Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

MisChief · 1 Feb 2011 at 12:56

Orange Peel said:
I'm in a right pickle at the moment. I've been dating someone who's nice, pretty and has everything in the right place but I don't see it going the distance although I think she does.

Just dating, not a relationship right? Keep your options open, date all 3. Yes, this comment is coming from a girl :cool:

Ed · 1 Feb 2011 at 12:59

MisChief said:
Just dating, not a relationship right? Keep your options open, date all 3. Yes, this comment is coming from a girl

The problem is that is ambiguous. Someone is going to get hurt. At what point do you define, a "relationship"? It may not tally with the other person who's into you and hoping for more.

Basically orange man, play all three but expect to lose them all too. Unless, of course, you really think one has potential then you know what to do.

cm1179 · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:06

the trouble with dating all 3 is you will never get priority from the one you choose as you saw them as an option. if you're not 100% happy with your current gf then end it, it's only fair on her.

Prophet · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:14

MisChief said:
Just dating, not a relationship right? Keep your options open, date all 3. Yes, this comment is coming from a girl

Nope, just dating. I've seen her around 8 times for drinks/dinner and only started to get jiggy last week.

Ed said:
The problem is that is ambiguous. Someone is going to get hurt. At what point do you define, a "relationship"? It may not tally with the other person who's into you and hoping for more.

Basically orange man, play all three but expect to lose them all too. Unless, of course, you really think one has potential then you know what to do.

I agree with what you've said. However I don't really know the other two so I'd have to find out what they're like before I know which one, if any, is the right one.

cm1179 said:
the trouble with dating all 3 is you will never get priority from the one you choose as you saw them as an option. if you're not 100% happy with your current gf then end it, it's only fair on her.

I see what you're saying. It's the first time I've been in this situation so very new and unsure on what's what.

She's not my gf just someone I'm dating. There has been no talk about commitment, the future or any soppy talk.

MisChief · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:17

Ed said:
The problem is that is ambiguous. Someone is going to get hurt. At what point do you define, a "relationship"? It may not tally with the other person who's into you and hoping for more.

Basically orange man, play all three but expect to lose them all too. Unless, of course, you really think one has potential then you know what to do.

In a way I agree with you, but then again something like this is expected when you go on a dating site. Other girls keep their options open too, otherwise you will be spending a lot of time on dating sites trying to date one person at a time. If you want more than just dating, and actually want a relationship then all you have to do is ask.

I certainly wouldn't expect a guy to stop dating other girls just because he is dating me. Just like I wouldn't expect a guy to stop me from dating other guys when we're not even 'together' or in a relationship.

Prophet · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:19

MisChief said:
In a way I agree with you, but then again something like this is expected when you go on a dating site. Other girls keep their options open too, otherwise you will be spending a lot of time on dating sites trying to date one person at a time. If you want more than just dating, and actually want a relationship then all you have to do is ask.

I certainly wouldn't expect a guy to stop dating other girls just because he is dating me. Just like I wouldn't expect a guy to stop me from dating other guys when we're not even 'together' or in a relationship.

You sound perfect lol

I dated one woman who said on the first date "I'll be checking your profile daily to see if you're online" basically as that was an indication I was seeing other women. She didn't make it to date number 2.

FeFiDoh · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:29

I signed up to pof to look around and most of them all seem to have kids which is off putting.

Also agree about the average body thing ive seen some heffers put average and an interest being "gym" maybe thry mean looking at it?

Few nice looking ones on there though who have similar interests it just seems a bit odd messaging "hi" when really im messaging just because they are attractive.

MisChief · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:29

Orange Peel said:
You sound perfect lol

Perfect, but still single

Prophet · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:31

MisChief said:
Perfect, but still single

I know the feeling

Sp00n · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:31

You're only 24, the right one will turn up at some point

-Ad- · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:32

Orange Peel said:
I'm having an issue with my moral compass at the moment. While I've dated quite a lot in the past I've never really dated more than one person at the same time.

Where does it become wrong to do this. After it gets physical etc.

I wish I could turn this flaw in my personality off and just smash all of them lol.

Well you arn't in a relationship so your morals shouldn't really be comnig in here. I do get where you are coming from, but enjoy yourself and see what they are like. No poijnt in trying to choose now, you don't know enough yet!

Prophet · 1 Feb 2011 at 13:34

-Ad- said:
Well you arn't in a relationship so your morals shouldn't really be comnig in here. I do get where you are coming from, but enjoy yourself and see what they are like. No poijnt in trying to choose now, you don't know enough yet!

Up until 3 years ago when I became long term single I'd only ever had long term girlfriends and never cheated on any of them. So this whole seeing more than one woman at a time is really alien to me.

nicks3607 · 1 Feb 2011 at 14:08

R5Rich said:
Few nice looking ones on there though who have similar interests it just seems a bit odd messaging "hi" when really im messaging just because they are attractive.

You know that, they know that - if you're message is genuine, funny, compliemtary or whatever, and they're not nuts, then they'll appreciate it and take it as a compliment

SiD the Turtle · 1 Feb 2011 at 19:40

I've given up on Internet dating, bunch of time wasters and attention seekers. Going to try speed dating, should be... interesting.

Prophet · 1 Feb 2011 at 19:55

SiD the Turtle said:
I've given up on Internet dating, bunch of time wasters and attention seekers. Going to try speed dating, should be... interesting.

A friend went to a local speed dating meeting and said it was full of mingers. Pretty much like online dating but you can't turn your screen off to hide the horror lol.

Richdog · 1 Feb 2011 at 20:06

Orange Peel said:
A friend went to a local speed dating meeting and said it was full of mingers. Pretty much like online dating but you can't turn your screen off to hide the horror lol.

LOL.

Zirax · 1 Feb 2011 at 21:34

Meh, given up again. I'm glad I've not paid for match based on the experiences of others. Had quite a few chats where they never bothered putting any effort in. I am considering a introductions agency for professionals as I seem to be looking in the wrong area. However I can see them just lobbing you at anyone they have on their books :/

Morgoth · 1 Feb 2011 at 21:51

Aha, I just read a profile and at the end I realised that I used to work with them 4 years ago.

nero120 · 15 Feb 2011 at 13:46

Jesus the women on match are fussy! I must have sent about 15 emails and have not received one reply! I may be no Brad Pitt but I'd class myself as a fairly attractive guy, take care of myself, dress nice, etc - but it's pretty shocking that none have replied I think. Especially when some of the women I sen mails to are way below my standards!

Thought it would be easy to hook up with a girl online, turns out I was wrong!

Fireskull · 15 Feb 2011 at 13:53

90% are attention seekers the other 10% are mingers..