Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Signed up for a Month on Match. Not really finding it that great for such an expensive service.

I've found a couple of women who seem fairly interesting and met one last night. It was one of the most difficult dates ever. From the start she sat there looking around the room and didn't start or contiune conversations. The odd thing is we've been talking for a week via email and she's a compeltely different person to her 'real life' persona. I should have trusted my gut and ended the date almost as soon as it started.

Have one more date at the weekend and hopefully another next week. If either of those don't go anywhere I'm binning the whole www dating as I'm getting tired of meeting people who are not as described.
 
^^ this is why internet dating is stupid

normally the first date is full of the small talk that all you guys are doing via the internet for weeks so when you do get face to face you have nothing to break the ice, leaving you nothing to talk about
 
gettothechopper said:
^^ this is why internet dating is stupid

normally the first date is full of the small talk that all you guys are doing via the internet for weeks so when you do get face to face you have nothing to break the ice, leaving you nothing to talk about
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While I understand where you're coming from I don't agree. Most of my dates via PoF were the opposite. I had at least a few days and several emails with most of them before the first date. Then on the first date we talked about things we'd discussed via email.

I just think she wasn't really that bothered for one reason or another.

I'm going back out into the real world. If online dating has given me one thing it's more confidence to talk to women. So with regular nights out and the 4 weddings I'm going to over the next 6 Months I'm optimistic :)
 
optimisum beats expensive dating websites tenfold good luck man!

im generalising im sure, but i have found that you can chat too much before you meet up, and therefore leave yourself nowhere to go
 
gettothechopper said:
optimisum beats expensive dating websites tenfold good luck man!

im generalising im sure, but i have found that you can chat too much before you meet up, and therefore leave yourself nowhere to go
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Cheers :)

Yes, that is true in some cases. However, I've found (generally) when the emails flow easily and are always detailed and well written, the first date is just a continuation of that.

I read somewhere, well before I got into the whole online thing that you 'should' only email a few times before the first date. Not so you don't run out of things to talk about but so you don't fall into the freind zone and become a pen-pal.
 
Done my fair share for a few years on and off and had plenty of interest from all sorts of girls.
There were mainly phyco's on there though and i had the misfortune of meeting most of them :( Then again there were some complete and utter stunners that i did'nt even think would even be interested in me, that i got the chance to meet :)
Worse case though was actually a really pretty girl, and she seemed perfectly nice and all that, until i made the mistake of giving her my number. She called me every single day (i did'nt answer in the end) and it was literally every 5 minutes even when i was at work! Was'nt long until she told me she had some kind of personality disorder and she told me that when she looked at herself in the mirror she would scream really loud and throw things at it.... Luckily i never did meet her though i nearly did.
Also i've had some proper nymphos on there who after speaking to for a short time ask me to view their webcam on MSN and then they start to get a bit frisky if you know what i mean and one thing leads to another...

Actually after all that i did meet my Ex on a dating site...we were together for nearly 2 years until we just recently split.

But yeah there a many nutters when it comes to online dating....the worse ones are the ones that have been members for years. You know something can't be right as soon as you find that ;)
 
Wants to see success in this thread instead of fail :/ Are all woman on the Interwebz fat and or ugly with no personality? Where's NickG when you need something doing around here ... :D
 
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Wants to see success in this thread instead of fail :/ Are all woman on the Interwebz fat and or ugly with no personality? Where's NickG when you need something doing around here ... :D
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I met mine on Smooch, we have been together almost a year and from the first date we just clicked, not to sound too cliche!.

Moved in together and are expected our first child in Aug, we are very happy and have our whole lives together ahead of us, good things can come of the www.dating world!.
 
Ok, so do I deserve a medal for being the only dumb ass on POF to be honest as to why I am no longer going to reply to what I can only describe as, 'a nice bit of fluff'.

Going by my last post in here, Im still kind of seeing her though it is plenty complicated and may well not go anywhere, but heck I am just going to enjoy what happens. Anyway, when I originally got a bit ansey about said previous issue, I got straigh back on POF and started hitting on a young lovely. Well we seemed to get on nicely, but then I thought maybe I was being a bit of an arse by using her as some sort of backup.

Anyway, I want a medal for explaining that I am not going to talk to her anymore.

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lol, thats got to be a first for that site, surely?

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God, I sound like some sort of internet doosh
 
i am going to completely redo my profile on the sites I'm on, keep it simple and get a new photo. Reading that a lot have met people from the usual sites amazes me, for example on match, been on for 4 months and I have only had two messages, both from one's I have sent out! Hmph!
 
I think he realised he was kind of using this new girl and his moral compass told him it was wrong so he nipped it in the bud.
 
No idea what is up with the title of this thread. However, I have been faffing around for the past few weeks on OKCupid, as I'm not meeting any decent girls when playing drinking games with the hockey boys (go figure!). Anyway, went on two "first dates" this week. First was with an attractive, albeit slightly odd Irish girl. Good fun though. Second was with a really, really nice girl. Good looking, fit and fun too. We'll be going out again, and she said her cheeks hurt from smiling so much during the date.

I admit I was extremely sceptical at first, but it does seem enjoyable.

And I'm out with a girl met in a club a couple of weeks ago tonight, so no all eggs in one basket!
 
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Question!

I am getting okay at getting some initial replies but I struggle to keep it going on. I end up just chatting like we are mates or summit and I reckon they get bored.

Do you do anything in particular to spark their further interest or do you just chat away generally?

I feel like my friend zone style is transferring in to my online world and it sucks. Who has got some tips?
 
So I sent a few messages off, chatting to 3 of them at the moment, but just a distinct feeling of "Meh" 2 of them are london based, so depending on where in london, it could be tricky, the other is apparently quite near, but not sure what to make, need to get more insight on them all :confused:
 
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