Violent Ex-Girlfriend

jezsoup · 27 Mar 2006 at 15:25

da_mic_1530 said:
i stand by the view that very little in life needs to extend to physical violence, report her

Im not condoning physical violence, but I think havinga coupel of bruises that heal and then sorting things out with her for good is a lot more favourable then going to the police and screwing her life over, if anything that will make her more bitter!

Follow the Gillbot!

da_mic_1530 · 27 Mar 2006 at 15:26

Nix said:
I've just realised no ones said it yet, so I guess i'm going to have to do the honour...

Punch her in the ovaries/norks.

i know you were joking, sounds cliche but i couldnt hit a women, even if she was attacking me, i would only restrain her, bearhugs for the win

AJUK · 27 Mar 2006 at 15:29

Steameh said:
Yea you messed her about but imo that's no reason at all for her to smash a glass bottle over your head.... TWICE?!. A good slap round the chops would suffice but there is no need for violent behavour like that.

Take it all the way fella! Your worried about screwing her career up, thats the sort of stuff that happens when you smash someone round the head with glass bottles, she'll get over it. She could have screwed your face up and that's gonna be for life.

Indeed, do not underestimate the severity of an attack with a glass bottle. My uncle was glassed in the face a few years ago and he has had to undergo several painful operations to put things right. However, he stil has the scars.

Such an assault will (or should I say SHOULD) be taken very seriously and could even be classd as attempted murder. Certainly GBH, which, IIRC, can have a sentence of up to life. :eek:

(or punch her in the ovaries

)

Dreadi · 27 Mar 2006 at 15:35

shop her, glassing is pretty serious, a slap would have done

Gilly · 27 Mar 2006 at 15:45

wozzizname said:
I'm wondering if the Girl needs professional help - how many other people might she have attacked and persuaded not to press charges ?

How do we even know she did it at all?

I think thats a strange line to take given that we don't even know her.

Mr Jack · 27 Mar 2006 at 15:51

Report her. No question.

Pebbles · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:09

Whilst I agree with Gilly, I also understand this is a terrible double standard, if the tables had been turned people would be baying for you to be locked up and the key thrown in the river. A tough one, I cant say I envy you.

Roberta · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:14

Pebbles said:
Whilst I agree with Gilly, I also understand this is a terrible double standard, if the tables had been turned people would be baying for you to be locked up and the key thrown in the river. A tough one, I cant say I envy you.

Totally agree.

I'd probably get her to promise she'll steer well clear of you and if she starts again then see the police.

Dublove · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:14

She "should" know she did wrong the first time. Obviously there being a second time she hasn't worked that out yet. You should report it again.

KaHn · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:14

Nix said:
I've just realised no ones said it yet, so I guess i'm going to have to do the honour...

Punch her in the ovaries/norks.

Post number #12.

"Kick her in the ovaries"

KaHn

^TANK^ · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:33

james.miller said:
report her. cheating on her is no excuse for smashing you over the head with a glass bottle.

yes it is but anyway give her the benefit of the doubt that if it happens again you will have no option but to go to the police

Sic · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:37

if i was in the OP's situation, charges would be pressed, but i'd be honest about having been a crappy boyfriend, so they could at least see some justification in her actions.

Shikkaka · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:39

Sic said:
if i was in the OP's situation, charges would be pressed, but i'd be honest about having been a crappy boyfriend, so they could at least see some justification in her actions.

Still doesn't justify hitting him over the head with a glass bottle imo

Sleepy · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:42

To all who say give her another chance: she's attacked him twice now, just how many more chances should she have? Do you want to wait till she scars him for life in another glassing.

having been a crappy boyfriend, so they could at least see some justification in her actions.

There is no excuse for physically attacking someone no matter their gender. We live in the 21st century people, all are equal in the eyes of the law.

Sic · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:42

Steameh said:
Still doesn't justify hitting him over the head with a glass bottle imo

i didnt say it did. that's why i said i'd still go to the police :confused:

wtf, am i being unclear or something?!

^TANK^ · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:46

Kanye not having a pop at you mate but why oh why would you get with a girl or cheat on one with a temper like that thats like playing with fire :confused:

Sleepy · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:49

Sic said:
wtf, am i being unclear or something?!

You stated that her actions were in some way justified. They are not, nothing an ex does justifies a physical assault on them, especially 6 months later

wozzizname · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:52

Quote:
Originally Posted by wozzizname
I'm wondering if the Girl needs professional help - how many other people might she have attacked and persuaded not to press charges ?

How do we even know she did it at all?

I think thats a strange line to take given that we don't even know her.

My point is that someone who launches two unprovoked attacks in public on the OP is very likely either to have done something similar in the past, or may do so in the future, possibly to someone else. You'd be doing her and everyone else a favour if she could seek some advice on dealing with her anger - maybe it's a one (or two) off case and she'll never do anything like it again but you won't feel too good if she bottles you or some other bloke in the face.
I have been on the wrong end of a violent ex, from punching ,kicking, having things thrown at me and even threatened with a knife to my throat - it ain't nice, and what was worse was knowing that I could have knocked her out easily (I was a martial arts instructor for a while), but daren't lay a finger on her as she threatened to tell the police I was assaulting her if I reported it...

Sic · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:53

Sleepy said:
You stated that her actions were in some way justified. They are not, nothing an ex does justifies a physical assault on them, especially 6 months later

they are, in some way, justified. everyone reacts to things differently and he shouldn't have cheated on her. i've wanted to smash things over my ex that cheated on me.

Going to Cali · 27 Mar 2006 at 16:58

She clearly has problems. One of my friends had a girlfriend who was nearly commited after they split up. We went out for his birthday, she came along and I was shocked at how condemning her so called friends were about her. I think you need to support people in these situations. I've not read the full thread so other people may have given better advice but regardless, here's my 2p.

Personally, I would arrange to see her somewhere neutral (preferably without glass bottles) and talk about your relationship. Let her know that you can forgive her for what's happened and admit your part in the problem but that you will not tolerate her attacking you anymore. Give her one more chance otherwise you'll have no option other than to report her to the police.

Hope it all goes well.