Was I right to respond the way I did?

Dowies correct here as always. Just read what Dowie types and believe. Is it just me that cannot abide Dowie. Dowie whats your POF id , you want some crossdressing filth.
 
How can you even get this attached to some random woman this quick? So what if shes not available on the weekend lol, its not the end of the world, you're a MAN at the end of the day there are dozens of things you can do on the weekends, like post on ocuk or study some psychology because she's supposed to be chasing after you not the other way round. It's why women are commonly referred to as "birds" run at them at full pelt and you will just scare them away. Take it easy.
 
JamesJoanne said:
So I met this polish girl from POF and from the beginning she seemed quite a reserved person. Fair enough I thought some people need more time than others to "open" up. We chatted for about 2 hours over some drinks and during this time although she was quite talkative about subjects that I would bring up she didn't ask me a single question, and I me
Am I overthinking this and caused a problem that isn't really there or I handled this appropriately and fairly given the circumstances? I just wanted to protect my time/money/feelings messing with someone who has shown, in my opinion, red flags of disinterest.
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it's a hard one , it would have annoyed me if i was asked no questions. and then the chasing with late replies and faffing
but then if you see something in them you like it might be worth the effort, just to make sure
when i did online dating i had a few experiences like this though, the vibes were off and i ended it straight away. no point in wasting time
 
Boycey0211 said:
Somethings wrong if you think you have to change for a woman.

A lot of us here might be insufferable ****holes but that doesnt mean you have to change to please a woman.

Its called finding the right partner, someone who's prepared to put up with all your ****, and in return you put up with theirs. Nobody has to change, just tolerate.
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Everyone changes.

We learn, evolve and grow.

And our environment shapes that. Having a partner is part of that environment so, naturally, you change with it.

In other ways, we are self-reflective and should work on ourselves to correct our weaknesses. And if we recognise from our failures with women that there are areas we are deficient in, then we should take that feedback and try to improve.

Otherwise, what? You just give in to your own bull-poo, and let it rule your life? Stay living in your mother's basement and die alone? Repeat interactions like the one in the OP until you finally find someone with low enough self-esteem to just accept and put up with you being the monster you are?

Sounds a pretty cowardly way to live, frankly, being too scared to address your underlying failures.
 
FoxEye said:
This thread, for better or worse, is full of blokes saying "Women want this; women expect this; you need to change; you need to learn; you need to X, Y, Z."

It's a crazy world that women are constantly saying how they have it sooooo bad, and yet men literally bend over backwards to please them. Changing any aspect of themselves and their behaviour to better fit women's expectations.

It amuses me on the one hand; on the other hand confirms that I will die alone. I have no desire to mould myself into anything other than what I want to be. Not for Jane, Mary, Martha or even Paul.
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Lmao.

So true....

Just be Jeremy Meeks bro, just get jacked bro.

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This is how most women are. They want all the attention, guys to make all the moves and questions headed their way but don't want to reciprocate. It takes two to have a conversation. There's only so many conversation starting points you can come up with.
It's how the world is.

Indeed you dodged a bullet mate. Consider yourself lucky. People like that don't deserve any attention.

Move on. Maybe next time you'll have more luck.
 
cheesyboy said:
Everyone changes.

We learn, evolve and grow.

And our environment shapes that. Having a partner is part of that environment so, naturally, you change with it.

In other ways, we are self-reflective and should work on ourselves to correct our weaknesses. And if we recognise from our failures with women that there are areas we are deficient in, then we should take that feedback and try to improve.

Otherwise, what? You just give in to your own bull-poo, and let it rule your life? Stay living in your mother's basement and die alone? Repeat interactions like the one in the OP until you finally find someone with low enough self-esteem to just accept and put up with you being the monster you are?

Sounds a pretty cowardly way to live, frankly, being too scared to address your underlying failures.
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who's to say their vision of you is "correct"? who says accepting you is a case of low self-esteem? why should you change to suit someone else? why shouldn't THEY change to suit YOU?
 
Jesus man if she's not showing any interest move onto the next one, she owes you very little after one date...you just gave her an easy out by acting like that. If the first date was so bad why would you even want a second one?
 
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