Timing a wedding proposal so close to an actual wedding.....thoughts?

R.O.S.S.I

R.O.S.S.I

R.O.S.S.I

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I've been looking for an opportunity to pop the question to my other half and was wondering whether people felt proposing to someone the day before an upcoming wedding was poor form?

The wedding is of a family friend who they don't see that often so it's not a close family or friend, i've never met any of them and i'm sure my partner hasn't seen them for some time and doesn't know a lot of people going, however we have been invited.

I ideally want to ask her back at her family home which they are in the process of selling as I know it's a sentimental place to her and will be one of the last times we both get to visit together before they sell up next month.

The weather is supposed to be nice on Friday, Saturday and Sunday so I was thinking of either a sunset proposal on the Friday OR a sunrise proposal on the Sunday. The wedding in question is in the middle on the Saturday.

Part of me thinks its fine because the wedding isn't of someone close to us, but then I feel like some people get funny about this kind of thing in case it somehow takes the shine off the wedding. The ideal scenario for me is that the weather is great on Friday and we have a BBQ and i'll pop that evening, the next scenario would be getting up to watch sunrise, however this ones a bit more of a struggle to get buy in for :cry:


I also want to try and do it this weekend as this will be the only weekend we have together now really until we go on holiday to France in mid August (to another wedding!)
(I also don't want to propose in France as I did this with an ex many years ago and the relationship ended so don't want any bad joo joo!)
 
Nothing stopping you when you propose, the etiquette is just don’t steal their thunder on their wedding. Doing it during someone else’s wedding is bad form, don’t do that.

Do it the day before, no problem with that. As long as you don’t keep bringing it up on the day of the wedding, can you both do that? If you think you will constantly bringing it up, then you will just come across looking bad. It’s not when you propose, it’s what you do with the news.
 
Yeh I wouldn't be bringing it up at the wedding anyway. From discussions with my partner we wouldn't be staying late anyway. I think doing it and just keeping it on the dl till after the wedding may be the way to go.
 
R.O.S.S.I said:
The weather is supposed to be nice on Friday, Saturday and Sunday so I was thinking of either a sunset proposal on the Friday OR a sunrise proposal on the Sunday. The wedding in question is in the middle on the Saturday.

Part of me thinks its fine because the wedding isn't of someone close to us, but then I feel like some people get funny about this kind of thing in case it somehow takes the shine off the wedding.
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Don't tell them then? Why do they need to know, especially if you're not close to them? If they don't know then you don't have a problem in the first place and there isn't a dilema.
 
Ask family friend to marry you. Say you've been in love for a while.

Edit: This guy gets it, but rather than speak up, get on one knee and ask her

krooton said:
Be alpha, wait until the "If anyone has any objections to this union" bit, then speak up, and do your thing :D
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I wouldn't do it that close to someone else's wedding unless you know the other half can keep it a secret, because no one at another persons wedding wants to hear how you have just got engaged, this is poor form.

probably best to do it after.
 
I can't see a problem with it, but my soon to be wife tells me I'm wrong with these sort of things more time than I'm right. Take that as you will :D
 
At first I thought this was a good idea. But then I thought about it a little more and I would advise against doing it at someone else's wedding. Firstly she could say no, which may cause an issue at the wedding reception. But even if she says yes, it almost certainly will leak out. Then you might be seen as trying to upstage the actual wedding couple on what should be their happiest day. I guess try to put yourself in the brides position if everyone at the wedding is talking about a proposal of another couple.

Anyway, good luck @R.O.S.S.I I hope she says yes.

EDIT: Sorry I hadn't appreciated this was going to be the day before. In that case the only real risk is her saying no.
 
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Hades said:
At first I thought this was a good idea. But then I thought about it a little more and I would advise against doing it at someone else's wedding. Firstly she could say no, which may cause an issue at the wedding reception. But even if she says yes, it almost certainly will leak out. Then you might be seen as trying to upstage the actual wedding couple on what should be their happiest day. I guess try to put yourself in the brides position if everyone at the wedding is talking about a proposal of another couple.

Anyway, good luck @R.O.S.S.I I hope she says yes.
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he's talking about the day before, not at the wedding.

Plenty of things I would do the day before a wedding that i wouldn't do at a wedding, I'm struggling to see the nexus if I'm honest! Just crack on.
 
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