o dearIt's nice to hear some sucess stories on here
I have recently joined match (what a bad idea that was) and have sent out 21 emails so far with no replies. But I don't let that get me down! Oh no! I will strike it lucky soon enough. Things can only get better right?
Actually, I did get an email just recently. She has no picture and no description at all. She is south African and talking to her is rather difficult. She never really answers questions properly and she never asks them. Also she states in her profile that she is curvy... I think next step is to ask for a pic.
I like curvy girls but there is a difference between curvy and obese. We shall see.
She is also a tad younger than I. 22 to be exact and I am 26. Don't usually go for younger.
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Dude, if I get the pic, I will post it here.
It's ok, I know nothing will come out of this. I just want to see how she looks. She could be one of those rare stunners that think they are ugly and have no confidence at all. In which case, I am in
Was asked by a friend in London if i would talk with her French friend to help her learn English (since i studied French at school).
That was when i was 15, we talked occasionally and all sorts, but were never really that close.
Last summer we got really close and winter got even close since i was home all the time after an operation on my foot.
Decided to go see her in March 09', been together since. I go see her once a month or more when i can.
I am now 21. She is 18, but since we've known each other so long, the few years gap never ever crosses our minds.
Edit: She can now talk English really well... and this definitely shows in an argument, i almost hate how well she can argue!
That was when i was 15, we talked occasionally and all sorts, but were never really that close.
Last summer we got really close and winter got even close since i was home all the time after an operation on my foot.
Decided to go see her in March 09', been together since. I go see her once a month or more when i can.
I am now 21. She is 18, but since we've known each other so long, the few years gap never ever crosses our minds.
Edit: She can now talk English really well... and this definitely shows in an argument, i almost hate how well she can argue!
Currently on POF at the moment and so far its been a really mixed bag. All I seem to be getting is emails, which seem to have little to no thought put into them, saying Hi how r y from women that are clearly massively overweight, or trying to hide this with neck up shots, but you can see from the chin they’re packing a few extra pounds, or emails from women with kids or live 100’s of miles away. And some of the profiles, they read like they’ve got some real emotional baggage. Maybe on POF to gainer attention, I know women love attention…
I got one email from a girl that had 5 kids and had put down on her profile that her longest relationship has been less then a year. Oh dear..!! Guess each one of those kids were from different guys.. Maybe.??
Another girl I did meet up sounded nice, but was a classic case of hiding her true size. She was hugely overweight and I was glad when the date was over. Didn’t stop her text messaging an hour after the date, I responding with a polite thanks, but no thanks text.
Only yesterday I got an email from a girl, which to be fair had put a bit more thought into her opening email, and had clearly stated on her profile that she was a few pounds overweight, but going from the pictures – very big girl. Can’t understand why I’m attracting so many ‘larger’ girls. I’m, or I’ve been told very good looking, 6f 4” and I take very good care of myself and weigh 14stone, a lot of that is tone and not flab. Guess these ‘large’ girls want attractive good built guys as a sort of prize? don't get me wrong, curvy or a 'few' extra pounds isnt a problem, but these girls are borderline obese or are obese..!! I need to find attraction, and I do not find obese girls all that attractive.. Sorry. Makes me sound so shallow..!! Oh well.
Anyhow, from the emails I’ve sent out, not one response. It’d be so soul destroying if I just didn’t care anymore… My stance is, log in to POF each day, wait and see if some decent looking women eventually email me and just get on with my life..
I’m not that desperate for someone in my life, I accepted second best with my last relationship that lasted three years too long IMO. She was overweight, and it ended in tears..!!
POF has provided me with some good laughs though. Some of the profiles, they are just amazing. lol
I got one email from a girl that had 5 kids and had put down on her profile that her longest relationship has been less then a year. Oh dear..!! Guess each one of those kids were from different guys.. Maybe.??
Another girl I did meet up sounded nice, but was a classic case of hiding her true size. She was hugely overweight and I was glad when the date was over. Didn’t stop her text messaging an hour after the date, I responding with a polite thanks, but no thanks text.
Only yesterday I got an email from a girl, which to be fair had put a bit more thought into her opening email, and had clearly stated on her profile that she was a few pounds overweight, but going from the pictures – very big girl. Can’t understand why I’m attracting so many ‘larger’ girls. I’m, or I’ve been told very good looking, 6f 4” and I take very good care of myself and weigh 14stone, a lot of that is tone and not flab. Guess these ‘large’ girls want attractive good built guys as a sort of prize? don't get me wrong, curvy or a 'few' extra pounds isnt a problem, but these girls are borderline obese or are obese..!! I need to find attraction, and I do not find obese girls all that attractive.. Sorry. Makes me sound so shallow..!! Oh well.
Anyhow, from the emails I’ve sent out, not one response. It’d be so soul destroying if I just didn’t care anymore… My stance is, log in to POF each day, wait and see if some decent looking women eventually email me and just get on with my life..
I’m not that desperate for someone in my life, I accepted second best with my last relationship that lasted three years too long IMO. She was overweight, and it ended in tears..!!
POF has provided me with some good laughs though. Some of the profiles, they are just amazing. lol
Just put in your profile you're not looking for girls who are over-weight, it'll only offend the over-weight ones, and will make you look more decisive and picky to the others which is great.
I think a lot of the good looking girls are on these sites mainly for ego boosts. Imagine getting up every morning with a dozen emails asking about yourself.
What replies you do get, I agree most put little effort into. You write a 5 line witty question and in return you get 'lol yeah i know.' And no questions in return! I had 4 or so messages back and for with a girl and never once did she ask me a single question.
