And you have proof that it's the start/stop causing this? You know batteries fail for other reasons don't you and I have never had one battery failure on the four cars we've had with the system and I don't expect to have any..
The current draw to start an engine every few minutes in heavy traffic and then charging them to capacity in quick succession is not good for any battery. You don't need proof, it is how batteries react when used heavily. I will see how long mine lasts compared to the other cars with start/stopped enabled.