Surely grip and handling go hand in hand, cant have 1 without the other. What exactly do you mean by subarus are more about grip?
Handling is also about whether the car understeers or oversteers, turn in, response etc. etc. Grip is just, well, grip.
My complaint about the Subaru system is that by default it tends to understeer in a very unpleasant, FWD-like way, and it also likes to oversteer in certain consitions such as lifting off in a corner. Obviously a decent driver will learn how to deal with this and it can be quite fun to do though I'm sure the think of the children brigade will be along to say you should never be getting the back end out on the public road.
In contrast the Nissan system keeps the car under a lot more control, it's set up to be RWD most of the time, but to avoid wheelspin on launch by directing some power to the front and it will do the same thing so that you only ever get a manageable amount of oversteer, and alwas oversteer, which again makes for a lot of fun, and a much more predictable ride.
Of course, this is why Skyline GTSt owners start making comments about how the GTR is for people who can't drive, but if you agree with those you'd be looking at RWD cars not 4WD.
The real problem with Subaru's system is the above mentioned knuckle dragging inbreds (and a fair number of enthusiasts too). Subarus have tons and tons of grip such that many drivers never learn how the car handles when you're reaching the limits of that grip. To such a driver the car is totally unpredictable at it's limits and you never know which end is going to let go first. Problem is that the car lulls you into a false sense of security with it's excellent grip, and the inbreds start to think that they are driving gods "I'd've had him in the twisties" is the stereotypical Subaru driver response when they've just been spanked in a straight line by an M3 or an R1 or whatever. Then one day they actually hit the car's limits and the next thing you know they're backwards through a hedge and/or upside down in a field.
Full disclosure: My Subaru did get written off backwards through a hedge, but my lift off oversteer incident was caused by a poorly timed catastrophic engine failure rather than stupid driving. I'm glad it went off because otherwise I'd be looking at 2-3 grand for another new engine.
e: As for 200SX, for that money you're going to be looking at either a really good condition S13 or a slightly ropey S14. Both will be money pits.