WTF since when is that the "Christian approach"
PS Yes, I know this is what multi-quote is for.
well sex before marriage isn't allowed, therefore they must be married to have sex. You get married with a guy, you have sex, you get a divorce, meet another guy, you get married, you have sex, you get a divorce. Rinse repeat. The fact that they are not allowed sex out of marriage pretty much forces this routine on them and always has.
Sex out of marriage means just that. You don't need to get married.
Captain Planet won't be happy with you wasting your post counts
CONTRADICTION!
Hence you aren't in love you just want a score......
I never wrote that, I think you miss-quoted someone else on that second quote.
From your post I assume you are not religious, since your girlfriend obviously is is sex before marriage the only thing that you would have differing opinions on.
Yeah I'm not a religious person, as previous post says, I was brought up with a Muslim father and a Christian mother and they made sure that my mind was free from religious opinion and wanted me to make my own mind rather than have it forced upon me while I was growing up.
But yeah sex before marriage is the only thing we have differing opinions on, I don't think it's a bad thing but I don't think it's a good thing either.
In the longer term would you be expected to practise the religion like her if you were to get married, she would obviously want to get married in a church and many will not do it unless you attend for a time period, would you be OK with this?
Yeah I don't mind practising her religion with her, I don't mind that and going to church on a Sunday gets me out of the house. I don't care where I get married, church, beach, graveyard (?) so yeah. I already go to church with her - There's some strange people there... when they sing some put their hands up in the air for extended periods of time, some do a little dance (?) but that's the only time I get weirded out. The rest is a very nice experience.
But yeah, I'm getting to know her religion so I'm getting to know her too, which is what I wanted. It's just annoying that I have to be forced into something that I shouldn't need to do just to be with someone I love.
Is she against contraception or any type of family planning, if you do have kids would you be happy having them raised as practising Christians.
No she's not against contraception. I mean I think I would have to end it right there if she was, I don't want a child every time I have sex. That would be ridiculous hehe. She said when she gets married she didn't mind taking the pill but I'm fine with condoms anyway so what ever. Guess you can never be too careful though.
I wouldn't mind raising them with Christian ideals, take them to church etc. But I don't want them to have beliefs forced upon them. I'm sure they will ask me if it's all real bla bla bla and I would rather them make their own decision than having a biased opinion. I don't know the answer to all that yet but yeah, I don't mind taking them to church as long as what they are taught they can choose to believe it or not.
but that's assuming it gets that far.
Do you have any facets of your lifestyle/personality that she would find incompatible?
None at all, we have a very similar personality and connect on a very deep level. I mean I like all her imperfections (I have a habit of putting gf's on a pedestal) so I still got my feet on the ground and she is the same. I think the biggest thing is that I live in Wimbledon and she lives in Kent but I will be moving closer anyway in january so that's no problem. Like I said, the only issue is the no sex before marriage which I'm looking for solutions
I would think about the longer term issues rather that just the sex.
edit: cant believe I wrote 'JUST" the sex
Sex is a long term issue. the issue doesn't go away once I'm married, I don't know if we are a match sexually. If we aren't then it's destined for failure.
**edit**
Jakek I'm not getting anything sexual. But I need to speak to her about it. I guess I'll just need know her opinions on:
1. if we aren't sexually compatible it will end in divorce
2. expensive wedding + divorce = loss
3. going into something blind is an unnecessary risk
4. should you marry, have sex, divorce you have done exactly the same as someone who had sex before marriage, but now you have a divorce number.
I guess there could be other opinions I should ask but can't really think of them...