Well you are Chuck Norris.
Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!
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Well you are Chuck Norris.
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I'm new to this but after trying the old fashioned way to by asking a girl out it kinda put me off lol. i've tried this for a few months and got absolutely nowhere with it. had some interest prompted but thats it. genuinely what sort of guys so women go for on here and whats the noraml length of time for a reply to well, anything? lol
Honestly there is no set time or anything like that. It is all dependent on where you live, what site you sign up to, what type of girl you are after, and how excited you get them.
Location location location, no point in signing up to a dating site if there are like 4 girls from your area and you don't find any of them attractive.
The site you sign up to is important because girls and guys tend to recommend each other over where they saw the best/most attractive partners. So it's back to location again.
The type your after, no brainer isn't it? If your after a self professed drunk, then all you need to do is talk about drink.
Don't be generic in what you send, and definitely don't send them essay's as a first message.
If you hit it off, you can be sending and receiving plenty of messages in one night (best to log off and go and do something if you do not intend to ask to meet up straight away). And as mentioned plenty of times in this thread, don't exhaust all your opinions and hobbies, you want to save some of them for your dates.
Right so I need your opinions here.
I posted earlier that I went on a blind date and was getting mixed signals after seeing this girl a couple of times. Well that has pretty much continued. I have asked her out a few times and she has been busy and never arranges another time that might suit her.
So I let it be and started to forget about it. Then she sent me a message out of the blue telling me what she had been up to etc. But whenever I reply, it then feels like I have to push the conversation along and at times her replies are so minimal.
I saw the person that set us up and she said this girl thinks i'm really nice and is interested in me. But most responses from her make me think the opposite. Do girls like to be pursued? I am concerned about being a pest, but she hasn't told me to get lost or given me any sort of speech about being friends. I would normally have given up by now. But there is something about her!
I text her yesterday asking if she was around on monday to do something and I have still had no response even though there was a steady flow only a day before that. My head hurts
I posted earlier that I went on a blind date and was getting mixed signals after seeing this girl a couple of times. Well that has pretty much continued. I have asked her out a few times and she has been busy and never arranges another time that might suit her.
So I let it be and started to forget about it. Then she sent me a message out of the blue telling me what she had been up to etc. But whenever I reply, it then feels like I have to push the conversation along and at times her replies are so minimal.
I saw the person that set us up and she said this girl thinks i'm really nice and is interested in me. But most responses from her make me think the opposite. Do girls like to be pursued? I am concerned about being a pest, but she hasn't told me to get lost or given me any sort of speech about being friends. I would normally have given up by now. But there is something about her!
I text her yesterday asking if she was around on monday to do something and I have still had no response even though there was a steady flow only a day before that. My head hurts
@milgo,
Just been through that myself mate, she fell for me, i then fell for her and it all got pretty intense fast, and like you, was setup by her best mate.
It struck me that it was no fun anymore once she got me to fall for her and it just sort of...faded out, i txt her now and again to see how she is, but its definitely over in that sense.
I'm pretty cut up by it, and it cost me a promotion too because my head was all over the place.
As her mate said to me, "If you really meant anything, she'd be coming to you too"
Win some, Lose Some, I know its not what you want to hear, wasnt what i wanted to hear either mate. I'd have her back in an instant despite how she's hurt me, and at the same time, talking to 3 girls online that i dont really want to see yet incase i'm just not over her enough to think of someone else... a bit like im just rebounding from one to another...
Now my head hurts too
Just been through that myself mate, she fell for me, i then fell for her and it all got pretty intense fast, and like you, was setup by her best mate.
It struck me that it was no fun anymore once she got me to fall for her and it just sort of...faded out, i txt her now and again to see how she is, but its definitely over in that sense.
I'm pretty cut up by it, and it cost me a promotion too because my head was all over the place.
As her mate said to me, "If you really meant anything, she'd be coming to you too"
Win some, Lose Some, I know its not what you want to hear, wasnt what i wanted to hear either mate. I'd have her back in an instant despite how she's hurt me, and at the same time, talking to 3 girls online that i dont really want to see yet incase i'm just not over her enough to think of someone else... a bit like im just rebounding from one to another...
Now my head hurts too
Yeah I think you might be right robz21. I always feel both parties should be putting in a similar amount of effort from the start if they are interested. I can handle being rejected (although obviously not nice), but this hanging around not knowing is what I hate. If she is just straight up with me then I can get on and deal with it.
TBH though it sounds like you are in deeper than me. I don't think everyone is cut out for juggling and dating multiple people in a short space of time so I wouldn't feel you have to. I enjoy investing a bit in one person and just seeing where it goes.
