No I'm not. Just shocked at some of the responses (when arguably I shouldn't be !)
I'd actually argue the arguably, considering the majority demographic of these forums!
What is it with blokes today?
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I'd actually argue the arguably, considering the majority demographic of these forums!
Dot.
What is the majority demographic on this forum?
Male....sure. Age? More difficult to place maybe? 18-30?
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Good post 
Especially agree with the whole spark comment. I am 25 and still fairly inexperienced in comparison to a lot of the more adult members here. I have many friends who are the same age or older than me who just seem to shag anything and have little value for commitment, relationships and confuse lust with love.
Sure, I have made mistakes. But I have learned from them and I am a better person for it. I hope to marry my partner one day. It’s just not the right time as far as money is concerned. I hope my responses to the threads in question have not been tarnished by your brush tbz_ck
Especially agree with the whole spark comment. I am 25 and still fairly inexperienced in comparison to a lot of the more adult members here. I have many friends who are the same age or older than me who just seem to shag anything and have little value for commitment, relationships and confuse lust with love.
Sure, I have made mistakes. But I have learned from them and I am a better person for it. I hope to marry my partner one day. It’s just not the right time as far as money is concerned. I hope my responses to the threads in question have not been tarnished by your brush tbz_ck
Also you mention pathetic 15 year old responses. They are pathetic responses as they are probably either 15 or because This is the Internet.
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I don't know, I know theres quite a bit of tongue a cheek on here but I wouldn't say we're all guilty of being 'computer geeks' and even if some are plenty of people on here have girlfriends or are married so can (and do) offer relationship advice based on their own experience, I think this is a very good place to ask for advice when people are being serious, you will always get a few people that try at every inopportune moment to ego boost themselves up by trying to be witty, I tend to find they are the real 'geeks' tbh, they don't have much experience with woman so they post silly comments instead, I can't really criticise them though because at the same time as I guess GD would be pretty boring without them.
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I think you make a good point OP and I respect you very much for pointing out a sad truth. Sadly this "civilised" society is encouraging this 1 dimensional nature and gullible people are following, that includes the stupid tongue in cheek comments, cos lets face the internet is no excuse what so ever to make such poor distasteful comments
Sound to me like you are so happily ingrained in your own relationship that you seem to have forgot that your way of having relationships isn't the only way of having relationships and that no one way is any more valid than another.
If people on this forum want to jump from relationship to relationship without building up deep emotional commitments then who are you to say they are wrong?
Just because you have chosen a different path (for which I commend you - I am one year married and very happily in love with my wife) doesn't mean that the more flippant and promiscuous ways of life are any less valid.
Good on the lads who like a bit of variety and equally good on those who don't!
Completely agree with the OP. This forum seems to be further and further from the outside world as time progresses. Some of the responses are cringeworthy from people who have obviously never experienced the emotions that normal people would. Gets tiring reading page after page of alpha male rubbish from clueless geeks.
Shame really as this forum used to be a good read!
Shame really as this forum used to be a good read!
cba to answer....too difficult
I can't "define" whether someone is "the one". I've been in a couple of relationships where I've been totally and deeply in love with the other person and at the time I could have imagined spending the rest of my life with them. For whatever reason those relationships ended and looking back its probably for the best. I've met girls who I know aren't right for me and have lasted a couple of dates (if that
), others (one in particular) who changed my idea of what I wanted completely. That doesn't make the relationships and the feelings I had before any less real it just makes me think.......how can I seriously commit to someone (ie. marriage) when I don't even know what I want?Perhaps the "imaginary generic poster"™ is trying to make it work but is having to face up to the reality that it might not last, perhaps he *is* lazy, perhaps he's the sort of person who would take a promise of a phone call then no contact as the beginning of the end, perhaps the internet is his only source of information and opinion, perhaps he's actually gay but wants to appear alpha!
The amount of work going in to the relationship is going to depend on the person and their personality and how highly they prioritise it. The thing about the forums is that for every "dump her" there's a "work at it"
Sound to me like you are so happily ingrained in your own relationship that you seem to have forgot that your way of having relationships isn't the only way of having relationships and that no one way is any more valid than another.
