I'm actually pro tatoo's, but i really think 18 is the right age, and i think piercings should be moved up in line with this. Until your 18 i really don't think you understand the consequences with regards to employment or the fact you might not want it when your 21.
Underage Tatoos
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I'm actually pro tatoo's, but i really think 18 is the right age, and i think piercings should be moved up in line with this. Until your 18 i really don't think you understand the consequences with regards to employment or the fact you might not want it when your 21.
I guess you have to look at this from the following viewpoint and decide which is most important:
1) The fact a tattoo has been done illegally
2) Potentially damaging your future relationship with your son.
There is nothing wrong with saying it's wrong and leaving it there. Yes, it is frustrating I am sure but it won't be as frustrating as annoying him and potentially shaming him in front of his peers and then him not speaking to you for the next ten years.
1) The fact a tattoo has been done illegally
2) Potentially damaging your future relationship with your son.
There is nothing wrong with saying it's wrong and leaving it there. Yes, it is frustrating I am sure but it won't be as frustrating as annoying him and potentially shaming him in front of his peers and then him not speaking to you for the next ten years.
This.
All I see is the OP trying to force his ideals on his kid.
Maybe you should actually ask your son, did he want the tattoo? Does he like it?
Surely thats all that matters. Oh and as others have said, the only thing that will happen is the tattooist (if its a registered shop and not just a kitchen tattoo) will claim to have been shown a (fake) ID, and get a 50 quid fine.
Maybe you should actually ask your son, did he want the tattoo? Does he like it?
Surely thats all that matters. Oh and as others have said, the only thing that will happen is the tattooist (if its a registered shop and not just a kitchen tattoo) will claim to have been shown a (fake) ID, and get a 50 quid fine.
If he wants it and he got it. Just leave it. Kicking up a fuss etc will push him away, with you hardly seeing him is your fault. If he thought he could talk to you, then he would have. Going to your solicitor etc, etc is exactly the over reaction to what he probably thinks off.
If he regrets it in later life, then you can blame him.
If he regrets it in later life, then you can blame him.
Or you could place to solicitors fees in a savings account so he can get it removed!
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I kind of understand this, but in 18 months time when the OPs lad is 18, the tattoo will still be there and won't look any different (most probably).
Parents that feel that way would still feel that way regardless of the 'childs' age. BUT, it's your/his/her life, led them lead it.
Not saying it was right, lawfully what the tattoist did was wrong, but how many people ignore/abuse/break laws that they don't agree with? I'd say we all do, be it major or minor.
The lad broke it and the tattoist, knowingly or otherwise broke it. Classing it as an 'assault' (in the eyes of the law(?)) is an absolute joke and i'l wager some tattoists take offence to that very statement and rebel against it.
Like others i think the OP is peeved at his son and ex more so than the tattoist.
The subject of tattoos is very subjective and very emotive, a marmite topic for sure, but it's done and the lad aint gonna have it removed anytime soon.
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What does him coming from a ''broken home'' have to do with the facts of the story? And how rude....
Your last comment is equally crass, equating a 'heroin' user with a homosexual? Oh dear.
To the OP, having children myself, I would be equally furious, but as others have said, if he has taken fake ID, I don't see how you could possibly take it further?
Also be wary of falling out with your son over all this. In 1.5 years he could legally be covered in tattoos if that is his wish.
The boys parents no longer live together, therefore its a "broken home" and seems to be a very widley accepted reason/excuse for kids/teenagers to act out and do thing like the OPs lad.
For any father or father the the thought of your child growing up to be a drug addict or a homosexual is equally as bad, maybe the latter is more of a sore subject with sons that daughters, what people admit to on these forums is another thing altogether.
Saying that, i suppose in time the family come to accept their offspring is homosexual and accept it, just like the OP will in time accept his lads got a tattoo, so this is a non story really.
Boys will be boys, but please feel free to spin my opinions anyway you like.
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Ask the tattoo artist what id was given ect. Wouldn't surprise me if his mum sat there and said its an 18th birthday present, or maybe fake id (seen some good fake id before) Make the tattooist aware that your son is under age for future reference. I wouldn't take it any further unless the tattooist acts like a complete tit.
Your main problem is with your son and possibly his mother and given your son has been avoiding you there is only so much you will be able to do when he's 16.
Your main problem is with your son and possibly his mother and given your son has been avoiding you there is only so much you will be able to do when he's 16.
Woah, steady on sunshine!
you are targetting the wrong person(s).
You are hacked off with his mum and throguh wanting some kind of vengeance you will now go for the only source you can through a lawyer at which is the tattoo parlour.
How about sortingout his mother to be a responsible parent, and if she can't then how about getting custody of your son andhaving him live with you as a responsbile parent rather than his blase mother........
You are hacked off with his mum and throguh wanting some kind of vengeance you will now go for the only source you can through a lawyer at which is the tattoo parlour.
How about sortingout his mother to be a responsible parent, and if she can't then how about getting custody of your son andhaving him live with you as a responsbile parent rather than his blase mother........
some of these new age piercing today like the massive earlobe disc things I can imagine would not regenrate though.................
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You know nothing about the OP to make such a judgement. Calm it down
Kids are ******s, if they have one parent that lets them roam free and one which disciplines them correctly and wants them to amount to something, they go to the one which lets them do as they want.
Being a parent is about more than being your kids friend, sometimes you've gotta play the bad guy, and if the other parent refuses to do so it turns the kid against you and screws up the situation.
Just saying.