Why do people act like this?

doiks14 said:
If this has been the first time this has happened to you, then it is understandable, I've been through this sort of thing many many times (I grew up in a third world country, so Its far worse and happens very often)...

If you can't get rid of your paranoia after a few days, my advice would be to seek advice from your GP, they might be able to get contact with someone that specialises on mental/emotional issues...
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Ok thanks, yes this is the first time. I got on the bus today and I was going in the opposite direction, and until I was actually outside, I'm not going to lie, I was a little cautious.

I'm acting like a pussy, I know, but I can vent here;
 
I'm really sorry OcUK.
I'm still very cut up about this event, and very disheartened. I know that you've all been trying your hardest, and been very helpful with advice and support etc. But I cannot shake the paranoia of seeing them again. I know that first of all, the chance of seeing them in Harrow is not high, but if it's the place they hang around, then it's not exactly low. Secondly, if I see them, there's a chance that they won't see me. If they see me, there's a chance they won't recognise me. If they recognise me, they might not do anything, they might shout out some abuse or they might actually come up to me.

So being an avid mathematician, I can see the chances of being bothered by the same people are extremely low. Then why can I not shake off this paranoia, 2 days after the event in question?

Sorry to do this, I hate my post being on the bottom of the previous page :(
 
doiks14 said:
Tell you what... from my experience growing up, I don't know if it you could call it paranoia, but I always watched my back at all times while walking i.e. listening, looking at shadows to see if anyone's following, looking back from time to time etc. That's how I lived pretty much my entire life until I moved here to the UK where It feels (and probably is) 100x safer.. I tell a lot of people here that they don't understand how lucky they are for living such lovely lives compared to what I've been through, so I never really complain about the crime rates here (which is pretty low), what I do complain about however, is exactly what you've told me, the lack of respect and morals...

One of the expriences I've had was when I was asleep, there was a gunfight that started right outside our house and a bullet went through my window, luckily I never got shot. I've also been threatened to get shot by a shotgun right on the face by a security guard at school, I saw him load the shotgun and cocked it right infront of me and had his finger on the trigger :o, so I had to do pretty much cooperate. I thought that was quite appropriate for a Security guard to do to a Student.. but oh well, anything goes there. There's loads of others that I'm not going to mention.

Anyways, as I grew up, I had to adapt to the everyday things that happen over there i.e. judging a situation and knowing what to do.

My mum was also traumatised when she one of her worst encounters...
She got held up by 3 guys on bikes in the middle of the road while she was on her moped.. 2 of them had knives and the other guy had a gun, luckily they were only after her money.. She was traumatised for a few days after that... so maybe same will happen to you, you'll be fine in a few days but will be a bit more cautious
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Thanks mate, you've been really helpful the whole way through the thread. Sorry to hear about your mum :(
I don't exactly watch my back, but whenever I'm using my phone, I always cover it it with as much of my hand as possible. Another thing I do is to only keep maximum of £10 in my pocket. The rest of the money is somewhere else, usually deep in my sock, and so if I want to buy something, I go into a changing room in a clothes shop to get my money. It's nowhere near as bad as the experiences you and others have had. I feel a bit selfish that people have gone through much worse, yet I'm worried about my own situation. Hopefully that'll go away in the next few days, like you say :)
 
Richdog said:
Congratulations, you just did what 95% of people never do, and stood up for yourself to a group of bullies... that takes real balls, and I genuinely mean that.
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Deadbeat said:
Actually, I forgot to chuck that one in, too - props to you, Anant, even though you got a slap for it you're a better person for having made a stand.
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Thanks guys. That's what I thought to myself, that nobody else would do anything, so I had to. It does frustrate me that other people don't do things like this, and most of them sit there wishing that someone else would say something. Also, my whole life I've been tired of bullies thinking that they can do what they like, and it perplexes me how they can never see anything from other's perspectives.

simulatorman said:
There probably is but the OP hasn’t taken it further so we won't know unless he goes back and has a look.
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Are you suggesting that I do this? If so, would they have the footage from 2 days ago, and let me see it/ agree to look into it?
 
Deific said:
Thankfully besides that I've never had any problems. I think it largely depends on how you carry yourself and if you make it clear (maybe easier said than done for some as unfortunately for those people not everyone is of a 'fighter' build) that you can handle yourself.
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I'm not entirely sure how I carry myself, but as there were 6 of them, and all were bigger than me, I think that my physique said that I wasn't someone to be feared, despite how I carry myself.




Deific said:
@ the OP, I don't really know how you could have handled the situation. I think the comments saying 'KO the ringleader' are ridiculous, because as I said, unfortunately not everyone is a fighter and you also said you're very small, so KOing the ringleader is something I don't see happening realistically, you'd probably agree with me on that. I'd say next time something like that were to happen, just try and back away or walk through them. You might still get hit but you want to try and get out of the situation as quickly as possible - the longer you hang around the greater the tension of the situation becomes.
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I tried to do that, when I first walked out the door, they were holding it open and I didn't realise that they were waiting for me, so I said thanks for holding the door and walked right past. But then they followed me and surrounded me. It would have been almost impossible to get out without interacting with them
 
Sorry to bump, but no one answered my question from above.
Would the cinema still have cctv footage from 5th August?? If so, would I actually be allowed to look at it and pinpoint the incident? Vue's website doesn't have info about this


big_white_dog84 said:
The staff in these places are normally pretty good at getting rid of scum. They realise that decent people are their source of profit and that they can't afford for their place to get a reputation.
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But the disruptive people pay for their ticket too? :confused:
 
Just a little update on the thread. I went to Harrow again today to watch Inception. I was with my mates and there were no nobs in the cinema. The film was better than Karate Kid as well, so all in all a much better cinema experience :)
 
Sorry for reviving old thread :o

Little update: I haven't actually been back since, though not through fear, but simply because I haven't had the need to go back. However I need to go there today to buy some stuff. I feel like I've been a bit of a pussy, everytime I think about Harrow, and this incident, I get very angry, and a bit scared too :(

But forget all that, I gotta move on in life, so I'm going back today.

'Cool story bro' 'thanks for the info' etc
 
ScoTTyBEEE said:
Harrow, lol, now it all makes sense. Same thing happened to me on more than one occasion when younger in that sh1thole. Go somewhere else would be my recommendation, I avoid that place like the plague.

Wait until you can drive and go to The Empire in high wycombe, you kind of need a car to get there so it excludes most 'undesirables'. Also only £4 on Tuesdays and Thursdays, bonus! Also when you're older than 19/20 things like this don't happen so much, they're bullies that prey on the weak.
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That's very cheap, cheers for the heads up :) But it seems a bit of a long way to travel :\
 
Jonny69 said:
I missed this thread first time round. Sorry to hear of your experience.

They probably wouldn't recognise you if they saw you, if you think about it. If they're stupid enough to call you a **** these days, chances are you look the same as 'all of them' to them, they're that thick.

Time will heal and that feeling will go away. Don't let it put you off. I think there's no need to watch your back or anything.
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Yeah, you're right. In fact thinking about it, a simple bit of maths says that I won't get any trouble from them:

chance of them being in harrow at same time as me
chance of them seeing me at all
chance of them recognising me
chance of them doing anything about it

Looking at that, the probability is practically nil.

Neoni said:
i was watching a film last year, where some girls were making so much noise, and throwing stuff it was unreal, i asked them to stop, and the projectiles were thrown in my direction... to my amazement a adult man stood up, grabbed one by the arm, and threw her in the direction of the door, they then got booted out by staff, awesome :D
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Lol, did the guy hurt said girl? Did he get into trouble himself?
 
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