That's strange, thought I would mention BIOS as haven't really read through all the old posts thoroughly enough.
Perhaps the problem with memtest/IBT stability could be that the voltages are dropping while in Prime95 load? I set my DDR Load Line Calibration to maximum so that it doesn't drop, I also keep an eye on the VTT during load to make sure it's not dropping, I let mine increase at load from 1.06 to 1.07V.
IBT tends to make my system draw more voltage out of everything, Prime95 tends to not use as much so I never seem to have IBT stability problems.
Good luck with your ram, I noticed no difference going from 9-10's to 9-11's apart from a few numbers on the benchmarks.