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Hey all, sorry for this soppy thread first off.

Im in a bit of a predicament and i dont know what to do :(

Basically, im at 6th form at the moment and i hate the place. Not just the "Urgh i hate school" type of hate, i come home and im depressed and just hate everyone and everything.

I didnt go in today, went out with a mate all day and this evening im feeling fairly happy and nothing really is on my mind. But when i go to college, i come home and just everything is on my mind, the only way to describe it is depressed.

I want to do well at college, but i just can't seem to stand it, i dont know what it is that makes me go like that.

I have the choice, drop out of sixth form, be hated by my family and work full time until next September, where i look into starting normal college and doing something there

OR

Stick it out at college being depressed and getting crappy grades, not be hated by my dad/family.

I know this thread is REALLY pathetic, but i just have no idea what to do tbh :(

Thanks for putting up with me,
Dan
 
D.Roberts said:
You being bullied m8?.

or got money,family problems etc?
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No thats the thing.

Me and dad argue a bit, but i think its just the way it is, as half the time we get on great!

Dont get bullied, plenty of friends, money isnt a worry.

Which is the annoying thing, if i knew the problem i could sort it out :(
 
Can you pinpoint any reasons why you dislike it so much? Are you away from your freinds, have they gone elsewhere? Mabye it's what you've chosen to study, or the people teaching it? Are you certain about the courses you want to do or have you been persuaded/pressured to do them?

I would say for whatever reason your not enjoying sixth form, its highly likely you'll do much better in an environment you do enjoy. I liked college and did well out of it but now am at uni which I hate and am doing pretty terribly.
 
I dropped out of college after one week, my dad was really disappointed.

7 years later and I'm the highest earner in my family, good job, good future ahead of me and generally very happy. I knew from the first week that college just wasn't for me, I hated everything about it and I'm glad I made the decision to leave.

Do whats best for you mate, happiness comes first in my opinion :)

Edit: If you're worried about your education, there are plenty of other ways to get qualifications, maybe consider home learning?
 
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Meh, man up and just work through it (you'll be supprised what forcing your self through it can leaad to). Me and my mate from 6th form hated the place (especially by the last half of yr 13) but we both stuck it out and now im in belfast weirdly (my mate who i stuck it out with is about the only person i can be bothered with from there so its pretty normal)

Ammusingly my little sister has just quit after missing a 3rd of the year being ill and is bored as hell now...
 
OK, I'll bite.

What do you want out of life (specifically); I mean, we all want loads of dosh and all that goes with that but ...... unless you/we do something to facilitate that, it ain't gonna happen!

Seriously, what do you want?

How do you plan on getting what you want?

Enough for now.
 
tisonlyme said:
I dropped out of college after one week, my dad was really disappointed.

7 years later and I'm the highest earner in my family, good job, good future ahead of me and generally very happy. I knew from the first week that college just wasn't for me, I hated everything about it and I'm glad I made the decision to leave.
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I havnt liked in from day 1 tbh.

And no i wasnt pressured into anything, my parents are the type that would like me to come top, but dont mind as long as i dont come bottom, so no pressure from them.

I do History, Economics, Computing and CISCO at the moment.
I LOVE German History, i think its the most interesting lesson ever, i try not to skip this lesson even if i skip the rest of the lessons that day.

Its just being there just makes me feel :(

Really weird!
 
My best friend was in exactly the same place as you.

He dropped out and then went to college the next term and was much much happier.

He's now in china travelling for the next year so he's done faily well for himself :p
 
I'm at 6th Form too, and it is really sucking at the moment.

We had a the best ever teacher teaching us for BTEC IT since September. He joined in September 2008, left December 2008.

We're likely not to have a new IT Teacher to replace him until April. So, we are now likely to fall behind - luckily I'm pretty 'self motivated' and I will plough through the resources myself.

I also have no form tutor for the foreseeable future. There is building work at school, disrupting us a lot. The computer system is falling to pieces.

Yeah, it's pretty bad.
 
Megahurtz400 said:
Basically, im at 6th form at the moment and i hate the place. Not just the "Urgh i hate school" type of hate, i come home and im depressed and just hate everyone and everything.

I have the choice, drop out of sixth form, be hated by my family and work full time until next September, where i look into starting normal college and doing something there

OR

Stick it out at college being depressed and getting crappy grades, not be hated by my dad/family.
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I say you have to have the courage to take decisions to get yourself out of an unhappy situation. So, if I were you, I think I would leave, BUT I would have a constructive plan of action that I could follow to make sure my life stayed on track, and that I could present to my parents to show that you aren't "dropping out" but instead following a different course of constructive action to reach your goals in life. The most important thing in life is to do something you enjoy (and be able to make a living out of it), so if you can show you will get to that point, hopefully your parents will understand.

Rgds
 
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What do you do now?
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IT Support, not the most glamorous job in the world but I enjoy it, and enjoy getting better at it. My elder brother saw college through to the end and he's currently stacking shelves in Tesco.

(not that there's anything wrong with stacking shelves in Tesco I might add!)
 
When you say "depressed", what exactly do you mean?

Are you unhappy, annoyed, disappointed, and what at? Either you're clinically depressed, in which case you should seek help, or else there's some logical reason for you feeling the way you do. In which case you should work out what it is, and plough through anyway. You're doing good A Levels, and you'll probably get onto a decent uni course if you do well. Even studying something like German History which you say you enjoy.
 
are you sure its college you hate? do you just come home and do nothing/dos around? Maybe just coming home and stewing/sitting around is making you 'meh', hence going out and doing something with a mate cheers you up. Not saying you do just speculating why. If you don't like it and you can't work out why it's probs something else thats making you down.
 
I sort of have a plan in my head at the moment as i said in the OP.

Ive currently got a part time job at Bennetts, which pulls me in around 600 quid a month depending on how much commision i get (Only working Sat + Sunday)

I will either ask my manager if she can afford to have my full time until september, or just stay part time if they cant, simply because trying to find another job at the moment would be pointless, let alone a job as good as the one i have now, i actually enjoy it :)

Then in the new term, start at my local normal college doing something in particular, most likely something to do with business/management.
 
If you decide to leave and join a dif college, and you're not sure what it is thats making you depressed you could just feel the same at another place.
 
Darkmage88 said:
are you sure its college you hate? do you just come home and do nothing/dos around? Maybe just coming home and stewing/sitting around is making you 'meh', hence going out and doing something with a mate cheers you up. Not saying you do just speculating why. If you don't like it and you can't work out why it's probs something else thats making you down.
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Ive got my guitar and thats what i do most evenings, steadily improving too, so i get some feel good factor, but even then sometimes i just zone out and play the same riff over and over again while thinking this whole situation though :(
 
I wish I'd dropped out of 6th form when I realised I didn't like it (first term).

Wasted 2 years in that pit.

Don't leave college until you get a job / find out what you want to do though. You'll only end up in a worse place.
 
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