[38/m] I've been thinking about how I'm losing satisfaction my career and becoming aware of my mum's mortality, and generally wanting to go back and get a second shot at old decisions. I've heard these are signs of midlife crisis. I did some googling, but the results are poor quality - makes me think it was written by a woman, or society doesn't care about men's health /rant.
So I thought I'd ask the forum, plenty of guys here my age or older, so maybe you can chime in with your thoughts on the midlife crisis. What do you understand it to be, do you believe in it at all, what were your experiences or experiences of guys you know? How long did it last, any tips for handling it well or what to expect afterwards?
Its hitting.
Seeing people my parents generation die of stuff (often cancer, although not in my blood line). Particularly my partners mum. She's 32, her mum 67. And basically that wiped out of a year in trauma itself. Seeing that her mum just sat watching TV in the years I knew her.. That has been a wake up call.
Knowing that as time goes on I'm more and more likely to get it myself. Or something that prevents me becoming active.
Feel like I've only started to make more of time at 35+ (saving for a house etc before).
But yeah time seems very very valuable now. It's often what gets me out of the house during the week.
What hits quite hard is thinking "this is a bad summer". That's an entire year.. How many of those will I have left? 10? If I'm unlucky 40 If I'm lucky.
At the moment it's a good thing for me as I waste less time on computer games and stuff like that (I say waste as I don't have any good memories of the countless hours I spent gaming, I'm not dismissing gaming as a waste of time for everyone).
As depression runs in my family and me.. I do worry about it consuming me as life gets worse and worse. What would destroy me is not being able to go outdoors etc. And that it's likely to come before the end.
I'm overspending on holidays and underspending on stuff.
Eg
-nicked used a fridge from side of the road
-my holiday next month is 3k for myself alone.
I certainly do not want to save up only to pop it near retiring. Or be too ill health to use it.
I'm not going to do the classic and buy a porsche at 40.but I'm going to spend more on experiences