As a final rant, 'shopping' doesn't count as a hobby or interest! That is all.
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Stay away from pof in my opinion. I had this problem also. I think a lot of the girls on there are just on there to see what is about. They honestly don't know what they want half the time.
A couple of girl friends of mine go on there and they talk about it as if it's facebook. They find it hilarious at times and never talk seriously about it. Yet if you saw their profiles you would think they are genuine! Btw, they are in their early 30's so they should know better really. It's not nice to muck people about like that in my opinion.
If people say your very good looking and being tall is another thing girls seem to like then you should have no problems. Your just in the wrong place in my opinion.
Good luck.
Stay away from pof in my opinion. I had this problem also. I think a lot of the girls on there are just on there to see what is about. They honestly don't know what they want half the time.
A couple of girl friends of mine go on there and they talk about it as if it's facebook. They find it hilarious at times and never talk seriously about it. Yet if you saw their profiles you would think they are genuine! Btw, they are in their early 30's so they should know better really. It's not nice to muck people about like that in my opinion.
If people say your very good looking and being tall is another thing girls seem to like then you should have no problems. Your just in the wrong place in my opinion.
Good luck.
i have a good experiance with online dating.
many moooons ago..(when i was 17 now 23)
was on faceparty(before facebook)
got a message from this girl bla bla
arange to meet up one night took her for a drink. came back to mine did the deed. woke up next morning she was gone and i found my key and a bit of paper that had been posted back through the letter box.
"thanks"
thats what online dating is all about lol
many moooons ago..(when i was 17 now 23)
was on faceparty(before facebook)
got a message from this girl bla bla
arange to meet up one night took her for a drink. came back to mine did the deed. woke up next morning she was gone and i found my key and a bit of paper that had been posted back through the letter box.
"thanks"
thats what online dating is all about lol
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Pretty much decided that POF is largely (no pun intended lol seeing as all I’m attracting is ‘large’ girls) a waste of time, there does seem to be a lot of profiles but very little communication going on.
Honestly, three weeks ago got an email from a girl that was huge..!!!! All it said was ‘hi’. Plenty of thought put into that message so it seems, anyhow she really was very ugly looking IMO. Two days ago, same girl sends the same message, just said ‘hi’. lol She’d changed her picture mind, still hugely, erm no lets call this right. Still clinically obese, I know many say its all down to personality etc. I myself feel it’s a bit of both, you need to be physically attracted to them, and it’s a good start if you ask me. Anyhow, an opening email of ‘hi’ is hardly going to entice me if you’re a tad overweight. I mean the girl who emailed that had put thought into her opening email, and it was a nice email I will freely admit will go nowhere, simply because I didn’t see any attraction in her pictures. She was from what I could see very close to being obese. Shame, but why pursue something when you know the attraction isn’t there? Been there before, my ex was a girl that at times I didn’t really find attractive. The resentment towards the end was unbearable for us both.
My problem is, getting myself into the right place so as I can meet up with genuine girls. But yes, POF is a right mixed bag. Good luck to anyone who makes POF work.
Honestly, three weeks ago got an email from a girl that was huge..!!!! All it said was ‘hi’. Plenty of thought put into that message so it seems, anyhow she really was very ugly looking IMO. Two days ago, same girl sends the same message, just said ‘hi’. lol She’d changed her picture mind, still hugely, erm no lets call this right. Still clinically obese, I know many say its all down to personality etc. I myself feel it’s a bit of both, you need to be physically attracted to them, and it’s a good start if you ask me. Anyhow, an opening email of ‘hi’ is hardly going to entice me if you’re a tad overweight. I mean the girl who emailed that had put thought into her opening email, and it was a nice email I will freely admit will go nowhere, simply because I didn’t see any attraction in her pictures. She was from what I could see very close to being obese. Shame, but why pursue something when you know the attraction isn’t there? Been there before, my ex was a girl that at times I didn’t really find attractive. The resentment towards the end was unbearable for us both.
My problem is, getting myself into the right place so as I can meet up with genuine girls. But yes, POF is a right mixed bag. Good luck to anyone who makes POF work.
I'm 6'2" and always get told I'm good looking. Trust me. It doesn't matter what you look like.
I had the same problem other people are getting. Send out mails, get no reply. Yet you receive mails from some of the worst looking women on the planet. I had a message from one women, in her profile pic there were 6 kids with her. All her's. AND. I couldn't tell if it was a bloke or not. It needed a shave.
She got ignored.
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I think that's were I've been going wrong myself, The past 3 girls I've met on POF and ended up dating have been lovely people, slim as anything fat just doesn't do it for me, but I just didn't feel attracted to them as such.
The most recent was a lovely girl from argentina, slim, lovely figure great personality, pretty but I wasn't attracted to her and as such the chemistry just wasn't there.
Im 31. So time isn't on my side anymore
31??...31??!!!??....dude your a young pup lol...i met my fiancee early last yr and im 38 now...37 when i met her...your never too old to find love....geez look at Jack Nicholson whos now what 60 odd...still gets the women though
.Blimey i was i was 31 again...damn i would do things differently
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Kinda how I feel, sure I'm no brad pitt, but I ain't the hunchback of notre dame either. Im slim, keep reasonably fit, sociable etc yet it never seems to go anywhere when I meet someone.
Dude, if I get the pic, I will post it here.
It's ok, I know nothing will come out of this. I just want to see how she looks. She could be one of those rare stunners that think they are ugly and have no confidence at all. In which case, I am in
If you do get a pic the likelihood of it being fake will be high ! Even girls in the UK post fake photos as I have found out myself in person on one occasion.
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