TBH though it sounds like you are in deeper than me. I don't think everyone is cut out for juggling and dating multiple people in a short space of time so I wouldn't feel you have to. I enjoy investing a bit in one person and just seeing where it goes.
Aye, I think like i said, it all got too intense too fast, and working opposite hours to each other, didnt see each other for 5 weeks, cant maintain a healthy relationship over txt/phone that long. But for some reason, i feel like i'm cheating/betraying her by talking to other girls now, even though i never actually told her how i truely felt...
Part of me wonders if i should still just tell her exactly how i still feel, and then if i get a yes...decide if i really want to be with her, and if its a no, then i can definitely get on with my life. The fact it became so "distant" suggests a NO anyway, but without being clear with her...i feel like its all grey, not black and white.
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Part of me wonders if i should still just tell her exactly how i still feel, and then if i get a yes...decide if i really want to be with her, and if its a no, then i can definitely get on with my life. The fact it became so "distant" suggests a NO anyway, but without being clear with her...i feel like its all grey, not black and white.
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Exactly the same and I've been on it for years. Only people to message are oldies or biggies.
Had a few friends round me have great success so keep pluggin away, you never know.
Aye, I think like i said, it all got too intense too fast, and working opposite hours to each other, didnt see each other for 5 weeks, cant maintain a healthy relationship over txt/phone that long. But for some reason, i feel like i'm cheating/betraying her by talking to other girls now, even though i never actually told her how i truely felt...
Part of me wonders if i should still just tell her exactly how i still feel, and then if i get a yes...decide if i really want to be with her, and if its a no, then i can definitely get on with my life. The fact it became so "distant" suggests a NO anyway, but without being clear with her...i feel like its all grey, not black and white.
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Go for it. If you feel that strongly it is going to hang over you for far longer. I would tell her how you feel in a being honest non creepy way
Go for it. If you feel that strongly it is going to hang over you for far longer. I would tell her how you feel in a being honest non creepy way
Maybe, Maybe... Will have to give it a while now. Maybe in a week or so.
POF has just turned into a game between me and my mate.
Either he adds them to Facebook and I'm already friends or vica versa!
Its when you add them and notice some other mates are also friends in common
That sounds like an invitation!
So I have cancelled my accounts after 3 dates. Kind of made me realize I am not ready for anything yet and need to spend some more time on my own. Got some contacts for some fun when I am back again in Leeds though out of it.
Was a strange experience, they never appear like their profile and are usually totally different to what you expect from what I found. They probably feel the same!
Was a strange experience, they never appear like their profile and are usually totally different to what you expect from what I found. They probably feel the same!
NSFW: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/fifecouple09
I'm just loving all the girls that get put under similar users to a couple looking for a third cog.
I'm just loving all the girls that get put under similar users to a couple looking for a third cog.
She is an ex for a reason, don't forget that.
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The skinny ones can do better.
Just went on my 3rd Date, I made no mistakes, took her bowling then for a drink, I spent more than I anticipated so next it'll be a movie and pizza or something cheap, maybe a picnic near mine.
but It's going better than I expected
but It's going better than I expected
Well I've been on POF for a couple of months now without much luck. Was messaging one lass on there for a few weeks before she suddenly stopped replying to my messages. We had a few things in common (same area, both worked in a school, played squash) and sent her a message before the school easter holidays asking how she was and had any plans etc but never got a reply. Wasn't until I'd logged back into POF at the end of the easter break that I saw that since sending my last message she'd added a new photo and updated the title of her profile to say that she still hadn't found the right person yet. Fair enough she may not have been interested, but why string me along for weeks?
Does anyone believe that there are people that are "out of their league"? Found another lass on POF who I think is more attractive than the one I got the cold shoulder from, but I'm worried she might be too attractive for someone like me. I'm 50/50 whether I should at least give it a try in messaging her.
Don't have much luck in public either. Have asked a few people out before but have always got rejected. I've had the "My life's complicated at the moment", "I've got a boyfriend" (easy get out clause for when someone doesn't like you imo). I am shy so approaching those girls in public really took me out of my comfort zone and getting knocked back everything time really does effect your confidence
Does anyone believe that there are people that are "out of their league"? Found another lass on POF who I think is more attractive than the one I got the cold shoulder from, but I'm worried she might be too attractive for someone like me. I'm 50/50 whether I should at least give it a try in messaging her.
Don't have much luck in public either. Have asked a few people out before but have always got rejected. I've had the "My life's complicated at the moment", "I've got a boyfriend" (easy get out clause for when someone doesn't like you imo). I am shy so approaching those girls in public really took me out of my comfort zone and getting knocked back everything time really does effect your confidence
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