Was I right to respond the way I did?

The opening post does sound rather naive. Nothing wrong with that, we all have to start somewhere, but a first meeting is not a commitment and acting like an entitled arse is not something women tend to like. It comes across a little bit like. "oh god, 'one of them' said yes to a meeting, she is the one" when she was thinking "meh, why not, he might surprise me". Sadly you failed at that test and came across as a creepy scary bloke and she has now run a mile.

Women like to be courted, but not by scary demand bloke, then they run and run fast and you are left wondering "why are all women mentals" when in fact, it's actually you.
 
Rifte said:
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Exactly what I was going to post. Male Bunny boiler :)
 
I wouldnt read too much into the fact she takes a while to respond via text. Speaking from experience as my wifes Polish, she probably had to work out the proper grammar so you wouldnt think she was stupid, also the confidence to ask quickfire questions or questions at all is significantly lower as a second language speaker. She will also have different cultural expectations of a mans expected behaviour towards her as a woman.
 
Take a girl out, she shows zero interest in you.. And you decide you want a second date. Jesus man have some dignity lol.

It's a dating website. You need to take it way less seriously.
 
OP you have a lot of basics to learn about women. I guess you have not had much experience with relationships?

You are the problem here, not her.
 
G-MAN2004 said:
Never show a girl that you're having doubts about her even liking you, as you'll just come across as weak and desperate. You're meant to show them that you're not bothered if they don't reply, because you've got other options anyway. Never give them power over you.
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This thread, for better or worse, is full of blokes saying "Women want this; women expect this; you need to change; you need to learn; you need to X, Y, Z."

It's a crazy world that women are constantly saying how they have it sooooo bad, and yet men literally bend over backwards to please them. Changing any aspect of themselves and their behaviour to better fit women's expectations.

It amuses me on the one hand; on the other hand confirms that I will die alone. I have no desire to mould myself into anything other than what I want to be. Not for Jane, Mary, Martha or even Paul.
 
Lol at some of the comments here just lol.

Op don’t worry about it, plenty of more fish in the sea...that’s why it’s called POF ;-).
 
FoxEye said:
This thread, for better or worse, is full of blokes saying "Women want this; women expect this; you need to change; you need to learn; you need to X, Y, Z."

It's a crazy world that women are constantly saying how they have it sooooo bad, and yet men literally bend over backwards to please them. Changing any aspect of themselves and their behaviour to better fit women's expectations.

It amuses me on the one hand; on the other hand confirms that I will die alone. I have no desire to mould myself into anything other than what I want to be. Not for Jane, Mary, Martha or even Paul.
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While I agree with the sentiment, I think this is more just the law of attraction as opposed to something specific to women.

As a bloke, I know I find it more attractive for there to be a bit of suspense and chase. If she was needy after the first date or acted like the OP (no offence OP...) then I would lose attraction as well.

It's a silly game, but unfortunately one many of us will have to play at some point.
 
FoxEye said:
This thread, for better or worse, is full of blokes saying "Women want this; women expect this; you need to change; you need to learn; you need to X, Y, Z."

It's a crazy world that women are constantly saying how they have it sooooo bad, and yet men literally bend over backwards to please them. Changing any aspect of themselves and their behaviour to better fit women's expectations.

It amuses me on the one hand; on the other hand confirms that I will die alone. I have no desire to mould myself into anything other than what I want to be. Not for Jane, Mary, Martha or even Paul.
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Somethings wrong if you think you have to change for a woman.

A lot of us here might be insufferable ****holes but that doesnt mean you have to change to please a woman.

Its called finding the right partner, someone who's prepared to put up with all your ****, and in return you put up with theirs. Nobody has to change, just tolerate.
 
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