Ok guys before I get hold of my solicitor in the morning my mind is doing cartwheels and need anybody's experience of this to let me know what happened with them.
My 16.5 year old boy who I have not seen since June ( keeps saying he is busy with his mates ) and I saw today has had a large tattoo on the inside of his arm from his elbow to his wrist in length , explains why he has not seen me. He lives with his Mother he lets him do as he pleases to have a pop at me .
Now I understand this has been done no use crying over spilt milk ect but the tattoo shop need to answer for this for future incidents ect ( how younger kids have they been doing this to ) - my understanding is it's illegal to tattoo a minor under 18 and constitutes a possible ABH charge ?
Advice please ?
Your ex... you don't know whether she's as stunned by the situation as you are or not, so rather than presuming just be calm and casual, keep things relaxed and talk to each other... I suggest about anything but the tattoo at this stage, weather, any holidays.. you'll know what you can talk about without arguing by now I'm sure.
So you're intent on 'fighting the good fight' not for your own Son, as such, but for the public good? I would forget it if I were you It sounds to me as though your Son wanted to do something for him, but knowing you would hit the roof decided to put some distance between the two of you as he knew you would blame him, his Mother and probably whip out your solicitor.
Your Son obviously thinks he's an adult, if you think back you'll likely be able to remember a time when you did too. So meet him on that level. Rather than going ballistic take it calm, nexttime you sit down explain your first sight of him was one of shock, but now you've had the opportunity to think about it you realise it doesn't look bad, if he thought you were going to go berserk or that you would be upset by it just explain that back in your day kids used to go about getting the same kind of thing, you too thought of having one but wanted to be unique. You wanted to stand-out from the crowd instead of being considered one of the .... well you know... but times have changed so perhaps peoples opinions on tattoos have too.
How did your Mother take it? ... he might say she wasn't too happy about it either, then you'll know that she wasn't having a pop at you at all. Chances are she's just as stunned by it but is worried of you taking it the wrong way and misjudging the situation. You both share the upbringing of the teenager at least until he's 18/21 right? So for the sake of family harmony I would forget about Solicitors, unless you're going through divorce proceedings and do whatever it takes to get talking to each other, days out or whatever it takes to bring your son and yourself back talking to each other. At this point of life you can only really nudge him in the right direction, you really ought to be promoting communication as opposed to placing blame otherwise he may decide to cut all ties.
Oh and one more thing, tattoos are no longer permanent at they once were. You could goto
www.youtube.com and search for 'UK Tattoo Removal' note the laser removals, or the cream you can apply to remove tatoos.
HTH