Wedding present lists.

We had a gift list, but set it up so that there was things always available in a price range from £5 up to £500, initially we had a max gift of £100 but had to increase it after relatives complained that it was too little (don't ask me why, I thought £100 was a bit much).

There was an option simply to give cash though via the list, worked well.

I do think it's cheeky asking for cash in an invitation, poem or not but then again I don't like the idea of gift lists anyway.
 
We got married on sunday just gone and asked for money off everyone (just whatever amount they wanted to give was fine) ended up with 1500 :O Nice new posh bed and a honneymoon all paid for :)
 
I think I'd rather go for a honeymoon list over actual list of items.

That way people can put in as much or little as they want.

In Chinese culture you pay for your place at the table (red packets/ang pows) as well as other gifts.

Would never expect people to bring gifts as have attended many weddings myself, but at the same time am appreciating just how much they cost.

BB x
 
R-evans said:
Inspired by the other thread with the chap not knowing what presents to get :)

I've been to a few weddings where the couple have made a wedding present list for things they need/want for their house, etc.

I always thought it was a bit cheeky as some had really expensive stuff on it, but I wouldn't know what to buy otherwise and thinking about it, when I get married (next few years) I like the idea of choosing what I get rather than getting things I wont like and know I could have had better.

What is the general thought on these?

Boring thread I know, no need to tell me.
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For my wedding (2 weeks to go) we are asking for donations, either to charity of their choice or into out honeymoon fund (which will liekly just cover sme of the wedding costs). This is much more common these days. People need money, not consumer items they only thought of to fill out the wedding registry. This also basically let's the guest pay for their wedding reception. If we are payi g 100-150 euros per guest for food drink, transport etc. then asking for a donation to cover costs makes the most sense.


In much of Europe this is the done thing. There is a box where guest slip in envelopes.

No more useless chocolate fondue sets or choosing items from Debenhams that you really dot actually need.
 
jaybee said:
But I don't think the fact that you can give any voucher or cash value helps. If anything it makes it worse. Although it is meant to read as "don't worry you can give what you can afford" it to me reads "don't worry pikies, you can give a tenner if you can't afford a new John Lewis pillow". As an example, I am going to a wedding soon actually and they are a colleague only.
How much should I give since they have asked for money only.
£10?
£20?
£30?
£50?
£100?
If I should give what I can "afford" then well...what does that even mean? I can afford to give away £100 probably and still survive. Do I want to? No.
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Rule of thumb is to pay what you expect the wedding reception cost is, tat s what I hae heard NF makes sense.
 
checjb said:
My fiancee and I spoke to our local travel agent and they suggested that we book a honeymoon wherever we like and then guests can pay whatever they like (anonymously) towards it. That way no-one feels pressured into giving as much as someone else, only what they want. In addition, he said that as we have to pay the balance a month before travel, if there are any late payments then they will refund us that as cash for our trip. Sorted. :)
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That is what I wanted to do but because of timing difficulties we couldn't really do this. I think the anonymity is important but most euro weddings just put a box where people can put money. Those that are not ashamed will put money within a personal envelope, those that want to to be more secretive can put the cad and cash in separately.

Seems strange, a bit like begging for money,but it is what other cout rise and cultures have been doing since the advent of money, because it makes by far the most sense.



Wedding presents dates back to when you wouldn't live together before being married and once married would move into a new home. Therefore you would need new thinks like cutlery and crockey, wine glasses, kitchen are, decor, etc. since most people live together before getting married they already have all of this stuff.
 
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checjb said:
My fiancee and I spoke to our local travel agent and they suggested that we book a honeymoon wherever we like and then guests can pay whatever they like (anonymously) towards it. That way no-one feels pressured into giving as much as someone else, only what they want. In addition, he said that as we have to pay the balance a month before travel, if there are any late payments then they will refund us that as cash for our trip. Sorted. :)
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We set up an account with the travel agents too. My wife and I now have the opportunity for the honeymoon we have dreamed of, to Mexico in 15 days time.
 
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