Are you kidding me?
What if I stepped out infront of a bus tomorrow? Does that mean I should never cross the road?
Would you SLAP your child..?
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Are you kidding me?
What if I stepped out infront of a bus tomorrow? Does that mean I should never cross the road?
you analysed it enough to pass comment, so i have done the same about what he said and also what you replied.
I don't think we are talking about if it's ok to punch your child in the face, a slap in this context is hitting them on the hand, back of leg or bum, not assaulting them and throwing them down the stairs.
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look where your going? if you are unable to cross a road on your own, then ask for help,
either way its a risk on a child that shouldnt be risked
Good for you.
rofl, nice trolling. grow up boy, you clearly have issues, go see someone about it.
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Yep, your PROBABLY right, what is also PROBABLY true is that kids suffer as much if not more from the images they see and the words they hear.
I know kids who are ruined because of what there parents say too them/in front of them. I also know kids who are ruined because of what they see their parents doing to each other.
So to take that one step further, you approaching a father/mother exacting discipline on their child and smacking them is hardly improving the situation for the child, is it?
So how many times have you hit people for smacking their children?
why thank you. its not like the person you were quoting BS to is the only one who thinks the same.
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never, and i hope i should hope i never will have to,
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so you are talking out of your rear end! good work
when did i say i have hit some one for doing that?
i said i would,
We take risks every second of every day, that doesn't mean we should sit in a padded room for the rest of our lives to minimise them.
There is a line - I totally agree with that. Some parents take it too far, definitely. I believe hitting a child in public violently is well off.
I think the way I was brought up was totally acceptable - if I did something really bad or naughty, I my dad got me to hold out my hand and he slapped it. That was enough to shock me into never doing it again. I HIGHLY doubt it ever crossed his mind that he would "put my eye out" or break my hand because that's just ridiculous.
no, you think you would. i see kids being slapped in super markets quite often, or in the park, surely you must have seen it happen by now?
not reacted to it?
if you saw some kid being smacked, your own messed up mind would cave in for a moment, you wouldnt react, you would freeze while your memories take over, you might even shed a tear.
hit someone? no. you wouldnt.
Speaking as someone with lots of experience here, all children are different and different situations demand different reactions. We have made efforts not to slap or smack our children but sometimes there are limits to your patience.
When you have been pushed to your absolute limit by a demanding child, having had little sleep and in difficult circumstances, your reactions are not the same as someone who is well rested and has placid, easygoing child. All our children are different and we wouldn't have it any other way, but there have been times when a smack was used as a last resort. We're obviously not proud of this, but it has happened and we have always talked about it with the kids afterwards and apologised.
When you have been pushed to your absolute limit by a demanding child, having had little sleep and in difficult circumstances, your reactions are not the same as someone who is well rested and has placid, easygoing child. All our children are different and we wouldn't have it any other way, but there have been times when a smack was used as a last resort. We're obviously not proud of this, but it has happened and we have always talked about it with the kids afterwards and apologised.
Although I think there is no harm in a slap now and then when nothing else seems to work I don't like the idea of a parent who hits their child because they have simply ran out of patience
Do you honestly think that the reason we have so many chavs etc is because parents are not slapping their kids? Do you think that it is much more likely it is because some parents just don't really know how to bring up kids or just don't care?
One of my ex neighbours was exactly the type of kid you are talking about and his problems werent the fact that he got hit but more the fact that his parents saw slapping him as the only thing they needed to do to be parents. The level of discipline isn't the thing that matters it is a consistant approach and setting of boundries. You don't need to slap a child to do that in most cases.
I know fully well its not just because they havent had a slap. hell, i have seen **** kids who have had more than enough smacks in their lives, they went the wrong way though. this was due to one thing... crap parenting.