Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

Narj · 31 May 2011 at 22:09

Mat said:
Almost everyone puts down what they're looking for and what they want in a person but it rarely holds much substance. Women want an honest, caring and funny man so they come across as open and heartfelt but actually all they want is someone good looking. Guys are no better I imagine.

I've had a female friend on my case for a while now who is blatantly too good for me but is quite persistent. I'm slowly coming around to the idea now, but I still don't understand why she hasn't just sodded off with someone else already. I should be kicked to the kerb etc etc... I still think I'm crap at relationships and I don't want to ruin a great friendship.

Can't win.

Neil79 · 31 May 2011 at 22:12

ScarySquirrel said:
How can girls think makeup like this looks good?

http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=26333039

hahaha, looks like someone just slapped on a face on blank slate

Narj · 31 May 2011 at 22:13

Neil79 said:
hahaha, looks like someone just slapped on a face on blank slate

Looks like someone catapulted a Mr potato Head kit at her face. She'd probably be much prettier without all the slap.

Morgoth · 31 May 2011 at 22:19

She has quite a gummy smile.

ScarySquirrel · 31 May 2011 at 22:27

So earlier on I actually had some success, temporarily. I looked at a girl's profile whilst bored on the train, then I get an email saying 'xxxxx wants to meet you', and it was her. So I messaged her, she messaged back, I messaged her, she messaged back, I messaged her, then nothing.

I am gutted. She was attractive, had nice.....boobs, and generally seemed quite nice. WHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?

wnb · 31 May 2011 at 22:32

ScarySquirrel said:
How can girls think makeup like this looks good?

http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=26333039

Lol she looks like Aunt Sally.

Narj · 31 May 2011 at 22:34

ScarySquirrel said:
I am gutted. She was attractive, had nice.....boobs, and generally seemed quite nice. WHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?

Did you tell her you were going to Stand and Bang?

Raymond Lin · 31 May 2011 at 22:38

PianoBasher said:
I've had a female friend on my case for a while now who is blatantly too good for me but is quite persistent. I'm slowly coming around to the idea now, but I still don't understand why she hasn't just sodded off with someone else already. I should be kicked to the kerb etc etc... I still think I'm crap at relationships and I don't want to ruin a great friendship. Can't win.

Why do you think she is too good for you?

Gzero · 31 May 2011 at 22:38

ScarySquirrel said:
So earlier on I actually had some success, temporarily. I looked at a girl's profile whilst bored on the train, then I get an email saying 'xxxxx wants to meet you', and it was her. So I messaged her, she messaged back, I messaged her, she messaged back, I messaged her, then nothing.

I am gutted. She was attractive, had nice.....boobs, and generally seemed quite nice. WHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?

Women are strange creatures don't you agree?

Narj · 31 May 2011 at 22:39

Raymond Lin said:
Why do you think she is too good for you?

I'm in a good job, but she earns much more than me, is several more times more talented than I am at piano... can only lead to frustration, I think!

or am I just over-analysing...?

knip · 31 May 2011 at 22:40

ScarySquirrel said:
So earlier on I actually had some success, temporarily. I looked at a girl's profile whilst bored on the train, then I get an email saying 'xxxxx wants to meet you', and it was her. So I messaged her, she messaged back, I messaged her, she messaged back, I messaged her, then nothing.

Maybe shes away from her computer? People do have to step away from them sometimes?

Redman · 31 May 2011 at 22:42

PianoBasher said:
I'm in a good job, but she earns much more than me, is several more times more talented than I am at piano... can only lead to frustration, I think!

or am I just over-analysing...?

Give it a go mate, nothing to lose. Except if you hang about much longer you'll likely lose the opportunity, and who knows, this could be the one

Raymond Lin · 31 May 2011 at 22:43

PianoBasher said:
or am I just over-analysing...?

Yes.

Narj · 31 May 2011 at 22:47

Redman said:
Give it a go mate, nothing to lose. Except if you hang about much longer you'll likely lose the opportunity, and who knows, this could be the one

I met someone amazing last year but she went off backpacking. We're still exchanging emails now and, presuming she doesn't meet someone else in the next few months, will be spending a bit of time pursuing common interests together when she returns. That makes the situation I mentioned above a potential gut-wrencher when she gets back.

Aaaargh! I don't want to get with someone as an "interim measure" or safety net. Bleh. Methinks this will be another of those situations where I can't win at all.

Maybe I'll pursue Raymond if he wears those stillettos again.

Raymond Lin · 31 May 2011 at 22:50

PianoBasher said:
I met someone amazing last year but she went off backpacking. We're still exchanging emails now and, presuming she doesn't meet someone else in the next few months, will be spending a bit of time pursuing common interests together when she returns. That makes the situation I mentioned above a potential gut-wrencher when she gets back. Aaaargh! I don't want to get with someone as an "interim measure" or safety net. Bleh. Methinks this will be another of those situations where I can't win at all.

This is where "nice guys finish last".

The bad boy would not have do what you are doing and not plan ahead, what will happen will happen as they say. Think more now.

But i am guilty of what you are doing now! So I can't talk lol

Redman · 31 May 2011 at 22:57

PianoBasher said:
I don't want to get with someone as an "interim measure" or safety net. Bleh. Methinks this will be another of those situations where I can't win at all.

But you can win. And it's not a safety net or anything else, just a few dates to see what happens. If it doesn't go well you've got your backpacker to look forward to, if it does then you have a good relationship.

With regards to the piano player you think is out of your league. She's not, no-one is. Most of us are the harshest judge of ourselves and our abilities, let her opinion mean something to you, if she's that good she must be a decent judge of character yes?

Narj · 1 Jun 2011 at 10:41

Raymond Lin said:
But i am guilty of what you are doing now! So I can't talk lol

Hah - I fail massively. I extrapolate way into the future in my head, sussing out possible scenarios which is probably a bit stupid. It's why I won't bother getting involved with someone that wants kids because I see the ultimatum several years down the line and it not ending well.

TBH I have so much going on at the moment that I think I'll mention how I don't have time to scratch my bum, let alone get involved in a relationship. Things won't be back to normal until August or September so it's probably a bad idea right now.

Rexxar · 1 Jun 2011 at 11:15

First date suggestions please ? Pros And cons would be appreciated...

Not 100% over the last chick yet, but this new lass should help that...i hope, my mind's going to be in a right ****ing mess if i end up with the new one and aint over the last >.<

Narj · 1 Jun 2011 at 11:44

robz21 said:
First date suggestions please ? Pros And cons would be appreciated...

Not 100% over the last chick yet, but this new lass should help that...i hope, my mind's going to be in a right ****ing mess if i end up with the new one and aint over the last >.<

If it were me I'd do something unusual like Airkix then go for something to eat/drink after, plenty to talk/laugh about then...

Prophet · 1 Jun 2011 at 11:49

I'm going real world 'fishing' at the weekend. Visiting my cousin who's moving to Australia soon. He currently lives in the Netherlands so I'm visiting this weekend for his leaving party. Should be interesting as he's the only one who know's me so potentially lots of fishes to be had.