A friend and the cat.

[neil_g]

Why would you want to keep someone like this as a friend, sounds like he just wants to cause you problems all the time over something that is nothing to do with him.

First up, man up and tell him to **** off, then deal with the cat and wife issue in a way you deem appropriate.

to be fair, without the friend starting this debate it sounds like the OP wouldn't have posted here or have considered rehoming the cat.

sounds like the friend has the animals best interests at heart, something the OP and wife should have had from the start.

 

[MoBo]

Never get another animal

Can we have more kids though?

 

[MoBo]

ignore

 

[bignev72]

take her to cat protection or similar rather than the RSPCA please.

here you go - http://www.norwich.cats.org.uk/norwich/contact-us

Just out of interest, what's wrong with the RSPCA?

 

[NooBish AbbZ]

Tell him to **** off.

nailed it in the first sentence. Bravo! However I do agree with the rehoming of the cat

 

[MoBo]

... something the OP and wife should have had from the start.

FYI NOT my cat at the start.

Also priorities change over time.

 

[ttaskmaster]

but isnt a cat just a cat?

And a kid is just a kid, right?
Nothing special, ten a penny, everywhere you go and mostly in my way, draing parental resources and all that... If anything, cats are like teenagers - Bad tempered, self-centred, sleeping most of the day, demanding food and care, but happy to flounce off and do their own thing whever they damn well please...

It's a life. One you took on the responsibility for.
If you're not going to look after it, you shouldn't take it on to begin with.

 

[Gabbatek]

So let me get this straight. you've had this cat for ages and its used to having free run of the house except the bedroom but now you've moved home and dont want the cat anywhere except the kitchen or outside.

Firstly, the cat lost its companion and has moved to a new place. You also have a new child? It is marking its territory and it might also be distressed from the changes.

Secondly your friend is actually correct, no offense but you're being crappy owners of the cat. It's clearly distressed, maybe you should research why it's wee'in where it shouldn't

 

[Gabbatek]

hang on i've just read though this fully

Surely this is a troll?

The guys also from the same place as me

 

[Mynight]

Can we have more kids though?

Lets see how long you're allowed to keep the first one ey.

 

[Street]

The poor cat is probably stressed with a move to a new house and a new baby.. Being shut outside or in one room probably isn't helping. As said, get a Feliway, they definitely help. We used to have three cats and one started weeing inside as she was stressed. We sorted the cause of the problem rather than taking the cop out solution of rehoming the cat. The rescue centres are over stretched as it is!

One of our remaining two cats has been weeing inside recently due to some building work we were having done stressing him out. Cats don't tend to just wee on the floor for no reason.

 

[MoBo]

And a kid is just a kid, right?
Nothing special, ten a penny, everywhere you go and mostly in my way.

So if you saw a burnig house and you can only save a child or a cat, you would save the cat?

 

[soundb0y]

Get in writing from the RSPCA that it is absolutely not an issue, then forward it to this bloke and tell him get to ****.

 

[ttaskmaster]

So if you saw a burnig house and you can only save a child or a cat, you would save the cat?

Nah, let them both burn - I hate kids and cats with equal disregard.

But by the same reasoning - You have two kids, but can only save one... which one do *you* abandon to an horrific fiery death?

 

[Malevolence]

So if you saw a burnig house and you can only save a child or a cat, you would save the cat?

To ****ing right I would. Kids are expensive, demanding little parasites. Cats are cute, cuddly and cheap.

 

[Avenged7Fold]

So if you saw a burnig house and you can only save a child or a cat, you would save the cat?

Not really a comparison, your house is neither on fire nor are you forced between to choose the kid or the cat. The cat is not endangering the child, you only have listed the child as a reason for using interest (reason is not an excuse).

Your choice essentially breaks down to this:

You are in a normal building which is not on fire. The cat that your wife took responsibility for is stressed out and likely does not get any attention as interest has been lost. As a result of whatever distress your cat is under, it pees on the matt at night.

1. You can choose to keep the cat that your wife took responsibility for and spend a little effort accommodating it with a cat flap, relaxing feline spray, lil bit of attention and let it get use to the house.

2. You can choose to rehouse the cat, although it will likely stress it out some more

3. Lock it in the kitchen with a cat flap, which is cruel considering what it has been use to so far in its life

4.lock it outside which is incredibly cruel.


I really don't understand how any pet owner can choose any option but 1, especially if they have had the cat for years.

 

[NoobCannon]

Get rid of the cat, its no doubt annoying (replace with stronger word) the rest of your neighbours when its outside just like all the other horrible nasty things just as much as it annoys you by weeing on your mat.

 

[ttaskmaster]

I really don't understand how any pet owner can choose any option but 1, especially if they have had the cat for years.

These are the reasons each of our three lovely doggies ended up coming to us:
One was found abandoned on an old rubbish dump in Ireland, mostly starving and eating what little crap he could find.
One was actually taken away from the Welsh farmer who beat her with sticks when she didn't understand his instructions.
One was given up by parents-to-be, who claimed they would be 'happy to leave their newborn home alone while they go out to work, so long as there are no dogs around'. She has occasional seizures though, so I suspect they also "lost interest" when they learned it would cost a whole £30 every 90 days for her medication...

People suck.

 

[Blackjack Davy]

How typical, woman wants pet then neglects it when she's something else to dote time and affection on.

Why on earth are you hanging onto the cat when its clearly uncared for and unwanted? For goodness sake get it rehomed. Cats wee when they're unsure of their territory or they feel their territory is being taken over as its a way of marking whats theirs, either way she's clearly stressed out and unsure of her place in your house so please get it sorted out.

 

[MoBo]

Nah, let them both burn - I hate kids and cats with equal disregard.

But by the same reasoning - You have two kids, but can only save one... which one do *you* abandon to an horrific fiery death?

I'd save the goldfish!