Would you do the dirty if you could get away with it?
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leonarmston said:He who hesitates masturbates!
LOLOL think that wins phrase of the day
I do agree with the sentiments of not doin the local bike due to ending up with it goin back etc.
I also personally agree with comments bout not cheating due to respect, (and this is where i'd be), if your with someone then your with them until you both decide to call it a day.
If you are determined to prove you have no respect or real feelings, then at least have the decency to go someplace well away from home and play safe sex, so that :
a) you don't embarass her by having to send her to the clinic because you were stupid and caught something
b) none of her mates are gonna end up telling her and you finding out the way you should.... (by locks changed and clothes in bags on back door step)
Its only on eastenders you always get caught out. In real life it's much easier. In truth I'm shocked by this as I think people are lieing to look good. I have a large circle of friends and I can count on one finger those that haven't had a bit on the side atleast once.
I also work in a large male dominated environment and can see the stats for guys there that are banging anything that moves.
Lots of my friends to the outside world have great relationships, yet everynow and then fancy a break from the norm. None of them have ever been caught and it happens once a year not a second relationship.
2 of my work mates ive known to have a other half for 5 years or more and never been found out.
Ive sat round friends houses were cheating has been discussed and a mates wife is saying " x wouldn't cheat on me, he can't lie to save his life etc etc" and how morally it's all wrong. When we leave both my wife and I laugh our arses off and my wife knows she's been banged by dilbert up the road and my mate has cheated on more than 5 occasions.
I do believe you can be happy, blissfully happy with your partner but still have a dabble every now and then.
The funniest thing is this girl being described as a bike, because she may like sex. So what, its not the 40's anymore. She may practice safe sex everytime, hardly the crime of the century.
Also regarding porn not hurting anyone emotionally, one of my best mates had his house destroyed by his wife who found his porn collection in the loft. She took it as an slur against how she looked that he would even need to pleasure himself over another women.
We are always been told what instincts in life are natural, well a man wanting to spread his seed with any women his finds attractive is a prefectly natural reaction as well.
I'd say to your mate, no this time because everyone knows about it, some girl while you out on your own, staying in a hotel who you randomly hook up with....
Fill your boots and keep it to yourself.
I also work in a large male dominated environment and can see the stats for guys there that are banging anything that moves.
Lots of my friends to the outside world have great relationships, yet everynow and then fancy a break from the norm. None of them have ever been caught and it happens once a year not a second relationship.
2 of my work mates ive known to have a other half for 5 years or more and never been found out.
Ive sat round friends houses were cheating has been discussed and a mates wife is saying " x wouldn't cheat on me, he can't lie to save his life etc etc" and how morally it's all wrong. When we leave both my wife and I laugh our arses off and my wife knows she's been banged by dilbert up the road and my mate has cheated on more than 5 occasions.
I do believe you can be happy, blissfully happy with your partner but still have a dabble every now and then.
The funniest thing is this girl being described as a bike, because she may like sex. So what, its not the 40's anymore. She may practice safe sex everytime, hardly the crime of the century.
Also regarding porn not hurting anyone emotionally, one of my best mates had his house destroyed by his wife who found his porn collection in the loft. She took it as an slur against how she looked that he would even need to pleasure himself over another women.
We are always been told what instincts in life are natural, well a man wanting to spread his seed with any women his finds attractive is a prefectly natural reaction as well.
I'd say to your mate, no this time because everyone knows about it, some girl while you out on your own, staying in a hotel who you randomly hook up with....
Fill your boots and keep it to yourself.
I'm in a long-term relationship (almost 2 years) and i've thought about sex with women a gazillion times, and I have the desire to too.
But I have never cheated on anyone in my life, and my girlfriend is also my best friend and probably the nicest person I have ever met so I know that doing the dirty on her would crush her and likely affect all of her future relationships, the way she perceives men, and make me feel like a complete rat for years to come.
I'll sleep with other women when the relationship ends, not before. I wish i'd met her in 10 years when I was ready to settle down and have kids because she would make the perfect wife and mother... I just have too much to get out of my system at the moment so I can't see us lasting a great deal longer, especially as i'm planning to move away and do a degree in leeds next year.
I love her dearly, but there's just not as much sexual spark between us as I need, and it saddens me.
But I have never cheated on anyone in my life, and my girlfriend is also my best friend and probably the nicest person I have ever met so I know that doing the dirty on her would crush her and likely affect all of her future relationships, the way she perceives men, and make me feel like a complete rat for years to come.
I'll sleep with other women when the relationship ends, not before. I wish i'd met her in 10 years when I was ready to settle down and have kids because she would make the perfect wife and mother... I just have too much to get out of my system at the moment so I can't see us lasting a great deal longer, especially as i'm planning to move away and do a degree in leeds next year.
I love her dearly, but there's just not as much sexual spark between us as I need, and it saddens me.
My simple answer is no. I've been there done that, life is far too complicated for me at the tender age of 25 anyway.
I could probably very easily do the dirty as 8 I3ALL lives 100 miles away and is only here at the weekends if he can afford it. But I'm very happy with him, and I would like a long term future together, there's just no way I could risk hurting him.
Relationships are based on trust, without trust there is no meaningful relationship. I'd hope that he'd regard me high enough not to cheat on me, and in return he can rest assured that I wont cheat on him. If either of us were tempted, I hope we'd be able to discuss it and re-asses our priorities and happiness.
I could probably very easily do the dirty as 8 I3ALL lives 100 miles away and is only here at the weekends if he can afford it. But I'm very happy with him, and I would like a long term future together, there's just no way I could risk hurting him.
Relationships are based on trust, without trust there is no meaningful relationship. I'd hope that he'd regard me high enough not to cheat on me, and in return he can rest assured that I wont cheat on him. If either of us were tempted, I hope we'd be able to discuss it and re-asses our priorities and happiness.