Timing a wedding proposal so close to an actual wedding.....thoughts?

rG-tom said:
he's talking about the day before, not at the wedding.

Plenty of things I would do the day before a wedding that i wouldn't do at a wedding, I'm struggling to see the nexus if I'm honest! Just crack on.
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Thanks, hadn't spotted that. In that case I can't see any issue apart from the risk of her saying no.
 
Dont do it.

1. you're trying to 'fit it in' between busy events - rushed.
2. you want to do it at a sentimental place being sold - the past is over - do it somewhere where you can make future memories instead.
 
I'm wondering whether to float the idea past her mum or dad to see what they think, seeing as they will be around too.

We've openly spoke about getting married too quite a lot over the past 6 months and she knows a proposal is imminent, she just doesn't know whether it is going to be this week or in 2 months time (she knows i've been looking at rings etc).

I think this weekend would be completely unexpected to her as I think she thinks I am going to wait till we go away to France in August, but I think doing it at her family home will mean a lot more to her and has nicer sentiment to it.
 
I'd wait personally, it'll come up in conversation somewhere and 'potentially' cause unnecessary issue during the wedding day.
 
I feel it could be in poor form. To your other half it would almost look as though you've proposed because this upcoming wedding has influenced the question.

Why didn't you propose a month ago for example?
 
Just do it and keep your mouths shut about it at the wedding. It's not that complicated (I don't think, but then I'm eternally single so maybe I'm talking out of my arse).
 
R.O.S.S.I said:
I'm wondering whether to float the idea past her mum or dad to see what they think, seeing as they will be around too.

We've openly spoke about getting married too quite a lot over the past 6 months and she knows a proposal is imminent, she just doesn't know whether it is going to be this week or in 2 months time (she knows i've been looking at rings etc).

I think this weekend would be completely unexpected to her as I think she thinks I am going to wait till we go away to France in August, but I think doing it at her family home will mean a lot more to her and has nicer sentiment to it.
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Could always ask her dad for "permission" in the traditional style and see what he thinks of your plan?

I proposed on Christmas Eve knowing that we'd be with all my wife's family the next day to tell everyone.
 
Semple said:
I feel it could be in poor form. To your other half it would almost look as though you've proposed because this upcoming wedding has influenced the question.

Why didn't you propose a month ago for example?
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I've been waiting on the ring being made and sent to me which took around 3 weeks and i've only just taken receipt of it.

^JP^ said:
Could always ask her dad for "permission" in the traditional style and see what he thinks of your plan?

I proposed on Christmas Eve knowing that we'd be with all my wife's family the next day to tell everyone.
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I've already done the traditional thing and asked both mum and dad for permission , so they know its on the cards too.
 
Just do it..

Stop thinking about it so much, if the opportunity is right, then just go for it and if she says yes, you can just ask her if she wants to keep it quiet until after her friends wedding.

FWIW I for one couldn't care less if a guest of my wedding had proposed to their other half the day before.... What a really bizarre consideration (IMO).
 
What's proposing got to do with anyone else?

Proposing means you'll be engaged. You might be engaged for years before your own wedding.

I personally think proposing is best when its just you and her, or you, her and a few close friends/family.

Maybe propose to her on the wedding day, later at night when shes talking about how great the wedding was... then you pop the question?
 
I'm not even sure why you would care op.....
You do it because it suits you.
No one at the wedding will give a rat's ass.
 
Sunrise proposal on the Sunday assuming you are not hungover from the wedding the previous day
Precludes your wife-to-be blubbing it at the wedding and turning yourselves into pariahs. Folks can get very funny about things like that
I normally snort at any "alpha" comments, but don't speak to her parents about it. This is your decision not theirs
 
R.O.S.S.I said:
We've openly spoke about getting married too quite a lot over the past 6 months and she knows a proposal is imminent, she just doesn't know whether it is going to be this week or in 2 months time (she knows i've been looking at rings etc).

I think this weekend would be completely unexpected to her as I think she thinks I am going to wait till we go away to France in August, but I think doing it at her family home will mean a lot more to her and has nicer sentiment to it.
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Oh jeeze, get it done then IMO. Don't let some worries about someone else's event ruin what you think would be the ideal moment to propose. I mean you know her best, she doesn't have to wear the ring to the wedding or tell anyone and so the whole wedding thing seems like a non-issue, if you would definitely be proposing if not for your worries about this wedding then just do it!!! :)
 
BowdonUK said:
What's proposing got to do with anyone else?

Proposing means you'll be engaged. You might be engaged for years before your own wedding.
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It's just one of those things like other women shouldn't wear white, only the bride should else it will detract attention away from her on her special big day etc..

It can/does occasionally happen AT the wedding, some guy thinks weddings are so romantic, sees his girlfriend so happy at her friend's marriage and decided... he's going to get down on one knee and cause a scene just before the first dance or speeches or something.

Or you have things like the newly engaged woman who hasn't announced it to any of her & the bride's mutual friends yet turning up at the wedding not so subtly wearing her new engagement ring... someone at her table in say the reception clocks it and there is the same sort of drama; "OMG did you hear, Shazzer got engaged, yeah she's wearing the ring" "OMG I need to see it, let's go and congratulate her". 'Shazer' becomes the centre of attention for a bit instead.
 
I know you said you don't want to do it in France which is fair enough given the reason, but to ask her in the family home?
Where's the romance in that?

It's as bad as a guy I used to work with who popped the question in bed and presented her with a £400 ring.

I also looked at rings with my other half but then I left it for many months before even starting to plan how I was going to ask.
The last thing I wanted was for her to expect it or know when it was coming.
That's just me though.
 
Ask before and then see if you can get the Vicar / Registrar to marry you on the cheap after the friends ceremony. Might as well make full use of the venue :D
 
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