Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

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Well 3 of the guys I originally spoke with from the beginning have now just randomly stopped talking. Ah well, I don't care because I'm getting on extremely well with the cute one :D

I didn't intend to put all my eggs in one basket but if the others couldn't be bothered to get back to me and arrange a date then they're clearly not worth it. As said above, if someone really wants to meet you, they will.
 
Had a talk with a mate earlier and he basically said I should text her back and see if we can work something out rather than giving up.

Text her, had a small talk and we both told each other we liked one another, so I asked her if their is some way we can meet at halfway or something and asked her to think about it.

So Who knows at the moment, Atleast I've got rid of the feeling "what could've been" and hopefully she will want to carry on but take it more slowly and meet at somewhere in the middle, atleast until I get a car/van at somepoint.

I don't even mind helping her with her fair if it means we can meet.

we both know we're mega shy, but I'm definitely going to work on it and try and be a bit more risky and spontaneous

/rant
 
Sinny said:
Had a talk with a mate earlier and he basically said I should text her back and see if we can work something out rather than giving up.

Text her, had a small talk and we both told each other we liked one another, so I asked her if their is some way we can meet at halfway or something and asked her to think about it.

So Who knows at the moment, Atleast I've got rid of the feeling "what could've been" and hopefully she will want to carry on but take it more slowly and meet at somewhere in the middle, atleast until I get a car/van at somepoint.

I don't even mind helping her with her fair if it means we can meet.

we both know we're mega shy, but I'm definitely going to work on it and try and be a bit more risky and spontaneous

/rant
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Regrets rather than remorse but don't get into paying her way at this stage.
 
Oh crap, 2 of the ones i've been chatting to now want to meet. Sounds stupid but i'm scared. Its literally years since I went on a proper date. :eek:

Im now kind of avoiding replying to them because of it. Someone slap me!
 
Richdog said:
always trust your instincts and make the first move, no matter how scared or nervous you feel. Women DO want you to man up and tell them that you like them, and if I had a tenner for every nice (and some verrry nice) girl i've lost my chance with due to being too much of a pussyarse to just tell her how I felt, then i'd probably be a wealthy man. Suck it up, sqaush that feeling of panic, and as calmly as possible look into her eyes (very important, don't look away), tell the girl you like her and that she is one of the most beautiful things you've ever seen (not necessarily in those words, you figure it out). At the very worst, she will be flattered and politely refuse... but normally if you are saying that to a girl then your instincts are telling you that she likes you, and the end result is a win.
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Very good advice. I generally have communication difficulties anyway but after having quite a frank discussion with a lady friend that i had liked - turns out that every one of my Jedi instincts regarding her was 100% correct...

dont do POF people - speed dating is where its at. Got 2 speed dating things lined up. The last one i got a surprising dating match with a v.good looking lady so i sent her a msg but nothing back at all...i suspect she clicked match with a few of the guys. Still though there was a lot of guys (and few women) there so to get a couple of matches aint that bad.


secretspy said:
if the guy really wants to meet you, he will
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fixed ;) Maybe i'm being sexist but i would say its rare for women to "man" up and make the first move... entrenched traditional stereotypes are hard to break ehh.
 
Surfer said:
dont do POF people - speed dating is where its at. Got 2 speed dating things lined up. The last one i got a surprising dating match with a v.good looking lady so i sent her a msg but nothing back at all...i suspect she clicked match with a few of the guys. Still though there was a lot of guys (and few women) there so to get a couple of matches aint that bad.
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So, speed dating is where it's at but one lady didn't reply and you've got 2 speed dating lined up.. Ok so how is that where it's at?, have you met anyone and are now dating to the point of a possible relationship? NO. Well funny that sounds like POF to me just more visible. Also you said yourself there were a lot of guys but few women, yeh good luck with that :(
 
Neil79 said:
So, speed dating is where it's at but one lady didn't reply and you've got 2 speed dating lined up.. Ok so how is that where it's at?, have you met anyone and are now dating to the point of a possible relationship? NO. Well funny that sounds like POF to me just more visible. Also you said yourself there were a lot of guys but few women, yeh good luck with that :(
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I meant that you actually meet them in person straight away. As opposed to virtual "meeting" them. Just my preference though :) Obviously i'm not arrogant enough to think that what i say should apply to everyone..online dating works for some and some it doesnt.

Next speed dating event is free because they admitted there wasnt enough women at the last one (which is unusual because usually they sell out women first).
 
knip said:
Oh crap, 2 of the ones i've been chatting to now want to meet. Sounds stupid but i'm scared. Its literally years since I went on a proper date. :eek:

Im now kind of avoiding replying to them because of it. Someone slap me!
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I never realy think of the first meet with someone you meet on the net as a date. It's more just to see whether it's worth having a date or not. Think of it like just randomly meeting someone in a bar or club and chatting for a while, that might make you be less of a wuss ;)
 
Redman said:
I never realy think of the first meet with someone you meet on the net as a date. It's more just to see whether it's worth having a date or not. Think of it like just randomly meeting someone in a bar or club and chatting for a while, that might make you be less of a wuss ;)
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I asked if one of them was on facebook so we could carry on chatting on there. He gave me his name, and I added him and he accepted. Looked just now (was going to say hi) and he's removed me already :confused:

Never mind, men are weird though, didn't like what he saw I guess.
 
knip said:
I asked if one of them was on facebook so we could carry on chatting on there. He gave me his name, and I added him and he accepted. Looked just now (was going to say hi) and he's removed me already :confused:

Never mind, men are weird though, didn't like what he saw I guess.
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If he's that fickle you're better of without even meeting him. Call it a lucky escape :)
 
knip said:
I asked if one of them was on facebook so we could carry on chatting on there. He gave me his name, and I added him and he accepted. Looked just now (was going to say hi) and he's removed me already :confused:

Never mind, men are weird though, didn't like what he saw I guess.
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I had a woman do that to me then around 2 weeks later send me a "Oh I don't know what happened there" message. Typical case of someone she thought was better came along who actually wasn't.

As Redman says treat it as a lucky escape.
 
BrightonBelle said:
That's fine, but what I mean is that... the more that there are the more you have to put up with and you have to think to yourself... do you really want that?

My point being: if someone really wants to see you they will. End of.

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That's my view.

And i'm willing to do that because hell, i've driven round most of the country for bits for cars and motorbikes so at least this has more potential lol.

shame every women i seem to have an interest in doesn't seem like that. I'm one of these guys who likes to meet up becuse i come across poorly in anything but person. I am by my own admittance quite abrupt and picky. :(

being too honest can be a pain and people say they appreciate honesty but they don't lol.... i need to learn to lie... :rolleyes:

ah well.... kinda given up on it for now lol..
 
helpimcrap said:
being too honest can be a pain and people say they appreciate honesty but they don't lol.... i need to learn to lie... :rolleyes:
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Almost everyone puts down what they're looking for and what they want in a person but it rarely holds much substance. Women want an honest, caring and funny man so they come across as open and heartfelt but actually all they want is someone good looking. Guys are no better I imagine.
 
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