Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

[Sinny]

I think I have the worst luck ever on POF! It's crazy how many messages I've sent..I think about 30 without A SINGLE reply!..and that's pretty much all the girls that seem nice/interesting within 5/10 mile radius, so I think I'll have to give up on POF for now, pretty damn depressing..do only good looking guys get replies or something? I would love to know why I'm not getting any reply from any girl..I know I'm quite ugly but I'm a nice guy if that counts for anything these days..

It can seem depressing mate, I've sent around the same amount of messages as you, I got 4-5 replies that seemed only really to be replying out of kindness.

Yet I somehow managed 2 dates from okcupid, first one I didn't see any attraction yet the second one we're on for a 3rd date tommorow, but now I've actually found someone I like I've started to keep my appearances up, wear aftershave, new clothes and I've started to notice more girls flirting.

If you're having no luck online get out there and give some lucky gal a ticket to the gun show!

edit - Don't think of yourself as ugly mate, it does you no favours, I used to be really shy and think of myself that way until I started to think about how I come across to girls, gave myself a good slap in the face and started to do things to gain my confidence.

 

[Brumboy]

It can seem depressing mate, I've sent around the same amount of messages as you, I got 4-5 replies that seemed only really to be replying out of kindness.

Yet I somehow managed 2 dates from okcupid, first one I didn't see any attraction yet the second one we're on for a 3rd date tommorow, but now I've actually found someone I like I've started to keep my appearances up, wear aftershave, new clothes and I've started to notice more girls flirting.

If you're having no luck online get out there and give some lucky gal a ticket to the gun show!

Nice, I hope things go well for you mate! Funny thing is when I'm at the pub/clubs or generally out with my friends or on my own I'm perfectly confident talking to girls and I'm a decent flirt! I have more luck in real life than these dating sites. These online dating sites are very "first appearance counts" kind of thing, aka you need to be somewhat decent looking to get any interest from girls (well from what I've found). Whereas in real life the way you come across to girls and if you can act confident and funny counts for more than anything, looks don't matter as much as online dating.

 

[Sinny]

Nice, I hope things go well for you mate! Funny thing is when I'm at the pub/clubs or generally out with my friends or on my own I'm perfectly confident talking to girls and I'm a decent flirt! I have more luck in real life than these dating sites. These online dating sites are very "first appearance counts" kind of thing, aka you need to be somewhat decent looking to get any interest from girls (well from what I've found). Whereas in real life the way you come across to girls and if you can act confident and funny counts for more than anything, looks don't matter as much as online dating.

Aye, I see what you're saying. I'm terrible at flirting and often miss opportunities to put a nice comment in out of nerves. Sometimes it can be the quality of the photo or the way it's presented.

Often have a decent mugshot and maybe one or two of yourself out enjoying yourself, I've often been told girls like to see men they like having a life of their own and enjoying themselves.

 

[knip]

Some of the weirdos i've had recently

One, first message sent me his phone number

Another told me I was gorgouse (sp)

And another said I was sexy and did I want to have a good time


Needless to say all of the above have been ignored

 

[Scarfacé]

When I first put my profile on, I was getting a lot more profile views/meet me requests/messages than I am now...

Is that normal? I'm getting hardly any girls even viewing my profile now.

 

[Metalface Mark]

I know, I know. I've been told many times. I know it's too early therefore I'm not taking this serious at all. I 'dated' someone for a short while and been on 4 other dates that went nowhere. I made sure of that.

It's been intensely challenging carving out a life for myself the past 5 months as a singleton. You know, my whole identity was J, Mr Dependant, Mr Future-Sorted-Out., Mr Cruising Along Getting Lucky. After she moved out I sat staring at walls for weeks, numb. Not sad, just .. numb. Not knowing where to begin again. And you know, still not easy. I think I've done well though. Got lots keeping me busy and I'm enjoying it, not going through the motions to stay busy, but actually enjoying it.

