver... bring back the 70s
can't stand tattoos either it just shows the childish mentality of scribbling on your body for attention.
Minimal makeup always looks better.... how did this clown face syndrome come about.
anyone who fake tans too... not looking after you when you get skin cancer so no thanks
over size 12? time for a diet

should also add anyone on social media that uses it for anything other than keeping in touch with their family members.
anyone who watches utter crap on TV like strictly, love island or any of that celebrity obsessed nonsense
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Yeah exactly what I say when I see them, the clown face lol, not sure quite how this is seen as a good look, also when did it become a thing to cake as much mascara and make your eyes as black as can be, drawing on eye brows too, don't get how this caught on and become a thing after the first person tried it a posted about it, why would anyone else think oh that looks good I'll try it.

Makes you wonder if makeup companies somehow hypnotise women into thinking they need as much of the stuff on to look good, I feel sorry for lots as they might be suffering confidence issues, most women look fine with none to natural minimal makeup in my eyes, sure to cover a blemish maybe but other than that I don't really think its needed at all.

Yeah most of this reality tv is now changing society and not for the better if you ask me, its all the me me me attitude and how many followers I have makes me better than you, struggle to fathom out to why it is so popular and why anyone gives a shi*e of how many followers this people have.
 
Ahleckz said:
I was always very successful on dating apps, and when single would have multiple dates a week if I wanted. The secret? Invite them out on a date within the first two or three messages. I’ve spoken to many girls about this and they all say most men try and chat to them on the apps and it’s just rubbish. They have fifteen people having the same chat, “how was work?” “Here’s a funny meme” “oh I’m so lonely”. Whereas a few people like me would be asking them out, that night, for a drink. And you know what, most said yes. Those that didn’t, I moved along.

It was a numbers game, sure, but don’t try and get a connection online. The connection is got through chatting in the pub. This idea people don’t know how to have a conversation is true, they don’t. Because they don’t try and have one in real life.
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Omg anyone that says "it's a numbers game" needs to take dating a little more seriously :D
 
azazl187 said:
Omg anyone that says "it's a numbers game" needs to take dating a little more seriously :D
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It's a numbers game :p

Most the women now that are young and think they are hotter than they are with impossible standards based on their own actual value are going to be in for a shock.
The older guys who were ignored won't be interested once these women are single with fading looks, why would they care about a generation that ignored them?
then these women will cry all the wealthy single men, the ones who got wealthy by not having a partner and being workaholics without a woman draining them financially... they will be going after the people 10-20 years younger than them.


Personally I did a long term marriage, then a long term relationship after which involved having a second child.

Now I'm happy alone since 4 years, I'm 41 anyway so honestly don't really mind being single.

Dying alone or life living alone when i'm really old might suck , but whatever.
 
arknor said:
It's a numbers game :p

Most the women now that are young and think they are hotter than they are with impossible standards based on their own actual value are going to be in for a shock.
The older guys who were ignored won't be interested once these women are single with fading looks, why would they care about a generation that ignored them?
then these women will cry all the wealthy single men, the ones who got wealthy by not having a partner and being workaholics without a woman draining them financially... they will be going after the people 10-20 years younger than them.


Personally I did a long term marriage, then a long term relationship after which involved having a second child.

Now I'm happy alone since 4 years, I'm 41 anyway so honestly don't really mind being single.

Dying alone or life living alone when i'm really old might suck , but whatever.
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Fair play to you pal. I'm 40 and married with two kids. The missus and I have been together 15 years and did it old school by meeting in a club and actually talking to each other for months before getting together. Call me old fashioned but I wouldnt even want to date these days and if the worst happened I'd be single and just living for myself and my future.


Btw, I'm a workaholic now ;)
 
Chillr said:
Yeah these dating apps and the popularity of love island and such shows are showing women all the ripped guys obsessed with gyms and they get their expectations that all guys are built like this, well think its hard now cause guys feel the pressure that to get a woman to see them as attractive they have to have a six pack.

I think its tough for guys maybe, bit controversial but I find lots young women today seem obsessed with being caked in makeup, I always think most women always look better without makeup, all the heavy fake eyelashes like hundreds of spiders legs sticking far out from their eyes and the pouting lips with filler or whatever it is they put in them, also the popularity to be covered in tattoos, I'm sure some love this look, but just not for me anyway.
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As a guy, general rule of thumb: if she watches love island, stay the **** away cause she cray cray
 
Ahleckz said:
I was always very successful on dating apps, and when single would have multiple dates a week if I wanted. The secret? Invite them out on a date within the first two or three messages. I’ve spoken to many girls about this and they all say most men try and chat to them on the apps and it’s just rubbish. They have fifteen people having the same chat, “how was work?” “Here’s a funny meme” “oh I’m so lonely”. Whereas a few people like me would be asking them out, that night, for a drink. And you know what, most said yes. Those that didn’t, I moved along.

It was a numbers game, sure, but don’t try and get a connection online. The connection is got through chatting in the pub. This idea people don’t know how to have a conversation is true, they don’t. Because they don’t try and have one in real life.
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Exactly my experience. Why chat for ages online if, when you finally meet, there's no chemistry? If you're looking for romance rather than a penpal, ask the person out on a date!
 
bainbridge said:
Exactly my experience. Why chat for ages online if, when you finally meet, there's no chemistry? If you're looking for romance rather than a penpal, ask the person out on a date!
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I always do this, weeds out the time wasters and attention seeks.

I was texting one once, I asked her if she was free that weekend. What was her response "Oh, you actually want to meet up? I'm not sure as I like texting" :rolleyes:

Mostly in my case, its the women pushing to meet but you do get the odd few like I mentioned above.
 
Housey said:
Be great to get some female perspective on this discussion for sure.
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I think the female perspective will just be similar but on different criteria.

I have a lot of male friends who haven't had GFs in years and its quite obvious why in a lot of cases.

Poor career prospects
Take little pride in their appearance
Spend a lot of time playing computer games/nerdy pursuits
Not very good at talking to women when it comes to any sort of romantic transition
Aren't actively putting themselves out there or trying to find a partner.

Many of them are just OK enough without a partner that they don't do much about it. There are so many things you can do to kill time nowadays that anyone who is bored is just not trying. I think thats honestly a large part of why people aren't quite as desperate for a partner.
 
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