Thinking about breaking up with Gf.

Have you asked her what she might like to do for this anniversary? Chances are she'll say that she doesn't really mind...
 
With a little effort there is plenty you guys can do together for very little money.

If the parents option is completely shot... why not take her out to a beach, or a park together one evening? Lay down a blanket, have a picnic out and watch the sunset together as it sets over the sea or over the trees?

Food will cost you less than a tenner, and it'll be a romantic evening with just the two of you.
 
Couldn't you just ask your parents to go out for the evening, explain to them that you want a night with just you and your GF?
By the way, if you think you've got no money or social life now, just wait until you're married with young children. (I hope I didn't sound bitter then)
 
You're living at home. Surely you can save a little bit of that £40-50 a week and book a night in a semi-decent hotel for a night?
 
Mat said:
From what I have learned, at times like this its the time actually spent with her, that was set aside only for her and with 100% of your attention on her, that women appreciate rather than the size of the bill at the end.
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Yeah, it's not the size that matter; it's what you do with it :D

Seriously, it's up to her to decide whether she thinks you are worth it or not. Stop playing the martyr.
 
show her this thread

someone i know is in exactly the same boat as you, owes people money left/right and centre due to gambling, and has been hit hard when it all came tumbling down on him

just tell her how you feel, be honest.


btw, i hated that game :p
 
So let me see

You have a girl that loves you for what you are, and you want to get rid of her.
Then maybe the case she is better off without you.
Women like this are rare,WAKE UP and stop swiming in self pity.
 
Actually, (and you can see the optimist in me coming out) this doesn't have to be a bad thing. Lets be honest, money isn't the most important thing in life. Personally, the fact that someone has put time and effort into something is so much more appealing then something expensive. A handmade card for example says so much more than an expensive card from Clintons. So, the fact that you have no money only means you have to be more resourceful about the things that you plan. Be innovative and think about what she likes and what you can make or do for her.

Your time is a lot more precious than your bank balance.
 
I'd go by what everyone is saying tbh.
If anything this can save you money, you have someone to spend time with, something to do.
If you go single how bored are you gonna get. youll end up wasting yer money away.
Speak to her, the dinner in the house sounds a good idea. Ask yer rents to go out for a dinnerr. im sure they will understand.

Good luck :D
 
timmy222 said:
WAKE UP and stop swiming in self pity.
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Do this. For the love of God do this.

Ask your parents to clear out for a night. Unless they hate your GF, or you, I'm sure they wouldn't mind. Just explain the reasoning behind it.

As for you deciding what's best for her, why don't you leave that to her? Just talk to her.
 
area51_for_psx said:
Hi guys

Have a tough choice to make, I am thinking of breaking up with my long term girlfriend. We will be going for 2 years next friday and I am thinking of breaking up with her,

I am thinking of breaking up with her due to my financial situation. I never have any money to bring her out or treat her. I dont even think I will be able to bring her out for dinner next week. I have an IVA in place and owe money to my parents and all. And at the moment mum gets my pay in and pays all my bills and then gives me £40-50 a week to live on..This is due to me gambling all my money a few months ago as I was chasing the dream of winning money. LOL that doesnt work...

I think my girlfriend deserves better, She is a lovely girl and would do anything for me but she is from a well off family and she deserves someone that can bring her out for treats and stuff. i cant expect her to wait around for me to sort out my fiances as they wouldnt be sorted for at least 5years.

Its been getting worse recently with me having no money to go out and enjoy ourselves. The money that I do get ends up going to my mates who I owe money to. For example I got £50 last night and owe £40 off that to a mate for lending me it to get the girlfriend a present for our 2 years.

I cant keep doing this to her. Being skint and her having to suffer as well as she very rarley goes out without me even though she can afford to. We dont live together or anything like that so I think she should be out enjoying herself when she is young ( We are both 23)

No idea why I am writing this. Suppose I am just looking to rant. Anyone have any views? Am I doing the right thing?
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you're right she does deserve better.
what a loser attitude to have....how about she deserves better so you will be better........Hancock
 
You shouldn't have to take her out every week, and you certainly shouldn't be paying for everything - does she contribute at all? My gf is a broke student and she insists on paying for things, silly girl :p
 
Beansprout said:
You shouldn't have to take her out every week, and you certainly shouldn't be paying for everything - does she contribute at all? My gf is a broke student and she insists on paying for things, silly girl :p
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Sounds like mine :p she'll always go halves on everything at least and won't take anything for free
 
don't be down mate, she must be with you for a reason. sounds like you are over your issues in blowing money, so she stuck by you in that then she will now your on the stright and narrow.
 
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