And yes, the dating thing. You're right, maybe I'm being unfair to the girls that wander into my traps. But my intention is only to enjoy the pleasure of their company and hopefully gain new friends. But right now I don't *really* care if I meet someone or not. I'll make half-ass efforts if the mood suits me, but other than that, I'm happy to hit the gym, work or hang with mates.

I know all too well, i the same but for 17 years when i broke up nearly two years ago and I made the same mistakes! I still ended up dating too soon and really hurt a girl which i still feel awful about as she was lovely and could have been special if i had met her about 6 months later than i did.

 

[Gzero]

When I first put my profile on, I was getting a lot more profile views/meet me requests/messages than I am now...

Is that normal? I'm getting hardly any girls even viewing my profile now.

Could be that the more cautious girls are viewing your profile without you knowing, yes there's an option for that!

 

[Redman]

When I first put my profile on, I was getting a lot more profile views/meet me requests/messages than I am now...

Is that normal? I'm getting hardly any girls even viewing my profile now.

Change your main picture for a bit, or put some entirely new ones up. That usually helps

 

[Neil79]

http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=27839572
http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=26359985

Same woman
Same Hairband
Same Top
Same tattoo under her right arm
Different Age
Different Location
Different Height
Different Profile

 

[Gzero]

http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=27839572
http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=26359985

Same woman
Same Hairband
Same Top
Same tattoo under her right arm
Different Age
Different Location
Different Height
Different Profile

Pretty obvious which is the fake:

http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=27839572
I love tattoo's and currently have 3, I'm hoping to have 6 in total by the end of next month, if not it'll deffinitely be 5. I also have a love of piercings and currently have my lobes, cartilage, navel, nose and tragus pierced and am hoping to add scaffold, helix (double), tongue and lip to my list before the end of the year and then maybe some microdermals and lobe stretching (only litle ones though).

One goes into more detail than the other.

Further reading into it, one is a copy of the other.

 

[theNude]

So, yesterday I met up with a girl again. The first time was just a quick visit to the cinema, not even a date as i think she wanted to check me out first of all.

I took her to London and we had a whale of a time, we were together from 9.30 am to 2am! She messaged me today to see what I am doing on the weekend too!

The funny thing is i am seeing a girl on Saturday that i met on pof, we are just friends now though and on Sunday i am meeting a new one for a picnic.

I am cancelling my POF account as i just dont have time to talk to all the girls and its taking too much time out of my day. If these ones dont work out, i'll be back!

 

[Gzero]

Set account to hidden so you don't have to bother re-upping photos/doing profile?

 

[mcast]

somewhat related, the founder of pof makes over $100,000 a month from that site.

 

[Richdog]

I am cancelling my POF account as i just dont have time to talk to all the girls and its taking too much time out of my day.

L.O.L.

 

[Big Chris]

How do you get rid of the usernames of people that have messaged you that appear above your Inbox on PoF?

 

[Prophet]

How do you get rid of the usernames of people that have messaged you that appear above your Inbox on PoF?

I think that's who's online?

Not sure you can remove them.

 

[Big Chris]

Yeah it's a list of who's online out of the people that have messaged you, just wondered if you could get rid of it.

 

[Surfer]

What kind of age where the people there?

all sorts men from 26 - 40. women were younger about 25 - 36. A lot of the guys looked as if they couldnt be bothered. (t-shirts and jeans?)

Poor selection of ladies. Forced myself to pick 2 and weirdly enough 1 of them picked me...she was the first one i spoke to... what happens now?

 

[Prophet]

all sorts men from 26 - 40. women were younger about 25 - 36. A lot of the guys looked as if they couldnt be bothered. (t-shirts and jeans?)

Poor selection of ladies. Forced myself to pick 2 and weirdly enough 1 of them picked me...she was the first one i spoke to... what happens now?

I guess you contact her or wait to see if she contacts you?

 

[Surfer]

I guess you contact her or wait to see if she contacts you?

contacted her via msg. No reply yet....tho i just said "how are you etc - we should get to know each other more blah blah" Should i have been more direct and just said "want to go out??"