For squadrons at least, a high refresh setting with lower graphics, is better than the other way round, with regards to help with nausea.
Also, as Mel invited, once you get it, grab rec room and post when you're available on the hangout thread, and we can do some of the quests together, they're good fun.
Do you have to use the mic?
I'm a bit shy, so I don't bother using a mic