wedding venue has cancelled our wedding.

Raymond Lin said:
On one hand, if I were the groom, if I were to have a destination wedding, and if people can't afford to come due to their various circumstances such as finance or lack of time to travel that far.

However, as the guest, in a million years I wouldn't expect the couple to fund your travel and costs. I think that's where the friction comes from. It would set a terrible precedent.
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It's a really strange concept, before I read this thread I would have thought that someone organising a wedding event like that would at least understand that it's possible the people you want to come, might not be able to afford it. I'd assume that someone who's just bought a house and had kids would be SKINT anyway.

It's so bizarre that they got upset about it, I can only assume that they couldn't have been a truly good friend.
 
Weddings are just excuses to hemorrhage cash in all directions
Ive been to both lavish and shoe string budget ones. It always ends up finacially wrecking the happy couple for the foreseeable. All that nonsense for a single day. :'(
 
wez130 said:
I think it's starting to look like a blessing in disguise now. Found a couple of new venues, one on Kawau island has our date available but we have to hire all the rooms ($4005) plus venue hire ($800) then feed the guests at $85 each. If guests that are staying would go halves and pay $200 for their room, that would be good. We're going to skype my partners parents soon and see what they think.

My preferred one though is a roof top terrace in the CBD, overlooking skytower, but nothing is included in that, it's basically a room, a small kitchen and the terrace for upto 100 people. I'd have to hire a mobile bar, crockery, cutlery, glassware etc , a sound system etc, but i'm thinking a barbeque for food hehe.
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all these prices mean nothing to me since I dont know NZ dollar rates.

Good luck anyway.

Hope you are going over early to get over that horrendous jet lag.

I would never go there unless I could fly 1st class.
 
jas72 said:
all these prices mean nothing to me since I dont know NZ dollar rates.

Good luck anyway.

Hope you are going over early to get over that horrendous jet lag.

I would never go there unless I could fly 1st class.
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A bit over the top? Do you travel much at all?

Unless you're rich or have a spare £7K-£10K, I guess you're not going there then?

It's really not that difficult to get to and the flight really isn't that bad. Just man up and get it done.
 
Who gets married anymore?
It doesn't mean anything.
If you really want to just do it for the cheap, go to the registry office and save the cash. If you wanted to throw cash into the abyss, throw it all on the honeymoon.
 
MatsyLR said:
Who gets married anymore?
It doesn't mean anything.
If you really want to just do it for the cheap, go to the registry office and save the cash. If you wanted to throw cash into the abyss, throw it all on the honeymoon.
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Because some people believe in it and feel like it legitimises their relationship. Others do it because they want to be bonded to their soulmate before God/Allah/etc... Others do it for a multitude of other reasons.

It does mean something to those people (myself included).

It is a happy time and a time you want to celebrate with friends and family. Sure it seems perverse to some, but to others it is also a wonderful happy occasion to enjoy.

Of course you can go to excess with spending (fortunately we didn't) but even if you do or do not it doesn't make it any less valid.

Of course these days you don't have to get married at all - but for me it was an important step in my life.

OP - sorry to hear about that, that sucks :(

How much have you spent?
Have you got insurance?
Can you not organise something else there must be a hall or hotel with facilities?
Or a beach, get some tents/marquees up instead.

Hope you get it sorted either way.
 
Having got married a month ago, I can only imagine getting a email like that! Stress.

Marriage means more to some people than others. We are both glad we got married and loved our wedding day.

It didn't come anywhere near financially crippling us.

Hope you get sorted op, good luck!
 
MatsyLR said:
Who gets married anymore?
It doesn't mean anything.
If you really want to just do it for the cheap, go to the registry office and save the cash. If you wanted to throw cash into the abyss, throw it all on the honeymoon.
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Totally insensitive to the situation, not everyone feels bitter like you. My wedding day was without doubt one of the best days of my life and worth all the time and effort.

Really feel for you OP, it would have been absolutely gutting if this had happened to us as there was only one venue we wanted.
 
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jas72 said:
all these prices mean nothing to me since I dont know NZ dollar rates.

Good luck anyway.

Hope you are going over early to get over that horrendous jet lag.

I would never go there unless I could fly 1st class.
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£1 = $2.2NZD about at the moment.

I'm flying economy with Emirates but if i can get a good upgrade offer to business class i'll take it.
 
Hades said:
I told my dad by postcard while I was on honeymoon. He wasn't best pleased.
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my parents realised I was married when they found a letter addressed to my surname with the prefix mrs :D they were visiting me and my "gf" about 6 months after we got married lol
 
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