If people on this forum want to jump from relationship to relationship without building up deep emotional commitments then who are you to say they are wrong?
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its not as simple as that though is it! Every relationship however brief forms emotional ties. The breaking of those ties "can" cause pain for either or both parties. Not always, but it frequently does.
Like it or not relationships are not "disposable". To see them as such is not right in my opinion. Its almost akin to seeing a girl as a piece of meat to be used or conquered. That's not to say that you can't ever break a relationship, I'm not saying that. At the crux of it I'm saying that relationships should not be entered into "lightly, or wantonly, or to fulfill man's carnal lusts"
To do so would be to degrade and devalue the opposite sex and who are you to place a value on another human being?
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cba to answer....too difficult
I can't "define" whether someone is "the one". I've been in a couple of relationships where I've been totally and deeply in love with the other person and at the time I could have imagined spending the rest of my life with them. For whatever reason those relationships ended and looking back its probably for the best. I've met girls who I know aren't right for me and have lasted a couple of dates (if that
Perhaps the "imaginary generic poster"™ is trying to make it work but is having to face up to the reality that it might not last, perhaps he *is* lazy, perhaps he's the sort of person who would take a promise of a phone call then no contact as the beginning of the end, perhaps the internet is his only source of information and opinion, perhaps he's actually gay but wants to appear alpha!
The thing about the forums is that for every "dump her" there's a "work at it"
Fair points well put.
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I've been with my woman for 34 years and 28 of those we've been married.
I can tell you now that if the sex dried up it would fail.
IMHO a woman gets married for security and a bloke gets married for regular sex.
Yes I am shallow.
I can tell you now that if the sex dried up it would fail.
IMHO a woman gets married for security and a bloke gets married for regular sex.
Yes I am shallow.
I think to gauge whether or not I would use this forum as a main source of guidance in relationships with women I would first visit the desktop photo thread. Any photo of a women is met with the same response "wowsers id do her". I will only use The Sun agony aunt photo stories page for real life situations.
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Following on from the recent relationship threads and the frankly "ludicrous" advice being given I'm completely amazed at how young people today have little concept of responsibility, true love and commitment.
Stupid excuses like "the sparks gone out of the relationship" are greeted with pathetic 15 year old responses like "dump her and bone a fresh one" or "it wasn't meant to be" which openly reveal a degree of selfishness and immaturity that makes me want to vomit.
If the "spark" has gone, why don't you explore new ways to light your woman's fire? (I'm not just talking sexually here). Are today's young people so utterly devoid of conversational skills and so totally shallow that relationships are all about sex and nothing else?
I'm 35, and have been happily married for nearly 13 years. I find with every passing week that I am more and more besotted with my wife. We click on every level and have had both ups and downs but you know what, we BOTH work hard at our marriage and thats why it works.
Where is the dedication to make things work in this generation?
Where is the sense of satisfaction received from putting aside selfishness and focussing on your partner for a change?
To the shallow: I wave my fat hairy bottom in disdain in your general direction.
To the real men: I salute you good sirs.
I'm hoping not every bloke is as one dimensional as what has been evidenced in this forum!
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I'd hit it
Like it or not relationships are not "disposable".
Going to have to disagree with you there old chum, in todays society relationships most certainly are disposable. Just look at the tabloids for examples of "celebrity" marriages that last just 18 months for example. I use the celebrity example simply because of the huge influence wielded over the rest of the populace.
I think its a little simplistic to describe young peoples relationship hopping as
Most young people have short-term relationships, learn from them and move on. Most people break these relationships for good reasons, and learn to be more careful with chosing their next partner. Eventually most people will find "the one" and settle down, but how are you to know if your partner is indeed "the one" until you have experienced several instance of "not the one"!?!?!?!?
I really don't understand why you think that relationships shouldn't be entered into "lightly, or wantonly, or to fulfill man's carnal lusts". Seems like some of the best relationships are formed from those very begininngs. Hell if I hadn't had exactly those kinds of feelings and thoughts toward Mrs Moley we wouldn't be together today. I certainly hope that when we are old we are still together and still feel just as strongly towards each other!
Nowhere in my post did I suggest so low regard for human life, your sentence construction has attributed that to me. Please don't do that again.