What are your thoughts?
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I think you're being overly dramatic. Condoms are very effective at preventing most types of STD. That said, anything you do in life carries a rich attached with it. Leaving the house each day could be risky, no?
You could even go as far as to say that most fun things in life are risky. Bungee jumping, parachute jumping, hand gliding... heck isn't fishing a little dangerous too?
You're not going to stop someone that loves bungee jumping by telling them it's dangerous, but long as people know the risks and take every available caution, then I can't see a problem.
Interestingly, I just read that the risk of death by bungee jumping is 1 in 500,000, the same as travelling 161 km's by car.
Another thing to take into account is that when you have casual sex with a large number of partners you're not just putting yourself at risk, as would be the case with bungee jumping.
Another thing to take into account is that when you have casual sex with a large number of partners you're not just putting yourself at risk, as would be the case with bungee jumping.
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Hey Jen! Nice to see you posting again, and we must must catch up for drinks again soon!
In answer to your question - on a personal note if I liked the person and we ended up getting it on on the first encounter, it wouldn't matter to me... however some people just say things to get their end away... however if I was under no illusion that it was just a chat for the evening and I got your number for example I would be equally as happy as that. Then again I'm not a fan of 1 night stands as you know so for me it wouldn't be a deal breaker - then again if I managed to get your number (pretending I don't have it
) then I'd be the happiest man ever (but I'm biased). So wouldn't mind if the evening ended there.
I think personally I'd be quite excited to go back to hers but it would win win for both really if it turns into something - however if it doesn't then I wouldn't be devastated but it would still be a bit of a shame if there was a lot of attraction.
In answer to your question - on a personal note if I liked the person and we ended up getting it on on the first encounter, it wouldn't matter to me... however some people just say things to get their end away... however if I was under no illusion that it was just a chat for the evening and I got your number for example I would be equally as happy as that. Then again I'm not a fan of 1 night stands as you know so for me it wouldn't be a deal breaker - then again if I managed to get your number (pretending I don't have it
) then I'd be the happiest man ever (but I'm biased). So wouldn't mind if the evening ended there.I think personally I'd be quite excited to go back to hers but it would win win for both really if it turns into something - however if it doesn't then I wouldn't be devastated but it would still be a bit of a shame if there was a lot of attraction.
Be sure to use a condom....or two? This thread has confused me.
meet a girl in a club, if things were going well, yea i'd go back and see how things progress, there's not much to lose unless you're a moron who doesn't use condoms with strangers, but as for the dating side of things, it's obviously not unheard of for people to actually find someone perfect for them in clubs, so I don't see why not
Clubs are absolutely the worst place to find a girlfriend, they are completely artificial environments and everyone's judgement is in their pants. That's not to say it doesn't happen, but the absolute best way to meet girls is either through your social circle or by joining some kind of club or further education. For example, joining a night class in a foreign language. You can almost guarantee there will nice girls there and of course there will be class nights out. If you don't meet your mate you will also increase your social circle, not to mention learning a foreign language/skill/etc, getting out of the house and using your brain.
Interesting thread and something I have wondered many times.
I guess it really depends on the individual and how much they like you. I've never been a one nighter kind of girl and to make sure the last bf was in it for the right reasons I made him wait 7 weeks before I'd go anywhere near him sexually because I knew he had a bit of a reputation.
I don't see why going back to someones house automatically means you're up for sex. To me that is a huge assumption to make but how do you tell someone before hand that you dont do one nighters without making an absolute pratt of yourself.
P.S I disagree on the clubs being the worst place thing...I met my long term ex in a club and we were together 5 years. It is a shared interest after all as generally if you are out clubbing for the night then its because you enjoy it so if a possible new partner enjoys it too then game on.
I guess it really depends on the individual and how much they like you. I've never been a one nighter kind of girl and to make sure the last bf was in it for the right reasons I made him wait 7 weeks before I'd go anywhere near him sexually because I knew he had a bit of a reputation.
I don't see why going back to someones house automatically means you're up for sex. To me that is a huge assumption to make but how do you tell someone before hand that you dont do one nighters without making an absolute pratt of yourself.
P.S I disagree on the clubs being the worst place thing...I met my long term ex in a club and we were together 5 years. It is a shared interest after all as generally if you are out clubbing for the night then its because you enjoy it so if a possible new partner enjoys it too then game on.
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Think of it this way: if it was a deal breaker are you sure you'd want to invest your time in them?
My thoughts exactly, if you like smart women, you meet them in libraries/bookshops, if you like girls who have the same taste in music, go to clubs that play the right stuff, people go where they like going, so it's a smart assumption you'll have something in common
Definitely! I'm back in a few weeks so will call you - you know it's been over a year!! My 21st was last time right?
In answer to your question - on a personal note if I liked the person and we ended up getting it on on the first encounter, it wouldn't matter to me... however some people just say things to get their end away... however if I was under no illusion that it was just a chat for the evening and I got your number for example I would be equally as happy as that. Then again I'm not a fan of 1 night stands as you know so for me it wouldn't be a deal breaker - then again if I managed to get your number (pretending I don't have it
You're very sweet
but at the risk of sounding like a bitter feminist, most boys really don't think that way and I think that if for example you've got on well but then the girl gives her number and leaves the club then the guy will have no problem in just meeting another girl and going back to hers if she shows interest. I've seen friends of mine do the exact thing and when I ask "I thought you really liked that girl whose number you got" they're just like "she was nice, but no big deal, this girl here is up for a good night".What you think?
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I think it's quite funny that this thread has turned into a sex ed class.
To be honest, in answer to the op, all situations are unique, and therefore there is no guaranteed outcome.
To be honest, in answer to the op, all situations are unique, and therefore there is no guaranteed outcome.
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You're very sweet
What you think?
Maybe your conclusions are from a specific demographic? After all, people found in nightclubs could have a higher proportion of people after casual relationships I would assume. The problem your having maybe to do with the source of your dataset rather than issues with men in general.
In summary, pick up blokes in other places than a nightclub
What's wrong with that though? You've just met someone and swapped contact details... you're not married!
What's wrong with that though? You've just met someone and swapped contact details... you're not married!
Yeah I totally agree with you! But if I'd met somebody I thought was really nice in a club and swapped numbers etc then I wouldn't really be looking to meet somebody else that night and if I did....unless there was much more of a spark with that person than the previous person then I wouldn't consider anything else with them. For the boys I know, it doesn't matter whether the girl is nicer or not, it's how much further she'll go!
I think i'd have to say if you go back to theirs and its just sex and nothing comes from it, then you had a fun evening (providing you are able to handle that) and if it develops from there and thats what both parties want then thats all good too.
It may sound weird, but to me, whilst sex can be amazing in a relationship, it can also be just as good (although not on such a deep level) as casual sex with someone you dont see again, or just have sex with on a casual basis. As long as both sides know that's what it is.
It may sound weird, but to me, whilst sex can be amazing in a relationship, it can also be just as good (although not on such a deep level) as casual sex with someone you dont see again, or just have sex with on a casual basis. As long as both sides know that's what it is.
