Who has cheated on a partner and why?

cleanbluesky · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:06

Having a conversation with someone once where I told them I have never cheated on someone. I don't tend to do such things, I thought most people wouldn't - is it uncommon for people not to cheat?

Having said that, I almost did, but decided I didn't want to be that sort of person...

Piggymon · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:14

I've never cheated and never will

Even when I was 16/17 and going through the silly early relationships I never cheated

I , like you , came close to it once .. I was coming to the end of an abusive relationship and knew it was over anyway but I still would not cheat

I've had it done to me plenty of times and it makes you feel like crap , insecure and can affect you for quite some time

|-Chris-| · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:17

Never!

G|mp · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:17

I have

She cheated on me so i cheated on her, but in more of a hardcore style

anksta · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:19

never cheated and think its the worst thing you can do to a person.

The girl I'm currently in love with, but broke up with coz I'm stupid went out with another guy once.

We were havin a really really tough patch and her mum suggested she go out with a guy from her mum's work, so she did.

Loads of people I knew saw them out and said they were walkin apart and didnt look like a couple, she swore to me they didnt do anything and I believed her. That was about 2 years ago now.

EDIT: when I say worst thing you can do to a person, I do mean like that isnt something involving the person e.g. smacking her.

Alex_L · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:22

I never have, but I seriously considered it towards the end of a relationship, simply because i'm 99% certain that ex had been cheating on me, so kind of wanted to just to get back at her, that and it was kind of on offer from a girl I knew.

However, I thought better and decided I'd rather stick to my beliefs, which is that I'll never cheat on anyone. If I really want to then I'll finish the relationship I'm in first.

manor · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:25

When I was in my late teens (geez, trying to remember so far back now) I thought nothing of having 3 girls on the go at the same time.
Thankfully I grew out of that stupid stage in my life.

KaHn · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:26

Yes. Reasons bordem i guess, im not sure. Angry at the other person, feeling down about your situation with your partner. They are lots of things I have been through which have lead to something happening which I wish hadn't, but at the end of the day the things which have hurt me a lot lead to the end of the relationship.

On a note I have never been caught.

KaHn

hybrid · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:27

Never cheated on a girlfriend and never would. If your a cheat, then why you with the person?! Be single!

I've been cheated on in the past like... it hurts but thats part of life and it sucks!!

Tru · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:33

I may have cheated on a girl years ago, I think 2 relationships over lapped by a few days. I'm not an evil person for doing it, I've been cheated on and I see it as a part of life.

I don't understand the 'never would' attitude, life must be very tiresome for someone who knows exactly what their future holds and how they'll react to it.

anksta · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:37

Tru said:
I don't understand the 'never would' attitude, life must be very tiresome for someone who knows exactly what their future holds and how they'll react to it.

I dont think its a matter of knowing what the future holds but if your in a relationship with someone you;ve made a commitment to them and respect for that commitment and to the person should stop you from causing them pain.

Piggymon · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:37

I can also easily say I will never murder someone ... it's just not in me

Whitewater · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:41

Does taking a girl to the pictures twice in a non-relationship manner and not telling your girlfriend about it until the next day count as cheating? If not then I've only cheated once when I was 17

Haly · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:42

Never, and I hope that I never will.
I'd like to think I'd have more respect for the person I was with than to do such a thing to them.

anksta · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:42

Whitewater said:
Does taking a girl to the pictures twice in a non-relationship manner and not telling your girlfriend about it until the next day count as cheating? If not then I've only cheated once when I was 17

dont think it counts as cheating but its definitely betraying their trust.

Krowzer · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:49

think it comes down whether the people in the relationship feel the same about each other, if not thats when cheating happens. The other week a girl cheated on her boyfriend with me- i didnt feel guilty if im honest, but saying that shes still with her boyfriend now and im still single- guess its just one of those primitive human things to spread your seeds.

JohnnyG · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:51

I did once upon a long ago when I was a rogue.
It wasn't my fault though, my willy & beer made me do it.

Yebraw · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:52

Cheating is a tricky one...

If its on a plate

and you knew there is no way your missus would ever find out

Would you ?

Saytan · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:52

i have. it was in that stage where i was trying to find a way to tell my (psychotic, dangerous) girlfriend to get bent, without her killing me, herself, or both.

Piggymon · 17 Jan 2006 at 20:55

One night of sex that would ruin a relationship .. are you mad ??

Even if I could be absolutely 110% sure I wouldn't get found out I still wouldn't even entertain the thought !

If you are in a happy relationship you shouldn't have the thought of " I shouldn't cheat " it should be the thought that nobody else even comes close to tempting you to even think about it

Who has cheated on a partner and why?

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