Those three words...

I did this with a girl I used to work with, ended up both of us wanting more, developing feelings and complicating things. Went from doing it occasionally, to every lunch break at work, to going to each others houses every chance we got, to being together for 3 years and a painful break up.

I still think about her sometimes and she probably does too, but neither of us wanted anything long term and it kind of snuck up on us.

Having said that, if I was single I would definitely do it again, it's like training lol and as they say... Practise make perfect :)
 
Also did it at uni in halls, which was fun, but she got a bit jealous occasionally and we ended up drifting apart as friends, which was a shame to be honest as she is someone I would have liked to stay friends with for a long time.

I would say one thing, no matter what happens, if you like just how things are now then do t do it as I can guarantee that things will never be the same again no matter how much each of you may think they could be.
 
She will end up getting banged by somebody else. At this point your attitude will change ;)

It will end in floods of emotional tears.
 
Had it a few years back, she got attached and I had to put a stop to it all. Queue her hating me and not spoken to me since. Shame as I enjoyed her friendship. Don't go into it with expectations of more if she doesn't feel the same, it'll end in tears.
 
ChroniC said:
Currently in this situation but its very very complicated, been in it before and I know for a fact this time won't end any better than the last.
1 rule, never, I mean never tell the other person you like them and have had started having feelings for them. (if you want that to happen you have to let them say it first)
It always ends it if the guy says it before the girl, and your good thing has been completely ruined by your inability to control your emotions. You need to go ******** spock on this seriously.

I can tell your already going to fail, as your so happy and you said shes super fit, so clearly your thinking will turn that into feelings I guarentee it. The sheer fact that you've asked whether it can work means you want it to, so your thinking about her. It's very hard to detach yourself from thinking with your downstairs brain, but the upstairs one needs to be used to play these situation to the maximum benefits.
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Couldnt have said it better TBH, this is spot-on. Ive never had FWB but if I did find myself in that situation I wouldnt go near her if I realized I was having feelings for her. The whole point of this is exactly like that YT clip. Hit it & quit it.
 
pics or i am calling shenanigans... there are glaring holes in your story like. "very hot girl" to be honest if you made a slight edit to your post and changed it to "land walking sea cow" then it might be mroe believable.. until then

SHENANIGANS!!!
 
kokuten said:
pics or i am calling shenanigans... there are glaring holes in your story like. "very hot girl" to be honest if you made a slight edit to your post and changed it to "land walking sea cow" then it might be mroe believable.. until then

SHENANIGANS!!!
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Got picture of said sea cow? Sounds interesting.
 
Smash her, have a laugh = profit.

Why even care about the small stuff, if she's cool letting you hang outta her then roll with it.
 
"Not that hole"

I've been here aswell, started off with us both knowing exactly that it was just a casual thing as and when it was needed... I ended up having feelings for her, never mentioned them and got over it, later she gets feelings for me but I'm past it..... que an awkward year of not recipracating her feelings but enjoying her company and benefits far to much....

Ended in tears for her and regrets for me as I could not change how I felt no matter how much I wished I could


It got to the point where I decided we shouldn't have anymore contact with each other as it wasn't fair on her or me.... it became a bit of an addiction to tell you the truth

Only saw her once in the past 6 years, before I met my current partner, ended up having sex again, havent seen her since!


All in all it was some epic quality rudeness that I sometimes wish I could recapture!


Go for it but be prepared for one or both of you to eventually develop feelings and it all turn to beggary!
 
Man babies the lot of you, stop being such emotional wrecks and straighten up.
If you were told it's supposed to be mutual, non attached and then develop feelings then get rejected when airing these feelings, you're to blame for forgetting the first part.

Basically, take it for what it is and don't develop selective memory and forget, if you develop feelings look back and see the mistake. Have some god damned self control!!!!

Also it's not going to kill you if you do get hurt, but you can almost be sure the ride there is worth it.
 
Matterez said:
She won't develop emotions, I'm not her first friend with benefits; she knows what she's doing... And I'm confident in myself; I know that seems naive...
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If you were confident about it, you wouldn't be posting here asking for advise and would just go for it.

You know she can do it but you're not sure about yourself, everyone knows how it would end.

But you won't go for it either way, you're either trolling or overthinking it too much.
 
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