Bullying - Who's in the wrong here?

Gangster · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:46

agree that he hasn't got anger issues. I think if it was just him and the kid he would've let him keep hitting him - the people watching and being recorded, I think, were the icing on the cake to make him react to it.

youtube removed?

Raymond Lin · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:46

I am no doctor but to me:

Anger issues is when someone accidentally knocked some books off your hand and then you start a fight with them.

Anger issue isn't when you get bullied and being hit a few times first against a wall and then you hit back once.

steve-h · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:46

What???

100% deserved it and I'm unsure of why anyone would think different.

Hequn · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:47

Clearly Casey's had an injection of #tigerblood

DanH84 · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:47

yes it's a natural and often useful response. It doesn't mean you have issues. It's an appropriate reaction. The thought that he should have pondered a more measured response while allowing himself to continue to be attacked is the more worrying one.

Brian8bit · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:47

james.miller said:
what he did was well over the top. That is done to anger, nothing else. seems people cant read.

No it wasn't over the top. He was well within his right to do whatever he had to do to prevent the threat to his person. He did so and then walked off. It would only have been excessive if he'd continued to attack the kid when he was on the ground.

ZG002 · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:47

I know when I snapped I had made my mind up that morning on the way to school (all those years ago lol) That I couldn't take any more. "It ends to day" type thing. I felt physically sick on the way to school and couldn't concentrate in lessons etc.

Bullying takes over your life if it's happening day in day out, Not sure how it is now. But back then you let someone know about it.. and they would just find you outside of school on your way home etc.

Detroit_Waves · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:49

james.miller said:
what he did was well over the top. That is done to anger, nothing else. seems people cant read.

No, Slamming him to the ground, seeing he is in pain...and then picking him up again and slamming him again, then stamping on his head, going to his knees and throwing some punches to his face, then getting up and kicking him a few times, and then attacking his friend filming the ordeal....that my friend...is over the top.

What he did was snap, he didnt want to be hit again, so he grabbed the kid, when the little brt tried to break free he grabbed him and threw him down....then he walked away. He didnt give his phone to a friend, asked him to film, as he picked him back up and started laying into him again.

I can read just fine, what he did was down to anger...that doesnt mean he has an anger problem.

DanH84 · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:49

Raymond Lin said:
I am no doctor but to me:

Anger issues is when someone accidentally knocked some books off your hand and then you start a fight with them.

Anger issue isn't when you get bullied and being hit a few times first against a wall and then you hit back once.

Yep.

An anger issue doesn't arise because 'if he didn't have issues he should have hit him this way instead.'

He could have absolutely destroyed that kid when he put him down but didn't go down that route.

james.miller · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:51

tibbsey said:
This is similar to that video where the chav is harassing a guy at this front door. Guy stands there and takes the abuse but when the chav starts getting violent and tearing up his garden, guy judo chops him into submission.

Would you say he had an anger problem also?

oh because thats so similar isnt it :rolleyes:

come on now just think about what you're saying. that guy in that video was the absolutely meaning of calm. he did not pick the other guy up and throw him through a window, or pile drive him in to the nearest car bonnet. he used necessary means to deal with that other guy.

HangTime · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:51

The thing is the guy was punching him in the face, he stood there and took it for a while, defending himself, the guy wouldn't give up so he put him down, once, and then walked away. He didn't stick the boot in while the guy was on the deck, he did one move to put his assailant on the floor, and then took himself away from the situation.

Well done, he handled it well. If he gets into serious hot water over it, he may as well have laid into him properly while he was on the deck.

tibbsey · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:52

It's a guy being harassed and then fighting back, so yes it's similar. The guy could have done more, but he didn't. He did enough to make the aggressor stop.

Mason- · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:52

james.miller said:
oh because thats so similar isnt it

If you can't see the similarity then you sir are blind.

Kid gets bullied stands there and takes it

Man getting harrassed stands there and takes it

Kid keeps getting taunted and snaps

Man keeps getting taunted and snaps

You don't see any similarities at all?

platinum87 · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:53

Not sure why this is all over the internet.

@ James.Miller

Fat kid kept his cool, after he threw the kid down, he did not stomp on his head, or continue hitting him until someone pulled him away.

james.miller · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:55

no, i dont. Like i said, the guy in that video was the very definition of calm and collected. he used necessary and appropriate force to deal with that other guy. The kid did not.

You should try to construct a post without insults. Seems you are unable to do so.

Nix · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:55

Robboftw said:
While I agree with more or less everything you've said, this 'stand and bang' rubbish is getting old now from some people on here (not you specifically).

It was a joke, poking fun at exactly that. I agree with you.

steve-h · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:56

james.miller said:
no, i dont. Like i said, the guy in that video was the very definition of calm and collected. he used necessary and appropriate force to deal with that other guy. The kid did not.

You should try to construct a post without insults. Seems you are unable to do so.

wheres my troll spray

Detroit_Waves · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:56

I think the little scrat is lucky as hell the bigger kid didnt have anger issues. Had he picked on someone who did, I can guarantee he would have got a much heavier beaten after the body slam, and most likely would have come out of it a LOT worse.

I think he should be counting his lucky stars.

Robbo · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:58

Nix said:
It was a joke, poking fun at exactly that. I agree with you.

Aha, then I applaud you Sir!

james.miller · 15 Mar 2011 at 00:58

steve-h said:
wheres my troll spray

lol, pathetic....

I think the little scrat is lucky as hell the bigger kid didnt have anger issues. Had he picked on someone who did, I can guarantee he would have got a much heavier beaten after the body slam, and most likely would have come out of it a LOT worse.

I think he should be counting his lucky stars.

somebody else who didnt read my post explaining ive been in the same situation. I only have my own experiance to draw from, but thats a lot more than some of you by the looks of it.