Uncle Problem.

I had this problem with a number of people. The best way to end it is to just take the time and show them exactly how to do something. The likes of installing a programme or re-arranging desktop icons are very simple to show to someone and he will probably ask you to do them again if you don't. It should even be something you can talk him through on the phone.
 
EffBee said:
Not sure if this makes a difference but what cultural background are you from? If you are from good old anglo-saxon, stuff the relatives, christenings weddings funerals stock it is much easier to deal with this than if you are from a much more family oriented cultural base.

The bottom line is that this uncle has no respect for you or your time. You need to put a few cards up in Newsagents windows advertising your services at a reasonable rate - say £25 per hour. (You don't actually have to take any work). Then as a concession to your uncle because he is family tell him he can have your time at a discounted rate of £15 per hour. Then you must be stop being a gutless wonder and stand up for yourself. :)


I predict he will quickly leave you alone.
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Can u do that, put ads up on newsagent windows advertising your services?

+ My uncle's the type of guy who would say you can;t charge your relatives.

Im from an Asian-Muslim type background and the family can be right *****.
 
Then simply refuse to do it, or tell him you will only do it once per week. Grow some balls basically. :p

Can you not speak to your mum and dad and get them to have a word?
 
Ever heard of VNC?

I used to get this all the time from my family, but now they've actually learned how to do it themselves.

I have no problem showing people how to do things, as long as they put the effort into things. A mate of mine called me at least once a day with his PC "Problems" and I finally cracked and said "How the **** can you be so stupid, stop calling me at work!"

Haven't heard from him in a while....
 
Nabz said:
Can u do that, put ads up on newsagent windows advertising your services?

+ My uncle's the type of guy who would say you can;t charge your relatives.

Im from an Asian-Muslim type background and the family can be right *****.
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Of course you can advertise personal services in newsagent windows :)

Does you Uncle do anything for you or your family? To my western way of thinking he is just an exploitative selfish penny-pinching so-and-so. Perhaps you and your family should start finding ways to put demands on him and see what happens.

That asian-muslim family thing can be a real pain. I have seen it at work in friends and work colleagues over the years. It can however be a source of real strength and support so lacking in more traditional British families on the other hand though.
 
EffBee said:
Of course you can advertise personal services in newsagent windows :)

Does you Uncle do anything for you or your family? To my western way of thinking he is just an exploitative selfish penny-pinching so-and-so. Perhaps you and your family should start finding ways to put demands on him and see what happens.

That asian-muslim family thing can be a real pain. I have seen it at work in friends and work colleagues over the years. It can however be a source of real strength and support so lacking in more traditional British families on the other hand though.
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ye i know its such a handful, all this respect this. of cousre respect your elders, dont say anythign out of line hanky panky rubbish. Do what he tells u to, pull me out of bed at 3:00 am and i still would have to go down.

Basically THG|Sargantanas has realy helped me, hes told me about a thing called remote assistance seen it on msn but never ever knew what it was.

i just phoned him , and told him about it hes having none of it. I cut the phone on him, he phoned me back and gave me a right earful. He said to me " you agreed to come down on saturday at 11". before i could get a word in he kept going on so i cut him off. Going down today, gonna do the jobs, explain remote assistance and that im not going down again.
 
Nabz said:
ye i know its such a handful, all this respect this. of cousre respect your elders, dont say anythign out of line hanky panky rubbish. Do what he tells u to, pull me out of bed at 3:00 am and i still would have to go down.

Basically THG|Sargantanas has realy helped me, hes told me about a thing called remote assistance seen it on msn but never ever knew what it was.

i just phoned him , and told him about it hes having none of it. I cut the phone on him, he phoned me back and gave me a right earful. He said to me " you agreed to come down on saturday at 11". before i could get a word in he kept going on so i cut him off. Going down today, gonna do the jobs, explain remote assistance and that im not going down again.
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I do what I can :D. Thanks for the acknowledgement man :). Good luck.
 
Nabz said:
i just phoned him , and told him about it hes having none of it. I cut the phone on him, he phoned me back and gave me a right earful. He said to me " you agreed to come down on saturday at 11". before i could get a word in he kept going on so i cut him off. Going down today, gonna do the jobs, explain remote assistance and that im not going down again.
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Well make sure you stick to your guns, good luck!
 
wow seriously, if he's got you re arranging icons id tell him to FO in no polite way.

O and what do your parents think of this?
 
Nabz said:
Can u do that, put ads up on newsagent windows advertising your services?

+ My uncle's the type of guy who would say you can;t charge your relatives.

Im from an Asian-Muslim type background and the family can be right *****.
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You may want to teach him how to do the basics or get him to buy one of those monthly magazines which go through the basics. He may then get the hint without it looking like you are being unhelpful.
 
all sorted now, told him whats what, in future remote assistance or if called out 20 quid per hour, cheers lads.
 
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