Timing a wedding proposal so close to an actual wedding.....thoughts?

dowie said:
It's just one of those things like other women shouldn't wear white, only the bride should else it will detract attention away from her on her special big day etc..

It can/does occasionally happen AT the wedding, some guy thinks weddings are so romantic, sees his girlfriend so happy at her friend's marriage and decided... he's going to get down on one knee and cause a scene just before the first dance or speeches or something.

Or you have things like the newly engaged woman who hasn't announced it to any of her & the bride's mutual friends yet turning up at the wedding not so subtly wearing her new engagement ring... someone at her table in say the reception clocks it and there is the same sort of drama; "OMG did you hear, Shazzer got engaged, yeah she's wearing the ring" "OMG I need to see it, let's go and congratulate her". 'Shazer' becomes the centre of attention for a bit instead.
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I think it depends on how he plans to propose.

I've been engaged before and it was just a private thing.

I wouldn't suggest doing it at the wedding or the reception. I agree that would be bad form.

If OP wants to make it a big celebration then he should probably do it on another day after the wedding if only because his own celebration wouldn't get the full attention either.
 
Charlie Bravo said:
I know you said you don't want to do it in France which is fair enough given the reason, but to ask her in the family home?
Where's the romance in that?

It's as bad as a guy I used to work with who popped the question in bed and presented her with a £400 ring.

I also looked at rings with my other half but then I left it for many months before even starting to plan how I was going to ask.
The last thing I wanted was for her to expect it or know when it was coming.
That's just me though.
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Not in the family home, at their family home. It used to be a farm and is in a picturesque spot with a lovely garden and a hot tub with views out. A sunset hot tub proposal may be an option. Part of the reason we came back from living overseas was that her parents were thinking of selling it and she didn't want to be abroad whilst it was sold and her not get chance to come back and spend time there. So it's a fairly significant place for her.
I have no intention of popping the question in the kitchen :cry:

BowdonUK said:
I think it depends on how he plans to propose.

I've been engaged before and it was just a private thing.

I wouldn't suggest doing it at the wedding or the reception. I agree that would be bad form.

If OP wants to make it a big celebration then he should probably do it on another day after the wedding if only because his own celebration wouldn't get the full attention either.
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Just to clarify again, I do not under any circumstances want to propose at someone else's wedding or wedding reception.

I don't want it to be a big hoo-haa. I'll be doing it just the pair of us. If we decide to celebrate it more formally we will arrange something in the following days/weeks when friends and family are free.
 
dowie said:
He never said he was going to do that and he's clarified a couple of times now, so often people just don't read things properly on here.
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Day before.
Not much difference is it?
OP do what feels right for you simple as.
 
The OP may like to use the time he has left to reflect that when a man is proposing marriage to a woman what he is really saying nowadays is, "May I offer you the legal right to rob me blind on a whim?" :)
 
If the farm means so much to her then I think the best proposal you could make would be "let's buy the farm". Anything else could come across as compensating.

My impression is that a marriage proposal signals new beginnings. I have my doubts about mixing that up with all the nostalgia that goes with being at the family home and all the talk of moving out. I could be way off though if the vibe is right.
 
Chojin said:
If the farm means so much to her then I think the best proposal you could make would be "let's buy the farm". Anything else could come across as compensating.

My impression is that a marriage proposal signals new beginnings. I have my doubts about mixing that up with all the nostalgia that goes with being at the family home and all the talk of moving out. I could be way off though if the vibe is right.
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Haha, we would have loved to however don't have a few spare million lying around!
Whitewater said:
Do it but don’t make it widely known until after the wedding.
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If I do end up popping the Q tomorrow evening then we will do this!

Thanks for your input guys, mixed opinions on this it seems :cry:
 
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