To be fair, as far as weddings go, an Anglican Church is a place of business with generally a set rate for the hire of the building and an additional fee for the vicar. The Catholic church is similar but calls it "a donation" instead
Would you get married in a church?
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To be fair, as far as weddings go, an Anglican Church is a place of business with generally a set rate for the hire of the building and an additional fee for the vicar. The Catholic church is similar but calls it "a donation" instead
Regardless, the building's purpose is for those who don't share your belief. Parliament would still be Parliament even if you were an anarchist.
It isn't simply your eyes versus anothers, it's the whole picture. There is you who doesn't share their belief and those who do share. The building was built and maintained for the latter - that is its purpose. Until religion becomes completely defunct, that is what it shall remain.
To be fair, as far as weddings go, an Anglican Church is a place of business with generally a set rate for the hire of the building and an additional fee for the vicar. The Catholic church is similar but calls it "a donation" instead
Well, that's the whole issue. Should a Church really be used a function room, from the 'consumer's' view?
No, actually I'm being objective. Of course it's a place of worship, that is blindingly obvious, the question is whether or not that matters to an atheist and I don't think it does.
If you think something is based on made up nonsense, lies, half-truths and chinese whispers does it merit tip-toeing around it so as not to offend?
My point, which I think I made better previously, was that it doesn't matter to me how others view a church in this context, only how I view it.
That's fair enough. Out of curiosity, would you be happy to have a drunken rave in a church, considering it is just a building, or would that be disrespectful?
Yes, I don't literally think a church is not a place of worship
Then why be so brash earlier? Say what you mean, we can't infer through a computer screen.
Also, you are not being objective. You're still using the first person as your reference point.
To be objective, you need to be looking at things from the third-person, as a stranger.
There's you (first), them (second) and the outsider (third).
Remove yourself fairly from the situation then you can be objective.
Good question!
I don't go out of my way to offend people (mostly) so I would only have a drunken rave in a church if the vicar was on the decks.
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Nope, I think the people who build churches should not waste their time and instead build something more useful, like a new motorway or railway line. Utterly utterly useless expensive buildings.
I wouldn't marry in one as I simply don't agree with the idea of the church itself.
I wouldn't marry in one as I simply don't agree with the idea of the church itself.
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It is the Church that is making that decision, so why not? They could quite easily have stuck to their guns and said "No, only commited Christians can get married here" but instead they have chosen to turn their house of worship into nothing more than a commercial function room. So if they are happy to do it, why should an atheist/agnostic/whatever not take advantage of it?
Again, if permission is granted, why not? I have seen churchs that have been made in to offices, homes and even night clubs. They are, after all, quite striking buildings at times.
Haha, good answer.
I imagine it would be hard to draw the line when deciding what is 'disrespectful' if a church truly is 'just a building'. I think partying is a good example as it isn't something we consider to be impolite anyway.
I love churches, but I am not Christian so I will not be having a vicar pronounce me as married. Much like I wouldn't get married in a mosque. Despite it being a beautiful building, it was built for Christians to make prayer and I'm not going to take advantage of that. My opinion, though.
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They would have been unconsecrated first though so would no longer be holy ground.
I wouldn't get married in a church because it is a place of worship and out of respect for the christians that use it. Same as I would expect a Christian to show similar respect to my places of worship.
They probably wouldn't though!
