wedding venue has cancelled our wedding.

Malt_Vinegar said:
My partner and I are just going to pop down the registry office one weekend, and not tell our families till after.
Sure fire way to avoid all the political issues, cost issues and hassle!!
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tis quite a tempting option... you could always go and get married on holiday somewhere too, without telling anyone till you get back

some friends of mine are planning to do that (albeit they've told people), they're going to get married somewhere on a beach, not inviting anyone, then just have an informal wedding party in the UK for friends and family... probably a big tent in a beer garden in a local pub next summer... removes a lot of the faff and expesne
 
Art said:
Uh, yeah, until they discover that they weren't invited to your wedding and then you'll never hear the end of it. My mother would quite possibly murder me if I did that!
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This is where people need to realise that a wedding is for the PEOPLE GETTING MARRIED, not for anyone else.

If no-one is invited, how can anyone get upset! Do it the way you want it, and everyone else can go hang. Its about committing to the other person, not an excuse to provide a free party (at your expense) to everyone you know. Wedding culture in the UK has gone a bit mental.. 50k on a wedding, no thanks, i just spent that on a house deposit. Tell me which is more worth having :p
 
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One client of mine, 5 weeks before the big day emailed saying the building has undergone their renovation (every 5 years) by putting scaffolding up front and back...it's like they never knew this before! So they had to find a place in much shorter notice.

With 5 Months I am sure you would be okay :)
 
The new owners are not hosting weddings, however, i find it annoying that we booked the venue at the end of March (so they must have already thought about selling by then). It's just a real kick in the teeth.

It's all well and good saying it's ok, we've got 5 months yet. We can't go looking at other venues as we're both here in UK working long hours. All we can do is try and co-ordinate with my partners parents and hope they can find us a nice venue.
 
wez130 said:
All we can do is try and co-ordinate with my partners parents to have a poop party through the old venue's letter box.
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Now we're talking!

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Dude.

You have a sob story to tell.

Use it wisely, and I doubt you are going to end up with anything that is not much better than what you had planned.

Your partners parent are paying for this or something?
 
I hate weddings but do nothing to hide that fact. So much to the point I've avoided my own for over ten years now. I'd rather burn the money in the garden and say it's done than actually do it. Lol

My brother gets married next year but he's renting out a Zoo for the day so that should at least be amusing over the norm.

I see adult life as a series of boring happenings that you are forced to do and then the odd distraction to remind you life is fun. Weddings are meant to fit into the "good and fun" area but are chores and utter snoozefests.
 
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That sucks - my sister is getting married like Oct next year and its already a big deal, lots of planning, drama, etc.
 
Hades said:
I wouldn't do this. A very good and close childhood friend did this and invited me. We'd known each other for 30 years. But I'd just had children and bought a new house and money was very tight. I couldn't afford it and it caused quite a bit of friction between the two of us as he felt I should make every effort to attend while I felt that he should appreciate my position and pay part of the cost if he really wanted me there when I was broke.
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I wouldn't be friends with that guy. Expecting you to pay to come to HIS wedding? Hell no.
 
Cancel the wedding, save for another year and find somewhere nicer but book a nice honeymoon as a treat. In a few years you'll laugh at it :)
 
Can't cancel. Everything else is booked, Can only afford the flights to NZ once atm as buying a house when we get back. They are paid for. It'll be three years or so by the time we can get to NZ again. Honeymoon is also booked, 3 nights in Sydney for NYE and 3 nights in Dubai. I'm sure we'll find something before then.
 
Don't know what nz laws are like, but just get married in registry office with no family/friends. Then go over to NZ and have a fake(but official) wedding, with none of the restrictions and costs.
 
Hades said:
I wouldn't do this. A very good and close childhood friend did this and invited me. We'd known each other for 30 years. But I'd just had children and bought a new house and money was very tight. I couldn't afford it and it caused quite a bit of friction between the two of us as he felt I should make every effort to attend while I felt that he should appreciate my position and pay part of the cost if he really wanted me there when I was broke.
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On one hand, if I were the groom, if I were to have a destination wedding, and if people can't afford to come due to their various circumstances such as finance or lack of time to travel that far. I would totally understand and wouldn't made a fuss as its expected that not everyone can make it.

However, as the guest, in a million years I wouldn't expect the couple to fund your travel and costs. I think that's where the friction comes from. It would set a terrible precedent.
 
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Sorry to hear that. I'm getting married next month and I can imagine your pain.

Do you have a written contract or at least an exchange of written correspondence setting out the agreement? If so, is there a choice of law or jurisdiction clause? NZ law is not that different to English law in any case. As a consumer, under English law you would likely have a strong as argument for breach of contract regardless of what any written agreement said and may be able to recover some of your losses. Depending on how significant those losses are and what their commercial plans are, you might also be able to enough pressure on them financially to make them honour the agreement.
 
I think it's starting to look like a blessing in disguise now. Found a couple of new venues, one on Kawau island has our date available but we have to hire all the rooms ($4005) plus venue hire ($800) then feed the guests at $85 each. If guests that are staying would go halves and pay $200 for their room, that would be good. We're going to skype my partners parents soon and see what they think.

My preferred one though is a roof top terrace in the CBD, overlooking skytower, but nothing is included in that, it's basically a room, a small kitchen and the terrace for upto 100 people. I'd have to hire a mobile bar, crockery, cutlery, glassware etc , a sound system etc, but i'm thinking a barbeque for food hehe.
 
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