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often browse the web, whilst watching an average film as longs as your not making any noise, changes things if shes trying to snuggle.
 
We both do it, but I find that she remains MUCH less conscious of what's actually happening in the film than I do.

For example, I might exclaim at something that's just happened, or make a comment. If she queries it, I tell her in no uncertain terms that I'm not prepared to dictate the entire film to her. If she wants to know what I'm getting so excited about, she can put the bloody laptop away and pay proper attention.
 
My gf does this. Then she proceeds to continually ask "what happened" just as another important part of the plot unfolds.
Pestilence said:
We both do it, but I find that she remains MUCH less conscious of what's actually happening in the film than I do.

For example, I might exclaim at something that's just happened, or make a comment. If she queries it, I tell her in no uncertain terms that I'm not prepared to dictate the entire film to her. If she wants to know what I'm getting so excited about, she can put the bloody laptop away and pay proper attention.
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I think this sums it up better than I can.
 
Sounds a bit like both picking a restaurant for a meal, one of you not liking it so the other just going outside making phonecalls for the duration of your meal. Though that's a bit different.

Depends if you had begun watching it due to boredom. In which case you're just watching it for something to do which I wouldn't be bothered at all if someone I was watching it with diverted their attention elsewhere as the only reason it's being watched is to pass time.

Though if it was a cuddle up on the sofa and watch a film we both will enjoy then yes it's rude. I'd rather the person say 'actually I'd rather just browse the web if you don't mind'. Then you can be annoyed that she's changed her mind as opposed to been rude.
 
If it's a something we've seen before, then one of us is normally on a device of some sort. If it's something we haven't then we normally watch it properly. If she's watching dross, then I'm on the laptop. Used to be upstairs on the PC, but I got shouted at for not spending time with her whilst she watched her programs. Now, with laptop, she hasn't got a leg to stand on. :D
 
I'm impressed that so many of you have setup the kitchen TV's to receive the streamed media that you are currently watching on the big TV.

If you get asked questions, tough! Should have peeled the carrots earlier then shouldn't she?
 
Pestilence said:
We both do it, but I find that she remains MUCH less conscious of what's actually happening in the film than I do.

For example, I might exclaim at something that's just happened, or make a comment. If she queries it, I tell her in no uncertain terms that I'm not prepared to dictate the entire film to her. If she wants to know what I'm getting so excited about, she can put the bloody laptop away and pay proper attention.
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This
I'll generally only be on to do something specifically, see if an email's come in, start something downloading, whereas she'll usually be on facebook trawling through all her friends updates.
 
Knubje said:
I'm impressed that so many of you have setup the kitchen TV's to receive the streamed media that you are currently watching on the big TV.

If you get asked questions, tough! Should have peeled the carrots earlier then shouldn't she?
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Have you ever thought about a career in comedy?
 
Gaijin said:
If she was watching some total dross, I wouldn't even probably be in the same room.
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+1

I guess it depends how long you have been with her. If it is new and your desperate to get into her knickers then yes it is rude. If you are married like me and nookie needs pre-arranging by an outlook calender request then no:)
 
dazzerd said:
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I guess it depends how long you have been with her. If it is new and your desperate to get into her knickers then yes it is rude. If you are married like me and nookie needs pre-arranging by an outlook calender request then no:)
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I don't think time has anything to do with it, I would still class it as rude but there are lot's of different contexts in this thread.
 
randal24 said:
If it's a something we've seen before, then one of us is normally on a device of some sort. If it's something we haven't then we normally watch it properly. If she's watching dross, then I'm on the laptop. Used to be upstairs on the PC, but I got shouted at for not spending time with her whilst she watched her programs. Now, with laptop, she hasn't got a leg to stand on. :D
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Yep, that's my situation as well. I could never disappear upstairs to just play games on the PC while she watched telly as that meant I wasn't spending any time with her.

So, instead, I play games on my laptop while she watches whatever supernanny crud etc. :D

Most of the time I'm watching various screeners etc. for review (horror movies), which she has no interest in, so she'll be on her laptop.

The only time it gets on my wick is when I put something on that she's requested, and she just sits browsing forums. We "watched" The Expendables recently at her request, and she can't detail one single scene from the film.
 
Nix said:
There's a difference between spending some quality time with the SO and just happening to watch a movie. Sitting on his laptop isn't rude; your attention should be on the film anyway unless you're one of those annoying question-askers! "Who's he then?" "Why'd she do that?" :mad:

If the laptop is in anyway interfering with your ability to watch the film other than it being a pink-elephant, then I'd consider it rude. Just as if your boyfriend was answering his phone and talking loudly over the phone, whilst you're trying to watch a movie, then that is very rude.

Sitting with the laptop on his lap as he's watching a film, in my book is not. You're just being a little sensitive (by which I mean pathetic). If you want to spend that quality time with him (otherwise I can't see why this would be such an issue to you), then spell that out. Unless he's the kind of guy who likes to check his e-mails whilst he's on top, then you've got no hope.
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Mammalian said:
i don't think it's rude to to 2 things at once at all, the only rude thing here is to call that person rude simply because they like to be on their laptop whilst watching a film. I can't stand to just sit there and watch a film even if it's a good one, i will always be on the laptop doing work as it just seems like such a waste.

be grateful the person has even decided to sit with you rather then think negative stuff about them.
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Pestilence said:
We both do it, but I find that she remains MUCH less conscious of what's actually happening in the film than I do.

For example, I might exclaim at something that's just happened, or make a comment. If she queries it, I tell her in no uncertain terms that I'm not prepared to dictate the entire film to her. If she wants to know what I'm getting so excited about, she can put the bloody laptop away and pay proper attention.
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Some people have a very different concept of what a relationship is meant to be like.
 
I'm guessing the OP is a lady who got annoyed when her bf didn't want to watch love actually for the 83rd time
 
I'd be really annoyed to be honest. I had a flatmate who used to do this at uni all the time and then not be able to follow a conversation about what was going on.

I've become guilty of 'just checking' something on my iPhone when watching normal TV and it's something I'm really trying to stamp out, as it seems like we're becoming a generation of people who can't concentrate on one thing at a time. To me you should be able to enjoy a film by itself, without the need for added input from the internet.
 
1. Not me and my boyfriend, my boyfriend actually watches movies with me and snuggles and stuff, I have nothing to complain about. Its another couple who I am close to the lady

2. I hardly ever ask questions as I am ACTUALLY WATCHING THE MOVIE. My boyfriend is actually one of these question askers, so please don't generalise its a female thing

3. I personally think its rude as typing can be distracting and you aren't focusing on the movie. It was film they both hadn't seen, not 'Some dross' like a chick flick, but Men Who Stare at Goats, which they both agreed on watching. Laptop was on right from the begining.

I just wish to know opinions on this, I am not whinging about my boyfriend, becauses hes awesome and man in question is most certainly not :D
 
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