Thinking about breaking up with Gf.

You're with somebody who isn't attracted by your wealth or material goods, she likes you for you. Something imo is rare and you want to throw this away over money?

I would have thought it would instead motivate you to sort yourself out so you can do all the things you want to do with her. Unless I am missing something or you haven't told us the whole story.

Definatly would be best to discuss how you feel with her, just don't blurt it all out at once. Whatever you do though, you're mad to end it based on financial difficulty.
 
^^ damn right

She's not with you for your money (well, let's hope! - 2 years proves that anyway) so don't be worried about that at all. Just enjoy being with her :)
 
Dude, i'm in a pretty similar cash situation myself.

I have an ok job (£16,500 p/a) live at home, pay rent etc etc. Cushy you might think but here's the rub - i live in Devon and my GF lives in Bristol. It's about a 200 mile round trip to see her (every single weekend), work is the best part of 40 miles per day and that's not including any general pottering about. It's the best part of £200 a month, and seriously dents the wallet :eek:

It a long long time ago that we had a nice meal somewhere, but she knows i'm on the brink of being broke every month and she understands and supports me :) She's now a student so she's not exactly flush :p She doesn't expect me to take her out for dinner every weekend when we see each other! Hell, the other week we decided that we'd go to Asda, buy some posh biscuits and watch TV/DVD on the sofa all snuggled up with a cuppa tea dunking our biccies :p We were both really happy, so i'm sure that meant far more than some poncey meal just for the sake of it.

If she wanted Mr. Moneybags she's have been long gone! She obviously loves you for who you are, so stop fretting for god's sake and just be happy :) just talk to her, if she's stayed with you through this i'm sure she'd understand.
 
For crying out loud talk to her about this not us, it's fine to get some opinions but at the end of the day you need to ask her opinion. If she really wants to be with you then she won't care about not being able to go out often (if at all) and she'll be happy to stay with you until you're in a better financial situation.
 
As everyone else seems to of stated talk to her, I thought a similar thing about mine a few months back. For our 2 years i had no money so we went for a walk round a local country park and both cooked some food and sat down and watched a movie at night. Was an awesome day and cost me sod all. Its not always about the money, its about the little things.

Aero
 
Sounds like you have a very caring and understanding gf there. I would not break up with her just because you are having a hard time with finances. If she is willing to stick by you in the bad then be happy.

Do things which do not cost money, walks and country visits. Make her a really nice dinner or anything like that!

Its the little things people appreciate the most so just try harder mate and keep chin up. Hope you get yourself together financially.
 
area51_for_psx said:
Going to talk to her tonight when I get out of tech.
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You need to sort yourself out! I hope you look back and feel ashamed that you would dump her over such a rediculious thing.

Explain to her and for the love of god tell your parents to gtfo until midnight so you can wine and dine her properly..
 
Don't be silly! If she really cared about the money side of things, I'm sure she would have brought this up with you by now. You sound like a lucky guy to me.

Take it from a girl who was dumped last month after a 3 year relationship, the way you feel now is nothing compared to how awful she would feel if you ended it...:(
 
It's only money! The OP sounds like a little bit of a sob story to be honest. I have felt the same sometimes about different things. Sometimes you just have to stop feeling sorry for yourself, pick yourself up, get a job and get on with it. Why would she dump you for having no money anyway? If it's "real love" so to speak, nothing should stand in the way.
 
You don't need money to do things with her.

I'm sure you can cook her a meal out of something in the cupboards and put a DVD on that she hasn't seen.

A nice walk along the river or a bike ride.

Just think of things that don't need money, as there's quite a lot you can do.
 
jaybee said:
It's only money! The OP sounds like a little bit of a sob story to be honest. I have felt the same sometimes about different things. Sometimes you just have to stop feeling sorry for yourself, pick yourself up, get a job and get on with it. Why would she dump you for having no money anyway? If it's "real love" so to speak, nothing should stand in the way.
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I have a full time job. If you are going to have a go read the thread...:rolleyes:
 
You don't need money to be a good boyfriend.

More importantly though I think you really need to sort yourself out financially because getting pocket money from your mum at 23 and her being financial responsible for you is embarrassing.
 
She isnt financialy responsible for me I work full time. She just manages my money as was gambling too much a while ago but this is stopped now. But we had agreeded it would be like this for 6months at least so i could sort my gambling out
 
if money is involved in any r'ships about pressies and other stuff then thats a messed up relationship, my last long term yeah i had money problems but then again im a student but not at one point it affected us! and don't mean to be an ar*e biscuit but talking about this on a forum!? mate where are your best friends!?
 
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