This might not be a good idea but i'll ask anyhow..

my wife is very good with regards gaming, we are picking up a PS4 as an early christmas present to each other, maybe not launch day as we havent preorderd but once we pass a store with stock we will grab one.

once the kids are in bed its normally one on the laptop/ipad, one on the PS3/TV or one on laptop, one on ipad with us both half watching somthing on TV, i tend to have the PS3 more as she talks to a lot of friends on the ipad/laptop and when im not on the ps3 im either sat on my vita or the laptop playing games.

the biggest decider is the kids, if they are awake i either dont play (especially in the case of GTA V & the last of us for recent games) or they come first... i.e. if they are playing together i will play on the games but it goes off if they want my attention (im claiming to be a perfect person there has been times where i have got too engrosed and not given them my full attention) but games such as Ni No Kuni and Batman they love watching me play (my 5 year old loves batman... well she actually prefers the female characteurs but still loves watching)... got her Disney Infinity for her 6th bithday in 2 weeks so i cant wait to play that with her :)

i tend not to play online games with friends as much as i would maybe like but as i work shifts, some work shifts, some work days... a few of us picked up borderlands at launch and had maybe 3 sessions together.

she also has no problem with me putting my headset on, which i only do on some games if it adds to the atmosphere as with a 1 & 5 year old asleep the TV is turned down at night.

i will add though when both kids came along, for the first 10-14 months very little gaming was done in both cases but once they start to enjoy running around and playing with toys it seems easier to relax at night and sit down with a game
 
My girlfriend is quite into gaming herself, plays quite a lot of Nintendo stuff and she has a lot of the Sega classics on her iPad. Usually I'll have a few hours on the Playstation while she watches something on Netflix or plays on the 3DS. I don't think I'd be able to live with someone who would belittle me simply for enjoying games. There's give and take in every relationship and finding a fair division of time is obviously crucial but if they weren't accepting at all but still expected me to be fine with them watching The Hills, Made in Chelsea and whatever else then they'd probably be out the door. :p
 
Why not put her on the spot about it, and ask her why she feels the need to belittle you for the hobbies you enjoy doing?

I can imagine it being quite unpleasant for your wife to actually think it's okay to want to belittle you for having an interest that is different to ones she has.

Maybe I can't understand, I'm not married, but mine plays games with me and friends, but then she doesn't feel the need to belittle any other hobbies I have that she doesn't share interest in.
 
She's blatantly cheating on you to have that massive turn around. (Joke!)

But in all seriousness I would have a heart to heart with her about your relationship and how she sees your gaming and how it's changed.

Also it might be worth her joining you. Get her on a tablet doing facebook, TV etc.. While you game next to her.
 
Buy her a Kindle - best thing I ever did (except when I wants nookie and she's still reading her flippin book :p )

:)
 
I had the Mrs show me a youtube video for mens skincare by Liz Earle last.night.....1m 59 secs I aint getting back :)

99% of the time my wife is happy i'm on the xbox, but I always make time for my family. There can be days where I am not online due to spending time with my family
 
This is something I've been experiencing recently having become a father for the first time in April. It's definitely a challenge trying to balance family and gaming time but of course the little one has to come first. Generally I'm happy if I can play for an hour 3 or 4 times a week during the evenings. This is usually on my PC which leaves the TV free for the wife and I use headphones so it doesn't disturb anyone.

I've also started playing my Vita quite a bit as it's great for quick sessions, again doesn't need the TV and can be paused easily at any time. I guess the days of playing games for hours on end all weekend are long gone, but to be honest I wouldn't want it any other way!
 
yes when my daughter was born, missus was suffering post natal, it was really hard. the house as always trashed, nothing much got done, and I was left working long hours both at work and at home. left very little time for anything. Now my daughter is nearly two, routine has been established and missus has started to be a house wife and actually clean and tidy up..

Means we both have free time, first few months I was a bit like, erm I'd like to play my games again , she was like erm no. Finally after getting a second telly , and my trusty laptop I've managed to get game time in again, and hopefully now she has relented on the bed time with me I'll be ok.

Having kids does mean until they get solid routines you'll not be playing much, but my lovely daughter was well worth it.. I'll never plaxDr a game instead of attending to my kids, sadly missus is often vegged infront of the telly or on here phone and the little un is essentially forgot, mostly when I'm around, and missus expects me to do it all... hmm
 
Judging by the negative tone you refer to your wife in, you need help, and not the sort that will be given by a load of computer nerds on an internet forum.

Ask yourself this, if she read your posts on here, how would she likely react ? badly I would suggest. Harbouring those types of feelings is only going to lead to massive issues. You need to talk things out with each other, and about more than just the gaming by the sounds of it

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Wasn't you the guy who refused to buy your wife whatever xmas presents a couple of years ago ? (or maybe it was someone else)

Either way gaming to me has always taken a backseat a bit to social life. I can't comment on the kids side of things because I don't have any. But when it comes to gf's it comes down to compromise. My current gf wants me sometimes to watch TV with her because she likes cuddling up and watching it. So I do it for her, when I want to play a game she will try show some interest or at least play in peace. But I do not do it all the time. Balance is the key, I know if I was coming home from work every day and just wacked my PS3/360 whatever... my gf well would not be my gf for very long.
 
dont remember having a conversation on here about not buying her a Christmas present... I don't think we much bother with presents to each other during xmas anyhow.

Do remember posting about how she'd moan a lot about me using a games console and when she was pregnant would in fact needed me to go to bed at 9pm meaning I played a lot of movies, music and games on a laptop in bed to pass the time..

Lets clarify this.. Missus and I have spoken to each other about how to treat each other in the same home.. We had a lot, a lot of issues regarding personal tastes and space within the same room or even just wanting to do our own thing..

I might, and this is just me still feeling a bit untrusting be harboring some ill feelings, afterall, I don't think it was too unreasonable to play a few games when I had nothing better to do.

I now however feel that now I've got a little desk the dinning room for my laptop (which I never use anyhow) missus has a means to enjoy her junky tv without me moaning about it, I have means to play a few games and we now spend time together and she is now over the post natal I don't think there is a lot to now worry about..

Couples do go through rough patches, I'm sure she has had her moans and discussions with her girly friends about me, some of which i'd not be too happy to hear.

I merely posted this to ask who has a wife and kids and finds it harder to get some gaming time in, considering I suspect most come from being single and heavy gamers like I was one time in their life.
 
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Maybe your missus isn't expecting you to do it all, just maybe do your share. Maybe your child wouldn't be forgot if you looked after her while she took a break.

Just because you've gone to work, doesn't mean that's all you need to do and your wife should do everything else. Marriage is all about team work and taking your fair share. The idea of work being your only contribution is a very old fashioned one
 
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