Well I've been on POF for a couple of months now without much luck. Was messaging one lass on there for a few weeks before she suddenly stopped replying to my messages. We had a few things in common (same area, both worked in a school, played squash) and sent her a message before the school easter holidays asking how she was and had any plans etc but never got a reply. Wasn't until I'd logged back into POF at the end of the easter break that I saw that since sending my last message she'd added a new photo and updated the title of her profile to say that she still hadn't found the right person yet. Fair enough she may not have been interested, but why string me along for weeks?
Does anyone believe that there are people that are "out of their league"? Found another lass on POF who I think is more attractive than the one I got the cold shoulder from, but I'm worried she might be too attractive for someone like me. I'm 50/50 whether I should at least give it a try in messaging her.
Don't have much luck in public either. Have asked a few people out before but have always got rejected. I've had the "My life's complicated at the moment", "I've got a boyfriend" (easy get out clause for when someone doesn't like you imo). I am shy so approaching those girls in public really took me out of my comfort zone and getting knocked back everything time really does effect your confidence
Work your confidence up to 200% and message her (the one that gave you the cold shoulder and the new hottie, simple message like "have I spoken to you before?"). Spite is a wonderful thing.
Remember it's only online, they aren't really knocking you back, they are rejecting whatever random image they get off reading your messages and profile.
Also, remember it is an insecurity if you think that because you haven't gotten anywhere in 6 months of putting your advert up...
P.s stop approaching the attention seekers, and stop falling into the friend zone.
