Internet Dating.....Who Has Done it?!

ScarySquirrel · 5 Jun 2011 at 20:56

Just looked, and she hasn't even looked at my profile!! Yeah, I don't think this is going anywhere. My God, I seriously give up!

Dup · 5 Jun 2011 at 20:58

ScarySquirrel said:
Just looked, and she hasn't even looked at my profile!! Yeah, I don't think this is going anywhere. My God, I seriously give up!

You can set POF so you don't show up on the "Who's looked at you" page

ScarySquirrel · 5 Jun 2011 at 20:58

Erm... What brings you to this site? Bit of boring question sorry! x

It says why I am on the site on my profile :rolleyes:

First part of her profile:

Don't really like writing things like this, do men even bother reading them? I'm guessing not! Anywhoo, here it goes...

Dup said:
You can set POF so you don't show up on the "Who's looked at you" page

Ah, I didn't know that.

AJRimmer · 5 Jun 2011 at 21:00

If its POF, It is possible she did, there is a setting to browse more anonymously.

Edit: I'm too slow hehe

ScarySquirrel · 5 Jun 2011 at 21:10

What's the 'accepted' next step after a few messages back and forth? Do you dive straight in with a 'Are you on Facebook?' type thing, or what? I've only ever gotten this far once before and then the girl never replied again, as you can tell I'm crap at this. It's much easier meeting people in person!!!

Jambo · 5 Jun 2011 at 21:37

ScarySquirrel said:
What's the 'accepted' next step after a few messages back and forth? Do you dive straight in with a 'Are you on Facebook?' type thing, or what? I've only ever gotten this far once before and then the girl never replied again, as you can tell I'm crap at this. It's much easier meeting people in person!!!

That's a tough one to be honest. I think the best options are Facebook/MSN/Mobile Number but it sounds like it's too soon for Facebook or Mobile if the chat hasn't been that in depth. MSN could be a nightmare as well if she has poor chat. Generally I would give up on a girl like that or you could try and keep email chat going for a while and see if she opens up a bit.

ScarySquirrel · 5 Jun 2011 at 21:49

Ok cool, I'll see if the messages get any better (they have already, but not sure for how long) and go from there

DiscoDave · 5 Jun 2011 at 21:54

Speed dating later on this month.

Should be interesting...

Fuzz · 5 Jun 2011 at 21:56

Make a date and find out!
If she stalls on that idea as well then move on I say

ScarySquirrel · 5 Jun 2011 at 21:57

The chat just got a bit better, she said she is quite shy, that's maybe why. She's opening up a bit now though (not literally), so that's good

Still, I'd rather be with my ex!

knip · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:13

If you'd rather be with your ex/haven't got over her yet, why are you dipping your toes back in the water, and possibly leading them on?

Behemoth · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:16

I've just sent sent messages to at least 8 ladies this evening, and will send out another load in a few days time. One of my female colleagues at work has been somewhat helpful.

Hate · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:19

ScarySquirrel said:
Still, I'd rather be with my ex!

100% my issue :s

Munkyman · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:24

I agree with knip. If you both still want to be with your ex then it's probably not the best thing to be looking for another relationship.

Jambo · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:35

Munkyman said:
I agree with knip. If you both still want to be with your ex then it's probably not the best thing to be looking for another relationship.

I don't.

There is no better medicine.

knip · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:41

Jambo said:
I don't.

There is no better medicine.

Nobody wants to be someone's "way to get over an ex".

Jambo · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:43

knip said:
Nobody wants to be someone's "way to get over an ex".

Typical female view on it.

ScarySquirrel · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:47

My profile 'Intent' is 'wants to date but nothing serious.'. So hopefully I'm not leading people on. I genuinely would like to meet someone else though.

Fuzz · 5 Jun 2011 at 22:50

Jambo said:
Typical female view on it.

Typical male ignorance of it.

Sinny · 5 Jun 2011 at 23:04

I've probably asked this before but here is my dilema,

I got told Monday that she didn't think it wasnt going to work due to the distance, however we talked the next day and told her I liked her and basically said I don't want to rush you so have a think about it.

The other reason is becasue I'm shy, but I really like her so I can definitely improve.

She hasn't tries messaging/phoning me yet so I'm thinking I should phone her and ask if she's given much decision, or should I take it as a sign?

Don't think I can take not knowing much longer as its making me nervous.

Cheers